I have a sugar daddy. AMA

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How old were you when you lost your dignity?

Haha. I’ve known him for a decade and slept with him on and off over the years - he’s not a random guy. I’ll tell you this: it sure beats going out with some bearded dude I met on Tinder who expects to split the check and sleep together right away, only to ghost me after three weeks. It also beats the hell out of busting my ass to make money on top of going to grad school. It works for me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What impairment do you have that renders you unable to take care of yourself at 32?

Nothing at all. I enjoy having my bills paid for me. What impairment do you have that prevents you from doing the same?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What “extra” things do you do if you were already sleeping with him? Threesomes? An*l?

Nothing. The situation evolved naturally. We have always had great sex.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:how old are you both

I’m 32, he’s 41

Your ages aren’t that far apart.
You’re just too lazy to get a nice paying job

I’m finishing a graduate program - have a job lined up for when I graduate. Not sure if I will keep accepting the gifts or no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:For those saying that she is too old to be a sugar baby, exactly what is the cut off age?

I wasn't aware that there was a time limit or required age difference to this. In fact, I don't believe that there is. Anyone can be a sugar baby, regardless of age. That said, I do understand that we generally only hear about younger women and old men engaging in this.

I’m OP and of course I wouldn’t be a contender on one of those sugar baby/sugar daddy websites. This isn’t like that. He and I are friends, he’s introduced me to colleagues, we have mutual acquaintances, etc. A need arose and he provided He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement, I enjoy the money, we enjoy each other’s company. It’s great.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those saying that she is too old to be a sugar baby, exactly what is the cut off age?

I wasn't aware that there was a time limit or required age difference to this. In fact, I don't believe that there is. Anyone can be a sugar baby, regardless of age. That said, I do understand that we generally only hear about younger women and old men engaging in this.

I’m OP and of course I wouldn’t be a contender on one of those sugar baby/sugar daddy websites. This isn’t like that. He and I are friends, he’s introduced me to colleagues, we have mutual acquaintances, etc. A need arose and he provided He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement, I enjoy the money, we enjoy each other’s company. It’s great.

What do you think his total monthly outlay is?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:For those saying that she is too old to be a sugar baby, exactly what is the cut off age?

I wasn't aware that there was a time limit or required age difference to this. In fact, I don't believe that there is. Anyone can be a sugar baby, regardless of age. That said, I do understand that we generally only hear about younger women and old men engaging in this.

I’m OP and of course I wouldn’t be a contender on one of those sugar baby/sugar daddy websites. This isn’t like that. He and I are friends, he’s introduced me to colleagues, we have mutual acquaintances, etc. A need arose and he provided He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement, I enjoy the money, we enjoy each other’s company. It’s great.

What do you think his total monthly outlay is?

5k, not including when we get together

[Anonymous]

He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement,

He's not married. Neither are you. What's taboo about it? You're basically a really expensive girlfriend. I frankly don't see the point of it from his end, unless he's physically repulsive or super-short and thus unable to get dates normally.

[Anonymous]

Pathetic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

good god man, are you that lonely? get a dog.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

good god man, are you that lonely? get a dog.

Apparently that’s exactly what he did.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a sugar daddy. Did you find him on the website for that sort of thing?

Monthly arrangement? How much?

How does he provide the money? I've always found that was the uncomfortable bit.

I’m much more interested in an AMA with you!

Can you elaborate how you provide support to the girls you date?
How old are you? How old are they? Are you exclusive or DADT?
How do you arrange the money? Do you pay their rent directly?
Are you married?

So many questions!

In my circle of friends who are entrepreneurs (all in 40s and 50s), I'd say about half are into "sugaring." Some of them have someone local and long-term, like one friend who pays for his SB's (sugarbaby's) apartment and I imagine they go out to dinner and shopping. Her apartment is near his office, not by coincidence. It's easy to come up with excuses to be working late I guess.

I do PPM (pay per meet) where you pay each time you meet. (Feel free to call it prostitution, I don't care.) In my case, I only meet SBs when I'm traveling, so there is no opportunity to set up anything long-term anyway and that's because I don't do any of this where I live. We usually meet up for a drink and see if there's a click and continue on or not. I don't mind if we don't continue -- my libido has gone down as I age anyway, and I just enjoy meeting new people. I'll pay just for meeting me (they usually don't expect it at that stage; and then more if we continue).

One thing I'm super-careful about is as an SD (sugardaddy) you can be a target for extortion. They know you have money, and typically a high-profile job, so why not threaten to reveal all that unless you pay up? For that reason, I have my profile set up so that it doesn't appear in searches and no random SBs can contact me. Instead, only those I contact can even see it. Then, I use photos that I've already checked on Google Image Search that it isn't able to link to me, and usually the photos have my face partially obscured. Normally the people who fall prey to this are cases where the scammer contacts them first, and if you have your marital status (married, of course!) listed in your profile. I even use a throwaway email, and fake name and address on the website when paying, so that if they ever had a data breach, I'm not at risk. After that affair site (I'll avoid writing the name so no one gets ads for it) hack that exposed all the names/emails of customers to the world, I'm not taking any risks like that. I also pay for the subscription using a prepaid credit card.

This all seems so unnecessarily complicated.

+1. Why don’t you and your friends just meet women out in the real world? Seems like it would be less expensive and less work.

I don’t understand the SB thing, it seems like such a waste of money. If you are rich enough to afford one, you’re rich enough to attract a few women at a bar.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

He enjoys the kind of taboo nature of the arrangement,

He's not married. Neither are you. What's taboo about it? You're basically a really expensive girlfriend. I frankly don't see the point of it from his end, unless he's physically repulsive or super-short and thus unable to get dates normally.

He’s very handsome, but over the dating “scene,” especially as the women he meets all want to get married, like, immediately. He makes a lot of money and wanted to help out.

[Anonymous]

Sugar Daddy, what you are engaging in is prostitution. I find it interesting that you say you “don’t care” if we call it that, but you go to such great lengths to characterize it as something it’s not. You sound lonely and sad.