DH not pulling his weight

[Anonymous]

I’m sure he was already like this before kid #2...just sayin’

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Do you want a daughter who thinks it’s ok to settle for her husband not helping? Do you want a son who expects his wife to take care of everything?

Exaggeration doesn't help --- typical DCUM. Take a problem and exaggerate it for impact

Huh?

How is this exaggeration? Children learn by example. Most people have to work really hard to change ingrained habits from childhood.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Men need to rest more than women. When have longer lives by a good amount and it's not fair. Men can feel housework after work killing them more quickly than women. It's survival to power down.

Agreed. And women need sex less than men do. It’s an evolutionary and biological reality that when women feel overwhelmed caring for the children they already have, they will avoid sex at all costs. Sex always has the potential to result in more children and even more stressed resources. It’s survival to power down.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Men need to rest more than women. When have longer lives by a good amount and it's not fair. Men can feel housework after work killing them more quickly than women. It's survival to power down.

Agreed. And women need sex less than men do. It’s an evolutionary and biological reality that when women feel overwhelmed caring for the children they already have, they will avoid sex at all costs. Sex always has the potential to result in more children and even more stressed resources. It’s survival to power down.

Touché!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

you hire a housekeeper/household manager and pay from your joint account

Do this. Just do this.
Stop with the endless discussions. Take action.

But then she wouldn’t have anything to complain about and I think she actually needs to complain to be happy. A lot of women are like this. They’re not happy unless they’re bitching about something or barking orders at their husband. And yes, I’m a woman.

[Anonymous]

Update--OP--My DH just does not get it. If I ask him nicely, he calls it bitching, and starts calling me names....I stopped asking nicely and still NOTHING. Here is what I am doing as of this week. I am only taking care of my needs/kids needs. I stopped making dinner and only feed myself and the kids when we get home. When he asked "What's for dinner last night?" My response was: "Why don't you look in the fridge and make yourself something, I am just too tired and not hungry." I've told DH I was driving separately tomorrow and will take one kid with me. I also informed him that I will be pulling my paycheck from a joint account and will only deposit a certain amount per paycheck for gas/groceries/bills/immediate needs proportionate to my income. I am like so sick of it!!!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update--OP--My DH just does not get it. If I ask him nicely, he calls it bitching, and starts calling me names....I stopped asking nicely and still NOTHING. Here is what I am doing as of this week. I am only taking care of my needs/kids needs. I stopped making dinner and only feed myself and the kids when we get home. When he asked "What's for dinner last night?" My response was: "Why don't you look in the fridge and make yourself something, I am just too tired and not hungry." I've told DH I was driving separately tomorrow and will take one kid with me. I also informed him that I will be pulling my paycheck from a joint account and will only deposit a certain amount per paycheck for gas/groceries/bills/immediate needs proportionate to my income. I am like so sick of it!!!!!

Yeah my wife has a similar notion of asking "nicely" and I can assure you the tone and choice of words always betray her intention. Sounds like you need a marriage counselor to mediate.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Update--OP--My DH just does not get it. If I ask him nicely, he calls it bitching, and starts calling me names....I stopped asking nicely and still NOTHING. Here is what I am doing as of this week. I am only taking care of my needs/kids needs. I stopped making dinner and only feed myself and the kids when we get home. When he asked "What's for dinner last night?" My response was: "Why don't you look in the fridge and make yourself something, I am just too tired and not hungry." I've told DH I was driving separately tomorrow and will take one kid with me. I also informed him that I will be pulling my paycheck from a joint account and will only deposit a certain amount per paycheck for gas/groceries/bills/immediate needs proportionate to my income. I am like so sick of it!!!!!

you go girl