SAHMs: Stop complaining to me about how busy you are

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Anonymous wrote:I am a mom and I work. I find ANYONE who complains a lot about how busy they are to be incredibly annoying. I find it's usually a way for people to brag about "how much" they are doing to inflate their own sense of self importance. The SAHM's who are "so busy they don't have time to breathe" are the equivalent of office workers who have "so many important things to do" they are frantically running around, working late etc, trying to show how much harder they're working than everyone else. I don't think this is a contest between working moms and stay at home moms...this is more a question of annoying people versus non annoying people.

Same here. In this area especially, everyone says they are sooooo busy. It’s like a contest for who is busiest and it’s stupid.

SAHM of 3 here. I often say I’m tired and say I feel busy. I’m sorry if this bothers you.

DH is a surgeon and never says he is tired although he works long hours operating on people.

I think it is just small talk.

How are you?
I’m tired. My toddler is sick and hasn’t been sleeping well.

How are the kids?
We are so busy. I am dreading soccer and having to go to soccer 5x per week.

Really don’t think it is a competition of who is busier.

I’m a little annoyed just reading your response. Just cut out starting each answer with “I’m tired”/“We’re busy” and you’ll reduce your annoyability by half.

I think this is just standard, mindless small talk. Everyone claims to be going a mile a minute. Yet, here we all are spending time on DCUM.

I doesn't annoy me whether it's a SAHM, WOHM, whatever, it's just like talking about the weather.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wonderful that you can stay at home. Wonderful that you have that choice. I'm sure you keep yourself busy. But...I do everything you do, and work full time (including volunteering at the school by rationing time off). I respect you and your choice but DO NOT complain to me about how busy you are. Thank you.

I've been both a working mom and a stay at home mom....for me going to work is a vacation!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

I was like that when I first stopped working. Now I'm incredibly inefficient. I need to be busy.... and I'm not lately. I have no schedule.

I volunteered at the school when ds was younger. I always found something to do.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

Guess I could work on some lingering projects at work. Kudos to you SAHM of older kids for not getting bored. It would kill me. To each her own I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

NP. Oh please, come on. You've never kind of sat around and wondered what to do with yourself? It's a combination of boredom, lack of energy, lack of motivation. There's a ton of stuff one could do, but the motivation to do any of it isn't that strong. So you kind of wander through a day.

You've never felt that? Please.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

NP. Oh please, come on. You've never kind of sat around and wondered what to do with yourself? It's a combination of boredom, lack of energy, lack of motivation. There's a ton of stuff one could do, but the motivation to do any of it isn't that strong. So you kind of wander through a day.

You've never felt that? Please.

She didn’t say that she was unmotivated. She said there was nothing to do. That’s different.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged. [/

You sound like my 10 year old. Only boring people get bored.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Wonderful that you can stay at home. Wonderful that you have that choice. I'm sure you keep yourself busy. But...I do everything you do, and work full time (including volunteering at the school by rationing time off). I respect you and your choice but DO NOT complain to me about how busy you are. Thank you.

I've been both a working mom and a stay at home mom....for me going to work is a vacation!

Agreed, IF your kids are not school age yet.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Wonderful that you can stay at home. Wonderful that you have that choice. I'm sure you keep yourself busy. But...I do everything you do, and work full time (including volunteering at the school by rationing time off). I respect you and your choice but DO NOT complain to me about how busy you are. Thank you.

I've been both a working mom and a stay at home mom....for me going to work is a vacation!

Agreed, IF your kids are not school age yet.

True, true....I have two under 3....there is no rest at my house! lol

[Anonymous]

I have 3 school age kids. I'm recovering from years I had little ones at home.

I exercise, read, clean (all of it, decluttering, deep clean, laundry, etc), shop, take care of family errands, walk the dog, go to physical therapy 3x a week for scoliosis, volunteer at the school and community level, check in on aging parents, cook daily. I put some time into personal maintenance during the week, i.e. nails/hair, facials.

Earliest kid is done by 2 pm, so after that I drive a lot to and from after school activities, dinner, debrief the day with the kids, homework, etc.

Some days I'm very productive and some days I feel bored/unmotivated but I had those days when I WOHM too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

NP. Oh please, come on. You've never kind of sat around and wondered what to do with yourself? It's a combination of boredom, lack of energy, lack of motivation. There's a ton of stuff one could do, but the motivation to do any of it isn't that strong. So you kind of wander through a day.

You've never felt that? Please.

She didn’t say that she was unmotivated. She said there was nothing to do. That’s different.

Uh huh. She's a mom who also works outside the home. I'm sure there is literally nothing to do. No laundry, no meals to plan or prepare, no groceries to buy, no emails to send, no projects to move on. Uh huh. It's not that she's kinda bored and listless, it must be that she has nothing to do. That must be it. As a WOHM, I definitely "wait for my employer to tell me what to do." That's why I never unload the dishwasher, put gas in my car or buy fruit for the PTA hospitality event.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Honest question. What do stay at home moms of kids all over the age of 7 do during the day from 9:30-2:30?

Whatever I want!

I can never understand the people who want to claim the worst life. I guess you get a martyr prize, but living a nice life is much better.

LOL, I ask bc I am WFH today. DDs are at school and it's a very slow work day. I'm looking around, house is clean, dinner for tonight is prepared, and I'm sort of bored. I'm wondering what y'all do to keep engaged.

This is really sad. Can you really not figure out how to be productive and keep engaged without an employer telling you what to do?

NP. Oh please, come on. You've never kind of sat around and wondered what to do with yourself? It's a combination of boredom, lack of energy, lack of motivation. There's a ton of stuff one could do, but the motivation to do any of it isn't that strong. So you kind of wander through a day.

You've never felt that? Please.

She didn’t say that she was unmotivated. She said there was nothing to do. That’s different.

Uh huh. She's a mom who also works outside the home. I'm sure there is literally nothing to do. No laundry, no meals to plan or prepare, no groceries to buy, no emails to send, no projects to move on. Uh huh. It's not that she's kinda bored and listless, it must be that she has nothing to do. That must be it. As a WOHM, I definitely "wait for my employer to tell me what to do." That's why I never unload the dishwasher, put gas in my car or buy fruit for the PTA hospitality event.

That doesn't sound sad. It sounds awesome.

[Anonymous]

Oh look. Another whiny WOHM.

OP, you can't handle working and parenting then quit.