Why are so many women I'm meeting having mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of over sharing of medical information early on. I don't get it.

Agree

Yeah, wtf. Never happened on any of my DC dates, ppl disclosing their mental health problems — whether they had them or not!

[Anonymous]

"So most of the one without mental health issue have married by now or are in long term relationships. This is true with men and women at your age."

This. As a women in her 40s in the dating world, most of the single guys I meet seem to have issues, whether ADHD, mental health, or addiction. Probably fewer men acknowledge treat it vs. the women, but its there. Guys taking meds probably aren't telling you, OP, because they're not getting into bed with you needing to explain why they have to wait for their Viagra to kick in because their antidepressants require that they have to use it. (I'm serious - have had this happen more than once.)

In any event, OP, maybe if you were dating women with kids you'd find more of them more functional than the ones who haven't had them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Lots of over sharing of medical information early on. I don't get it.

Agree

Social media has created a culture of oversharing and it’s trickled into real life. I can’t tell you how many times I’ve met someone and they immediately start telling me about their addiction/sobriety, or their marital problems, or their poop. I just met you, I don’t need to know about your diarrhea.

I’ve never had anyone I recently met tell me about their poop. Not have I seen poop-related posts on the social media of people I know. Why are you attracting people comfortable with poop disclosures?

As for people struggling with substance abuse, I think the goal is to destigmatize being in recovery. I know a few people who started going to AA after realizing that getting help wasn’t going to destroy them socially or professionally (though continued drinking might). I also appreciate as a drinker knowing when I might want to skip alcohol to help support someone's Sobriety.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men just wander around thinking about work and what/where to eat next.

Women race around thinking about work, kids, sports, health, the house, the yard, the nanny, the days off school/vacations, gifts to buy, insurance, meal planning, family schedule planning, clothes that fit everyone, play dates, school deadlines and homework, etc.

It’s overwhelming and then to have a cluesless partner would put anyone in the loony house!

Don’t paint us all with that brush because your husband or ex was a total loser. I do ALL that and more.

So piss off.

[Anonymous]

Because A) America is a pretty unhappy society where community supports -- the most important source of psychological strength -- have been undermined, and B) there is a massive psychiatric / pharma industrial complex selling people on the idea that they have mental diseases and need to daily doses of powerful mind-altering drugs to "treat" these diseases. This continues even though psychiatry/pharma have been demonstrably unable to fix the problem -- people are taking more and more drugs but are more miserable than ever.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because A) America is a pretty unhappy society where community supports -- the most important source of psychological strength -- have been undermined, and B) there is a massive psychiatric / pharma industrial complex selling people on the idea that they have mental diseases and need to daily doses of powerful mind-altering drugs to "treat" these diseases. This continues even though psychiatry/pharma have been demonstrably unable to fix the problem -- people are taking more and more drugs but are more miserable than ever.

Depression is real, and more severe conditions are real. And meds have limited usefulness. If someone knew something that worked better, they should let us know. But meditation ain’t it by the way.

[Anonymous]

Why are so many men in the dating pool fat and overweight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Because A) America is a pretty unhappy society where community supports -- the most important source of psychological strength -- have been undermined, and B) there is a massive psychiatric / pharma industrial complex selling people on the idea that they have mental diseases and need to daily doses of powerful mind-altering drugs to "treat" these diseases. This continues even though psychiatry/pharma have been demonstrably unable to fix the problem -- people are taking more and more drugs but are more miserable than ever.

Depression is real, and more severe conditions are real. And meds have limited usefulness. If someone knew something that worked better, they should let us know. But meditation ain’t it by the way.

It's just Big Pharma. If you're not haha happy, you're clinically depressed. If you like to shake your legs, it's restless leg syndrome.

[Anonymous]

It's only fair to be upfront and honest about mental illness. It's a deal breaker for most people seeking a long term relationship.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Plainly put, many of these 30 & 40-something women fell for the childless, cool wine aunt meme. They don’t realize they’ve been sold a lie about the root of true happiness, therefore mis-diagnosing (as well as over-medicating) the source of their unhappiness.

Likewise, many single men past 35 suffer from lots of stress and anxiety when pondering the simple question of, “What’s wrong with me?”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's only fair to be upfront and honest about mental illness. It's a deal breaker for most people seeking a long term relationship.

Maybe for schizophrenia. Anxiety is nearly ubiquitous these days.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Plainly put, many of these 30 & 40-something women fell for the childless, cool wine aunt meme. They don’t realize they’ve been sold a lie about the root of true happiness, therefore mis-diagnosing (as well as over-medicating) the source of their unhappiness.

Likewise, many single men past 35 suffer from lots of stress and anxiety when pondering the simple question of, “What’s wrong with me?”

So what is the root of true happiness since you are so informed?

[Anonymous]

LOL at the OP for expecting a serious, useful response to his question.

Predictably, the DCUM response is:
1. Men are crazy too, so there!
2. If women are crazy, it's men's fault, so there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

+1000

LOL so single women have a tougher life vs men? Women live a sheltered life. They have never been drafted and shipped off to war.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Life is harder for women than for men. Work is harder because women are less respected. Women do more housework and child care. Women treat their partners on average better than men treat theirs. Women are more likely to be raped. Women have many more reasons to be depressed and anxious.

+1000

LOL so single women have a tougher life vs men? Women live a sheltered life. They have never been drafted and shipped off to war.

Most men alive today were never drafted and shipped off to war.

Of the ones who voluntarily go, most never even see combat and just hold supportive jobs.