Grandparents, please stop undermining your kids' authority as parents

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I just don’t understand why does showing love = spoiling? I think grandparents who do this know full well what they are doing. My kids have 2 sets of local grandparents so we see them every 2 weeks or more. One set follows parental rules and double checks everything with parents regarding food, presents, schedule etc. yet they manage to show love by taking grandkids to the park, playing games etc. other set of grandparents relishes in breaking parental rules, having secrets behind parents back no matter how many conversations we have had on the subject. It is really maddening. Being a parent is hard enough so it is selfish and rude to undermine parents under the guise of clueless grandparental love.

Hear, hear!

Omg. Well, go and hire a grandparent then so that you can direct their behavior as you wish.

So when you are a grandparent, and the parents have an approach or rule that is different from what you would do, you’ll just ignore your child since you know better?

[Anonymous]

If you don't see the grandparents very often just chill out - they are not going to wreck the child. If you see them a lot then I would deal with it.