DW had a panic attack, cancelled her plane ticket and is refusing to go on a planned holiday.

[Anonymous]

This makes more sense if the anxiety is tied to seeing her family in Mexico. There are probably deeper issues at play there than just her body. Or, she might have a family that does a lot of body shaming. This makes more sense now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

So true.

+1. This body type on a short frame? You'd have to fight it HARD.

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The dm person is 23 and struggles with her weight. OP's wife is 38 and had a baby. Her body is never going to look like that again without surgical intervention.

Op here. DW is not 38, I never said that.

DW is 28, she’s originally from Colombia. She has family in Mexico and going there was her idea.

We spoke this morning after she calmed down. She’s ok to rebook her ticket. She just tells me she’s mortified of her body, it’s hard to see her this upset over (what seems like) a frivolous issue to an outsider.

She tells me she doesn’t want her family to see or know what she looks like, she’s the youngest of 3 sisters and yes - she’s had her breasts, nose, and lips done. It’s common in her family and social circle to have “work done.”

So you married a crazy Colombian drama queen. I know the type well. Good luck.

[Anonymous]

I have a Colombian friend - he is a post doc making so much money - and he is paying for his sister to fy back to Colombia to have liposuction because it is apparently of paramount importance to look like a sex doll. Not healthy...

[Anonymous]

* NOT so much money

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do t think op said his wife is 38. It was a different poster with a tall wife and two kids.

Yup, that was me, the guy with the 38 y/o tall wife and 2 kids. Sorry for creating confusion, but I'm going through the same thing as the OP, only my wife has never cancelled a trip due to it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

So true.

+1. This body type on a short frame? You'd have to fight it HARD.

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The dm person is 23 and struggles with her weight. OP's wife is 38 and had a baby. Her body is never going to look like that again without surgical intervention.

Op here. DW is not 38, I never said that.

DW is 28, she’s originally from Colombia. She has family in Mexico and going there was her idea.

We spoke this morning after she calmed down. She’s ok to rebook her ticket. She just tells me she’s mortified of her body, it’s hard to see her this upset over (what seems like) a frivolous issue to an outsider.

She tells me she doesn’t want her family to see or know what she looks like, she’s the youngest of 3 sisters and yes - she’s had her breasts, nose, and lips done. It’s common in her family and social circle to have “work done.”

Tell her I have a very critical mother who lives in Europe.
Tell her the first words my mother has said, when she comes to pick me up at the airport, instead of "hello", have been "wow your belly's big".
Tell her that despite my history of anxiety and panic attacks and pointed maternal comments...
I STILL GO
And am mature enough to have a lovely time.

[Anonymous]

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Op here. DW is not 38, I never said that.

DW is 28, she’s originally from Colombia. She has family in Mexico and going there was her idea.

We spoke this morning after she calmed down. She’s ok to rebook her ticket. She just tells me she’s mortified of her body, it’s hard to see her this upset over (what seems like) a frivolous issue to an outsider.

She tells me she doesn’t want her family to see or know what she looks like, she’s the youngest of 3 sisters and yes - she’s had her breasts, nose, and lips done. It’s common in her family and social circle to have “work done.”

so basically she has no sense of self-worth outside of her looks and its deeply ingrained, given her family and social circle. Growing old is not going to be easy for either of you if she doesn't develop esteem through other things. Instead of telling her she looks 'great' as she is now, how about helping her develop other skills and ways of seeing herself as worthy, accomplished, beautiful that have nothing to do with looks?

Meh, what has she accomplished? Sounds like she made herself into plastic sex doll, OP locked it down young, and she popped out a couple of brats. Nothing to put on a resume.

[Anonymous]

She needs to stop with the Instagram envy. 28 is old enough to know better.

[Anonymous]

28 with that much cosmetic surgery?!?!?

Oy vey.

You know it's only going to get worse, right?

Imagine the breakdown she will have when she turns 30...and 40...and 50!

You might need to be in therapy, too. Seriously.