How terrible will it be to be away from my 1 year old daughter at Christmas? I am regretting things

[Anonymous]

If my spouse was ok with me being away for Christmas I would be seriously worried. You do you but I see red flags all over the damn place here.

[Anonymous]

I wish I could send dh with the in-laws and I’d get to spend Christmas with my parents and kids!

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could send dh with the in-laws and I’d get to spend Christmas with my parents and kids!

Seems like that is what is going to happen with us

I told her when she got home that I feel like I'm in kind of a lose-lose situation:

If I go without her, I'll miss her and our daughter and be unhappy that they didn't get to be a part of the big gathering

If she goes after I insist/pressure her, anything that goes wrong (cancelled flights, etc) will be my fault

She says that she feels the same way



So I guess I will just drop the issue and try to have fun without them

[Anonymous]

^^^Or if you stay home??? Or reduce the trip length???

[Anonymous]

I can't believe you are going. That is very odd. Who would want to leave their spouse and child at home on the biggest holiday of the year so they can go on an extended trip with great Aunt Bess and cousin Elroy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:How about just stay home? Sounds better in every way- or leave after christmas

This.

[Anonymous]

OP, a trip one month from now, when your baby is what, 7 months old, will be NO barometer for what a trip with a 13-month-old might be like. It totally depends on your child's temperament, but both of my boys were walking at 9-10 months, and were very unhappy to be restrained/unable to crawl around on the floor by 5 months (first) and 7 months (second).

Regarding being gone for Christmas, try to imagine Christmas was yesterday, and you weren't home with your little one. You later see pictures on social media, etc. Are you cool with it, or do you feel regret?

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Anonymous wrote:I can't believe you are going. That is very odd. Who would want to leave their spouse and child at home on the biggest holiday of the year so they can go on an extended trip with great Aunt Bess and cousin Elroy.

Obviously I have cooler aunts and cousins than you! Kidding, sorry of

People who don't have big fun families can't understand I guess

I'll also be there with my dad and brother

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Anonymous wrote:OP, a trip one month from now, when your baby is what, 7 months old, will be NO barometer for what a trip with a 13-month-old might be like. It totally depends on your child's temperament, but both of my boys were walking at 9-10 months, and were very unhappy to be restrained/unable to crawl around on the floor by 5 months (first) and 7 months (second).

Regarding being gone for Christmas, try to imagine Christmas was yesterday, and you weren't home with your little one. You later see pictures on social media, etc. Are you cool with it, or do you feel regret?

Yeah people explained that 13 months is not an easy travel age

We will just have to celebrate Christmas early

It's not my ideal plan to go alone but I couldn't miss it either

[Anonymous]

Stay home

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Anonymous wrote:Bring the baby and wife- it’s not that difficult to travel with just one baby.

Dp. Sounds like she would rather be with her family. Maybe she doesnt like bring around them that much. Traveling with a one year old does not sound like fun.

Just keep your plans. Wife actually sounds happy.

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Anonymous wrote:I wish I could send dh with the in-laws and I’d get to spend Christmas with my parents and kids!

Seems like that is what is going to happen with us

I told her when she got home that I feel like I'm in kind of a lose-lose situation:

If I go without her, I'll miss her and our daughter and be unhappy that they didn't get to be a part of the big gathering

If she goes after I insist/pressure her, anything that goes wrong (cancelled flights, etc) will be my fault

She says that she feels the same way



So I guess I will just drop the issue and try to have fun without them

You should cancel the trip and spend Christmas with your family. The fact that you can’t see this tells me your marriage is a goner. Your poor wife.

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Anonymous wrote:If my spouse was ok with me being away for Christmas I would be seriously worried. You do you but I see red flags all over the damn place here.

+1. I’d be more worried if my spouse were indifferent that I’d be gone for Christmas than if they were mad.

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Anonymous wrote:Take your wife and baby! I think you'll all regret not being together, particularly at a big family gathering where all will be keen to meet your daughter. We started traveling overseas when our DD was 1 and it's really not so bad.

+1

[Anonymous]

Why don’t you shorten the trip. How much time can you spend with family before people are getting g on one another’s nerves?