Can a married woman and married man be friends?

[Anonymous]

Can a married woman be friends with a married man, including texting etc?

[Anonymous]

Sure. My AP and I were great friends for years before it got physical.

[Anonymous]

Sure, as long as they are respectful and the texts remain casual and above board. I text with my BIL from time to time, and I can happily say we're friends, nothing more.

[Anonymous]

Not always. If the boundaries are not clear and the contact too close (emotionally or physically) there is a risk to end up having an affair.

[Anonymous]

Man here. Sure. I don’t even understand what you are insinuating.

[Anonymous]

Not if you have to ask.

[Anonymous]

If they are brother/sister, yes. If they are childhood friends, probably. If they are co-workers, maybe. If they are ex boyfriend/girlfriend, probably not. If they don't want you to know about it, no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not if you have to ask.

I think this is what it boils down to. A friend asked me that question and sure enough her "friend" became her AP.

[Anonymous]

Yes. As with all relationships there are boundaries. Stay within them and all is fine. I have married men friends and my husband has married women friends and there has never been an issue over our 30+ years of marriage.

[Anonymous]

Married drug addicts are often great friends

[Anonymous]

Thanks all. I am the married woman. I am not used to having male friends and just want to be careful. We text each other, we have never been inappropriate and don’t have any sort of romantic history. I find him attractive and can tell he finds me attractive but again all conversations have been above board. I think we can be friends but didn’t know if I was being naive.

[Anonymous]

Yes, If they know each other from ES or HS. I have friends from those years.

[Anonymous]

there is a big drug problem in Cape Cod, thus our family stays away from there.

[Anonymous]

I can but I am not insecure enough to need a man to have sex with me to know he genuinely care about me.

[Anonymous]

Yes but here has to be a significant differential in appearances. I have a very close friend at work with whom I text, vent about work, etc (never personal stuff). But for many reasons it is 1000% impossible that it would ever turn into an attraction. It will always and forever only and could only ever be platonic (I believe from his side as well, we are just that lopsided/imbalanced in lots of ways).

If the two are on the same level in terms of attractiveness/personality type, it's harder.