DH told me he’s unhappy in the marriage

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry op

I was worried about my own marriage ending quickly

Part of it was the embarrassment of wasting the time / money for the wedding.. but I wonder if this one can be salvaged.. my guess is no

For what it's worth, we struggled a lot in year 1 and are still going strong with a kid in the mix now too

We haven’t struggled at all so that’s part of the reason why his confession about his feelings were such a shock.

If you haven’t struggled, OP, and this announcement after “happy hour” felt out of the blue, then he’s likely having an affair, even if it’s only emotional so far. What an a$$.

Is your kid bonded with him (and his kids)?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm sorry op

I was worried about my own marriage ending quickly

Part of it was the embarrassment of wasting the time / money for the wedding.. but I wonder if this one can be salvaged.. my guess is no

For what it's worth, we struggled a lot in year 1 and are still going strong with a kid in the mix now too

We haven’t struggled at all so that’s part of the reason why his confession about his feelings were such a shock.

If you haven’t struggled, OP, and this announcement after “happy hour” felt out of the blue, then he’s likely having an affair, even if it’s only emotional so far. What an a$$.

Is your kid bonded with him (and his kids)?

Or maybe it’s a mid-life thing and he’s just not wanting to deal with the often humdrum day-to-day reality of a marriage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He said he’s felt this way for months, but didn’t know how to tell me. It took him having a few drinks at happy hour to build up the courage. He said it’s not me, it’s him (classic) and that he doesn’t know where we should go from here. We’ve only been married for a little over a year so I would like to work through this and try to get things back on track. I’m open to counseling, but I’m not sure it will be enough. Any other suggestions?

He's unhappy with himself, it IS him, not you. It always is. You are fine. But ask for specifics, ask him if he is in love with somebody else. And then divorce his ass as quick as you can and find somebody else.

[Anonymous]

If after a year, this is how he feels....

Well this doesn’t bode well for any future together.

Time to cut your losses & ties.

So sorry OP. ;(