Can a married woman and married man be friends?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Of course they can. My rule is that if I wouldn't want my husband to read what I texted or hear what I said, then it's not okay. If I would be totally fine with him hearing the conversation or reading the text, then it's okay.

unless he’s like me and wants it the other way.

[Anonymous]

I have a work friend who I text and email with. We're both married and there is NOTHING there other than a shared sense of humor. He's about 12 years younger than me, and there's zero attraction from either of us. That's fine in my book.

I have another friend who lives a few states away who I was emailing on a purely platonic level, but it's clear it's moving toward an emotional affair. We're both attracted to each other, and we've shared more than we should. (Not sexual; just emotional.) I'm working on ending it, but it's hard to give it up. I just don't want my marriage to suffer because of it, as I adore my husband.

So I think the answer depends on your level of attraction to the person and ability to draw boundaries. I've done a terrible job of it with my friend who lives out of state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a work friend who I text and email with. We're both married and there is NOTHING there other than a shared sense of humor. He's about 12 years younger than me, and there's zero attraction from either of us. That's fine in my book.

I have another friend who lives a few states away who I was emailing on a purely platonic level, but it's clear it's moving toward an emotional affair. We're both attracted to each other, and we've shared more than we should. (Not sexual; just emotional.) I'm working on ending it, but it's hard to give it up. I just don't want my marriage to suffer because of it, as I adore my husband.

So I think the answer depends on your level of attraction to the person and ability to draw boundaries. I've done a terrible job of it with my friend who lives out of state.

Be glad he lives out of state, imagine how much harder it would be if he lived in your city and you saw him for work, at the gym etc on a recurring basis.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a work friend who I text and email with. We're both married and there is NOTHING there other than a shared sense of humor. He's about 12 years younger than me, and there's zero attraction from either of us. That's fine in my book.

I have another friend who lives a few states away who I was emailing on a purely platonic level, but it's clear it's moving toward an emotional affair. We're both attracted to each other, and we've shared more than we should. (Not sexual; just emotional.) I'm working on ending it, but it's hard to give it up. I just don't want my marriage to suffer because of it, as I adore my husband.

So I think the answer depends on your level of attraction to the person and ability to draw boundaries. I've done a terrible job of it with my friend who lives out of state.

Be glad he lives out of state, imagine how much harder it would be if he lived in your city and you saw him for work, at the gym etc on a recurring basis.

11:40 here. I am glad. Very, very glad. I just need to find the courage to end this. I'm starting some counseling next week and hope I can be brave enough to talk through it with the therapist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have a work friend who I text and email with. We're both married and there is NOTHING there other than a shared sense of humor. He's about 12 years younger than me, and there's zero attraction from either of us. That's fine in my book.

I have another friend who lives a few states away who I was emailing on a purely platonic level, but it's clear it's moving toward an emotional affair. We're both attracted to each other, and we've shared more than we should. (Not sexual; just emotional.) I'm working on ending it, but it's hard to give it up. I just don't want my marriage to suffer because of it, as I adore my husband.

So I think the answer depends on your level of attraction to the person and ability to draw boundaries. I've done a terrible job of it with my friend who lives out of state.

Be glad he lives out of state, imagine how much harder it would be if he lived in your city and you saw him for work, at the gym etc on a recurring basis.

11:40 here. I am glad. Very, very glad. I just need to find the courage to end this. I'm starting some counseling next week and hope I can be brave enough to talk through it with the therapist.

Save your money and just stop the emailing or texting. Start by changing the tone and frequency and then slowly exit.