Why are so many women I'm meeting having mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

First men complain we are crazy.

We get help, get medicated, and then they still complain bc we might go crazy on them one day bc we sought treatment.

No win situation here.

we are all crazy bc of men like you... oh wait no, you are not significant enough to change our brain chemistry. , we are crazy bc of chemical imbalance, post partum depression (bc you know, we grow and nurture babies in our bodies), trauma, etc.

OP put in your dating profile you discriminate against those with a medical diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

Men typically have too much pride to admit that they suffer mental anguish & are less likely to seek professional help if they do.

Life is very stressful in these modern times, especially for women.
They typically work full-time, than come home to cook dinner + clean the house, do the laundry, care for their children if they have them.

Their free time is usually filled w/errands, shopping, meal planning, etc.

Plus the mental health stigmas that existed in previous years is slowly shrinking away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well so many women have been assaulted, harassed, raped and told they were liars and/or sluts and not to ruin the lives of the perpetrator so they instead internalize, medicate, seek therapy etc., it's a wonder anyone is sane.

Most men have been physically assualted, and usually far more violently than what women experience (aside from, perhaps outright rape). But men are expected to be able to handle it and play it down so as not to burden others. Granted, most of the physical abuse comes from other males, but that’s little consolation to an individual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men typically have too much pride to admit that they suffer mental anguish & are less likely to seek professional help if they do.

Life is very stressful in these modern times, especially for women.
They typically work full-time, than come home to cook dinner + clean the house, do the laundry, care for their children if they have them.

Their free time is usually filled w/errands, shopping, meal planning, etc.

Plus the mental health stigmas that existed in previous years is slowly shrinking away.

Do women have “too much pride” to report their sexual assaults?

It’s funny how with men, it becomes “too much pride” as opposed to social pressure on men to be stoic.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men typically have too much pride to admit that they suffer mental anguish & are less likely to seek professional help if they do.

Life is very stressful in these modern times, especially for women.
They typically work full-time, than come home to cook dinner + clean the house, do the laundry, care for their children if they have them.

Their free time is usually filled w/errands, shopping, meal planning, etc.

Plus the mental health stigmas that existed in previous years is slowly shrinking away.

Do women have “too much pride” to report their sexual assaults?

It’s funny how with men, it becomes “too much pride” as opposed to social pressure on men to be stoic.

No, women are terrified to report their sexual assaults bc they will be terrorized. You're An ass. And you’d probably assaulted someone but think what you did was normal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well so many women have been assaulted, harassed, raped and told they were liars and/or sluts and not to ruin the lives of the perpetrator so they instead internalize, medicate, seek therapy etc., it's a wonder anyone is sane.

Most men have been physically assualted, and usually far more violently than what women experience (aside from, perhaps outright rape). But men are expected to be able to handle it and play it down so as not to burden others. Granted, most of the physical abuse comes from other males, but that’s little consolation to an individual.

Women are also expected to handle it and play it down (pretend it didn’t happen?) In general ANY victim is an inconvenience.

This isn’t a competition for which sex gets assisted more (and worse) it’s sufficient today both have had horrific thing happen to them- sick.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s not just women. When I was single, I dated many men with depression, anxiety, addiction, or BPD. But they rarely told me about it right away, or at all- sometimes to hide it, sometimes because they didn’t recognize they had it. Which makes things very messy when I have to end things weeks/months/tears down the road.

The bigger issue was why I was attracting those types of people. Took me a lot of therapy to figure that out.

What did therapy reveal as the reason you were attracted to these men and vice versa? I’m experiencing the same thing as you and trying to understand how to break this pattern.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP I assume you're in the US? Because what you're describing is not the norm in other countries. I'm an expat in Asia so I know. Heaven forbid if someone at work starts talking about being anxious or depressed. It's life, just deal with it.

Asians just commit suicide and kill themselves when life gets tough.

No thanks, I’ll stick with the American way of therapy and maybe some meds and lifestyle changes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:31 year old woman here..

I grew up very anxious. At 25, I had as close to a breakdown as I ever want to get. I went to therapy for two years (every two weeks), turned down medication, but made an effort to change my lifestyle and thought process.

My anxiety helps me in a lot of ways - it pushes me to do better, but it’s a balancing act. If I am not taking care of myself, it can get the better of me.

I am not really sure how this is different than knowing you are a mean drunk (and therefore don’t drink), you have intolerances to certain foods, etc. Knowing just helps you make better choices and hopefully leads to a happier life.

If someone has an issue with me trying to better myself and seeking help, that’s on you.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I assume you're in the US? Because what you're describing is not the norm in other countries. I'm an expat in Asia so I know. Heaven forbid if someone at work starts talking about being anxious or depressed. It's life, just deal with it.

So maybe this thread should be titled "Why are so many American women crazy?"

Yet men commit more suicides and violent crime, and crime in general. And most homeless people on the street appear to be men.

No, us women are learning how to identify and deal with our issues, even if it requires meds. We are soldiers and hanging in there, unlike men. Men either pretend they don’t have a problem, they kill themselves, or they go crazy and end up hurting people.

More men should seek mental health treatment.

[Anonymous]

Due to the expectations placed upon them.

[Anonymous]

It’s all because of hormones. It’s not our fault.

Honestly, I do not think this is a new ‘trend’ of issues. I think it is a new trend of women being proactive and healthy in dealing with issues that women have always dealt with. Therapy is awesome— it’s just talking through your emotions with someone who is totally on your side.

Men totally have so many issues— do you not hear all the stories of domestic abuse and anger issues? It’s silly to think that just because men don’t seek therapy or medication that they just don’t have any issues. And, honestly, you have no idea if your friends are going to therapy or taking antidepressants.

Women are becoming more open about talking about their treatment because there is less of a stigma. That is a good thing. And honestly, if you are biased against it, it’s freat that you don’t continue a relationship with these women. Which is probably why they are telling you about it. They are screening you out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP I assume you're in the US? Because what you're describing is not the norm in other countries. I'm an expat in Asia so I know. Heaven forbid if someone at work starts talking about being anxious or depressed. It's life, just deal with it.

Asians just commit suicide and kill themselves when life gets tough.

No thanks, I’ll stick with the American way of therapy and maybe some meds and lifestyle changes.

As an Asian woman, I'm offended. But whatever. I have to say that as someone who grew up in Asia, the pressure cooker environment is much worse there and that contributes to an overall resilience. Here in the US, people pathologize being anxious about approaching deadlines and projects and I'm like, "It's normal people". So I think it's a matter of socialization. My 2 cents.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It’s all because of hormones. It’s not our fault.

Honestly, I do not think this is a new ‘trend’ of issues. I think it is a new trend of women being proactive and healthy in dealing with issues that women have always dealt with. Therapy is awesome— it’s just talking through your emotions with someone who is totally on your side.

Men totally have so many issues— do you not hear all the stories of domestic abuse and anger issues? It’s silly to think that just because men don’t seek therapy or medication that they just don’t have any issues. And, honestly, you have no idea if your friends are going to therapy or taking antidepressants.

Women are becoming more open about talking about their treatment because there is less of a stigma. That is a good thing. And honestly, if you are biased against it, it’s freat that you don’t continue a relationship with these women. Which is probably why they are telling you about it. They are screening you out.

OP again. I don't know...one date I know took some anti-anxiety meds in front of me before we went into the movie theater because apparently, she feels scared in dark places. Another one mentioned meeting her therapist before coming to our date. It's like they aren't hiding anything which is great.

[Anonymous]

I think a huge chunk of men are walking around with low level PTSD from the violence they've suffered at the hands of other men. They, in turn, perpetuate the cycle by committing violent acts against others.

Men are far and away the greatest perpetrators of and victims of violence in society. It needs to stop.