I have a sugar daddy. AMA

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He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement,

He's not married. Neither are you. What's taboo about it? You're basically a really expensive girlfriend. I frankly don't see the point of it from his end, unless he's physically repulsive or super-short and thus unable to get dates normally.

He’s very handsome, but over the dating “scene,” especially as the women he meets all want to get married, like, immediately. He makes a lot of money and wanted to help out.

Err... What? He can't find another discrete woman? I understand this sugar baby relationship is fairly common. He couldn't find someone else to provide a GFE on demand?

Still think OP is a troll or has no idea what's happening.

Sugardaddy here with other friends who do the same. Time is more important than money to all my friends who get into this. One of my friends pays a $1-2k monthly allowance, which has zero impact on his financial situation. More important to him is someone who has time to meet him when he has time, and is not going to cause any drama. I know he's dropped SBs when they developed feelings for him - it's not what he's looking for.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

+1. Why don’t you and your friends just meet women out in the real world? Seems like it would be less expensive and less work.

I don’t understand the SB thing, it seems like such a waste of money. If you are rich enough to afford one, you’re rich enough to attract a few women at a bar.

If you can be a sugardaddy, then money is not the issue. It's time. Go to some random bar, hope to meet a woman who meets your taste, is eligible, ready to go home that night, etc? There's a reason people use Tinder now instead of going to bars. This just takes it to another level.

Tinder makes it even more ridiculous to have a sugar baby. Mention your salary in your profile, and as long as you don’t look completely disgusting, you’ll have your pick of women. You can even have a different one every night of the week.

With Tinder there is no guarantee of sex. Or no drama. Even with Tinder it’s hard for most men to get laid. It really is. Why do you think they go to such efforts and talk about it so much? It’s absolutely way more effort for a man to communicate with numerous women on Tinder, send messages back and forth, make plans to meet up, and then convince her to go back with you to your place. There’s a high chance that something will go wrong.

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What does your diseased vagina smell like?

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Anonymous wrote:What does your diseased vagina smell like?

Sounds like OP is with one sugardaddy and that's it, so probably a lot less diseased than "regular" women sleeping with a new Tinder date every night.

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Anonymous wrote:Do you like anal? Bbbj? Cim? Do you rim him? Anyone other nasty or risky behavior besides being a skank wh0re?

We have terrific sex. You shouldn’t call yourself a skank whore though - be kind to yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

I don’t think it’s low self esteem. I think it’s having given up. OP has likely had such bad experiences with men that this setup seems like a better option. What she doesn’t realize is that she will get hurt. She is also wasting time that should be spent looking for a mate who will want something serious with her.

OP - start going out with guys who aren’t the typical Tinder guy who splits the bill and expects sex right away. Or don’t have sex. Raise your standards. There is nothing wrong with what you want (not splitting the check, not rushing into sex) and you can find that if you look in the right places. You can also find someone who makes a lot of money or eventually will and wants to provide for you. Really.

I’m not really interested in a LTR, neither is my SD (yet here we are, a year into this...) I like working and dislike dating. No interest in marriage or children.

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Anonymous wrote:Op, you literally are a ho

That's how it works.. you get thousands of dollars and we get to say since you sell sex, you are a prostitute...

But is this any worse than you’re typical desperate 27 year old who goes on Tinder dates and has sex with the hope the man will want something from her besides sex? Is one really worse? Both are examples of someone being used. Except in the tinder situation only the woman is being used. In this arrangement both are being used. Arguably this is a better deal for OP.

BUT - OP needs to stop the Tinder BS and meet normal men. They are out there. They just aren’t the frat bros or whatever type of man is cool on Tinder.

OP here. I no longer date anyone else. I get laid when I see SD and am busy the rest of the time.

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He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement,

He's not married. Neither are you. What's taboo about it? You're basically a really expensive girlfriend. I frankly don't see the point of it from his end, unless he's physically repulsive or super-short and thus unable to get dates normally.

He’s very handsome, but over the dating “scene,” especially as the women he meets all want to get married, like, immediately. He makes a lot of money and wanted to help out.

Err... What? He can't find another discrete woman? I understand this sugar baby relationship is fairly common. He couldn't find someone else to provide a GFE on demand?

Still think OP is a troll or has no idea what's happening.

This might surprise you, but he actually likes me. We have fun together, sexually and otherwise.

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Anonymous wrote:What does your diseased vagina smell like?

What does your (actually probably) diseased vagina smell like?

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Anonymous wrote:What does your diseased vagina smell like?

Sounds like OP is with one sugardaddy and that's it, so probably a lot less diseased than "regular" women sleeping with a new Tinder date every night.

OP here. Yup, he’s the only guy I’ve slept with in the last 14 months. Dating is exhausting - lots of lame weirdos out there. I’m enjoying this relationship while it lasts.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

I don’t think it’s low self esteem. I think it’s having given up. OP has likely had such bad experiences with men that this setup seems like a better option. What she doesn’t realize is that she will get hurt. She is also wasting time that should be spent looking for a mate who will want something serious with her.

OP - start going out with guys who aren’t the typical Tinder guy who splits the bill and expects sex right away. Or don’t have sex. Raise your standards. There is nothing wrong with what you want (not splitting the check, not rushing into sex) and you can find that if you look in the right places. You can also find someone who makes a lot of money or eventually will and wants to provide for you. Really.

She's a bit of a dimwit if she thinks her only two options are tinder and prostitute. Maybe giving up is the right choice for her....it also reduces the risk of her genes being passed on to another generation.

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I had one too, but he's now my baby daddy. We had a good run though.

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Anonymous wrote:For those saying that she is too old to be a sugar baby, exactly what is the cut off age?

I wasn't aware that there was a time limit or required age difference to this. In fact, I don't believe that there is. Anyone can be a sugar baby, regardless of age. That said, I do understand that we generally only hear about younger women and old men engaging in this.

It depends on his age. Sugar daddy over 50 is probably fine with 32.

NP. Yes, plenty of 32 y.o.s with sugar daddies if they're particularly pretty. An average looking woman would have a hard time finding a decent one even at 22 unless she provides tons of extras.

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Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

You can rationalize your choices all you want but you clearly have low self-esteem.

I don’t think it’s low self esteem. I think it’s having given up. OP has likely had such bad experiences with men that this setup seems like a better option. What she doesn’t realize is that she will get hurt. She is also wasting time that should be spent looking for a mate who will want something serious with her.

OP - start going out with guys who aren’t the typical Tinder guy who splits the bill and expects sex right away. Or don’t have sex. Raise your standards. There is nothing wrong with what you want (not splitting the check, not rushing into sex) and you can find that if you look in the right places. You can also find someone who makes a lot of money or eventually will and wants to provide for you. Really.

She's a bit of a dimwit if she thinks her only two options are tinder and prostitute. Maybe giving up is the right choice for her....it also reduces the risk of her genes being passed on to another generation.

Giving up might be the best option for you. If OP can land a sugar daddy, she'll do fine when she goes back to dating.

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Anonymous wrote:What does your diseased vagina smell like?

Sounds like OP is with one sugardaddy and that's it, so probably a lot less diseased than "regular" women sleeping with a new Tinder date every night.

OP here. Yup, he’s the only guy I’ve slept with in the last 14 months. Dating is exhausting - lots of lame weirdos out there. I’m enjoying this relationship while it lasts.

When it’s over you’re going to be hurt badly. Ask me how I know.

Seriously stop this and find a normal guy who can have a relationship with you. A real one. Don’t settle for this.

Dating doesn’t need to be so exhausting. Go to a therapist and try to figure out why it’s been this way for you.