Why are so many women I'm meeting having mental health issues?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how people today would have handled being conscripted and sent off to Vietnam or the Normandy Invasion. Or dealt with the famine and disease that was a mainstay of human existence up until 150 years ago. Or the far higher likelihood of death during childbirth. I don’t begrudge people for getting help, but it really does seem like so many women are in a perpetual state of being aggreived and broken and wounded.

Violent crime is way down from the 1990s. Unemployment is low. We are not being drafted to fight in wars (not that most DCUMers would have to worry about a draft). We have amazing technology. And yet women are more miserable and resentful than ever.

This! I'm a PhD student in my late 20s (female) and while it's stressful, I think about my late grandmother who had her schooling cut short by the Japanese invasion (she was born in Malaysia) and was forced into an arranged marriage at age 15 to a man twice her age just because that was the way to survive in the 1940s for women. She died illiterate, never travelled and had to endure giving birth to children she never wanted to have. And she never had a chance to build a career or pursue her interests. So I think if more young women like myself have more perspective, we would be less hoodwinked into thinking we need some kind of mental health diagnosis.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I wonder how people today would have handled being conscripted and sent off to Vietnam or the Normandy Invasion. Or dealt with the famine and disease that was a mainstay of human existence up until 150 years ago. Or the far higher likelihood of death during childbirth. I don’t begrudge people for getting help, but it really does seem like so many women are in a perpetual state of being aggreived and broken and wounded.

Violent crime is way down from the 1990s. Unemployment is low. We are not being drafted to fight in wars (not that most DCUMers would have to worry about a draft). We have amazing technology. And yet women are more miserable and resentful than ever.

This! I'm a PhD student in my late 20s (female) and while it's stressful, I think about my late grandmother who had her schooling cut short by the Japanese invasion (she was born in Malaysia) and was forced into an arranged marriage at age 15 to a man twice her age just because that was the way to survive in the 1940s for women. She died illiterate, never travelled and had to endure giving birth to children she never wanted to have. And she never had a chance to build a career or pursue her interests. So I think if more young women like myself have more perspective, we would be less hoodwinked into thinking we need some kind of mental health diagnosis.

Then let's fight child trafficking across our border.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I wonder how people today would have handled being conscripted and sent off to Vietnam or the Normandy Invasion. Or dealt with the famine and disease that was a mainstay of human existence up until 150 years ago. Or the far higher likelihood of death during childbirth. I don’t begrudge people for getting help, but it really does seem like so many women are in a perpetual state of being aggreived and broken and wounded.

Violent crime is way down from the 1990s. Unemployment is low. We are not being drafted to fight in wars (not that most DCUMers would have to worry about a draft). We have amazing technology. And yet women are more miserable and resentful than ever.

This! I'm a PhD student in my late 20s (female) and while it's stressful, I think about my late grandmother who had her schooling cut short by the Japanese invasion (she was born in Malaysia) and was forced into an arranged marriage at age 15 to a man twice her age just because that was the way to survive in the 1940s for women. She died illiterate, never travelled and had to endure giving birth to children she never wanted to have. And she never had a chance to build a career or pursue her interests. So I think if more young women like myself have more perspective, we would be less hoodwinked into thinking we need some kind of mental health diagnosis.

Then let's fight child trafficking across our border.

Bizarre response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Women are smart enough to get help.

Men just hide it.

Because society crucifies men who show any weakness.

I have noted how Alan Alda, Terry Crews, and Michael J Fox have been absolutely pilloried.

These are celebrities.

So society either crucifies men who show weakness, or makes celebrities of them? You really believe this?

You've been crucified by society, to the extent that you have, because you've been a jackass, sir. Not because you showed weakness.

[Anonymous]

It's the new thing to have a mental health issue. It makes the person special, or somehow, exceptional and also means you are expected to excuse her when she doesn't behave well towards you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Are you sure you're not nuts? Like attracts like and all

I do think its very odd to reveal such personal information about yourself on a casual date or at a first date. That said, I take anxiety medication stemming from a guy mugging and threatening to slit my throat. I'd hope if I were single and met someone to date down the line and eventually revealed this to him, he wouldn't mark me as crazy. But maybe its for the best to just let women know right off the bat you're not capable of empathy.

I do think men are less likely to admit to having ANY problem, so that might be why you don't run into guys speaking on their Prozac script.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Are you sure you're not nuts? Like attracts like and all

I do think its very odd to reveal such personal information about yourself on a casual date or at a first date. That said, I take anxiety medication stemming from a guy mugging and threatening to slit my throat. I'd hope if I were single and met someone to date down the line and eventually revealed this to him, he wouldn't mark me as crazy. But maybe its for the best to just let women know right off the bat you're not capable of empathy.

I do think men are less likely to admit to having ANY problem, so that might be why you don't run into guys speaking on their Prozac script.

Look single people over 40 are a self selecting group. I bet a large % have issues both men and women.

[Anonymous]

Yeah. For one reason or another, these are people who want to be paired up, have had over 20 years to do so, and are still out there looking.

Maybe someone unexpectedly died on them, but the other options are not so likely to lend themselves to charitable interpretations. And I say that as a divorced person in the late 40s. You either have your own baggage, or you left someone with baggage, which means you have baggage of some sort, too.

[Anonymous]

We live in a patriarchy, OP. Go f'ing figure.

[Anonymous]

Because all women have mental health issues.....at least on DCum?

[Anonymous]

I have seen what OP is talking about. I’m on a birth month group an dout of 80 women, at least 80-90% are on meds. I am not. It feels like I should be. I think parenting is very hard on the early years but don’t understand this meds thing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen what OP is talking about. I’m on a birth month group an dout of 80 women, at least 80-90% are on meds. I am not. It feels like I should be. I think parenting is very hard on the early years but don’t understand this meds thing.

It's the same parents who put their kids on ADHD meds because they feel it will give them an advantage.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have seen what OP is talking about. I’m on a birth month group an dout of 80 women, at least 80-90% are on meds. I am not. It feels like I should be. I think parenting is very hard on the early years but don’t understand this meds thing.

Oh PP, we can smell your horseshit from miles away. Try again, troll.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Are you sure you're not nuts? Like attracts like and all

I do think its very odd to reveal such personal information about yourself on a casual date or at a first date. That said, I take anxiety medication stemming from a guy mugging and threatening to slit my throat. I'd hope if I were single and met someone to date down the line and eventually revealed this to him, he wouldn't mark me as crazy. But maybe its for the best to just let women know right off the bat you're not capable of empathy.

I do think men are less likely to admit to having ANY problem, so that might be why you don't run into guys speaking on their Prozac script.

Does your anxiety medication actually help you? I understand feeling traumatized but how long will you need to be on these meds for? I am a woman too, in just you're wondering.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm a mid-40s guy who's been divorced for a year. I enjoy dating but not looking for anything serious. Most of the women I've met have just been casual dates but what stands out for me is that so many of them reveal that they're one of the three: bipolar, depressed, or anxious. And I mean clinically diagnosed and been prescribed meds and all that. These are women in their thirties and also forties. It's just so common it blows my mind. Needless to say, I haven't felt comfortable going forward with many of these women I've met. Just too much for me to process. I have plenty of guy friends who also mention that their wives or girlfriends are seeking therapy or taking meds to cope with some mental health diagnosis. But no guy I know has ever mentioned being depressed or anxious. I'm not saying these conditions don't ever affect men, but it just seems so common among women. Any ideas why? I'd like to meet someone eventually who won't go crazy on me.

Are you sure you're not nuts? Like attracts like and all

I do think its very odd to reveal such personal information about yourself on a casual date or at a first date. That said, I take anxiety medication stemming from a guy mugging and threatening to slit my throat. I'd hope if I were single and met someone to date down the line and eventually revealed this to him, he wouldn't mark me as crazy. But maybe its for the best to just let women know right off the bat you're not capable of empathy.

I do think men are less likely to admit to having ANY problem, so that might be why you don't run into guys speaking on their Prozac script.

Does your anxiety medication actually help you? I understand feeling traumatized but how long will you need to be on these meds for? I am a woman too, in just you're wondering.

It does help. I was having problems with basic daily functioning in terms of being alone and now I don’t. I’m on a super low dose once daily now as I hope to eventually not need them. And frankly your question reads like you probably don’t understand trauma. If I could magically go back to not feeling this way I would have.