DW had a panic attack, cancelled her plane ticket and is refusing to go on a planned holiday.

[Anonymous]

Is this really about body image?

She needs a better doctor and therapist. Whatever they are doing isn't working. Or he isn't following their recommendations.

I have anxiety. Sometimes reasonable is not a possibility.

I hope whatever she needs can be figured out.... for both your sakes.

I don't know what to say about the vacation.

[Anonymous]

*she* isn't following....

[Anonymous]

She needs either a new therapist or a new approach to therapy. Is she doing CBT? It can be enormously helpful with intrusive thoughts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He do you know she weighs “128 lbs?” A husband knowing a wife’s weight that specifically is not normal.

You don't think this specific wife talks about her specific weight all the time? Don't put this on him.

[Anonymous]

I assume you would have said so if this was the case but she's not recently postpartum, right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I assume you would have said so if this was the case but she's not recently postpartum, right?

DS is 2.

DW was a dead ringer for Demi-Rose Mawby prior to our marriage. She used to get looks wherever she went and she knew it, she relied on her looks for a very long time and was a cocktail waitress when we met. Since then she’s been a SAHM and there’s really no excuse other than she got “comfortable” and had DS. Her body hasn’t gone back to the same since. She’s always had a voluptuous body type and it’s what attracted me to her in the first place.

The change in her body has hit her really hard.

[Anonymous]

^ I find this post odd, especially "there’s really no excuse other than she got “comfortable” and had DS"

[Anonymous]

OK, sorry. Now I'm judging you, too, OP. You said you told her she still looks good, but I'm looking at pictures of a woman (D-R M) who is nothing if not fake boobs and lip pouts. It's really, really hard for me to believe that you were attracted to that and then suddenly found so much love that looks don't matter to you.

Are you sure you haven't been giving her diet/exercise tips and suggesting a "mommy makeover" over the past two years, you know, because *she* would be happier?

I know, I'm being looksist. But the fact that you know who this Demi-Rose person is, and think she's so well-known the rest of us would too, suggests you're kind of in a "scene" that mostly admires women for their sex appeal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OK, sorry. Now I'm judging you, too, OP. You said you told her she still looks good, but I'm looking at pictures of a woman (D-R M) who is nothing if not fake boobs and lip pouts. It's really, really hard for me to believe that you were attracted to that and then suddenly found so much love that looks don't matter to you.

Are you sure you haven't been giving her diet/exercise tips and suggesting a "mommy makeover" over the past two years, you know, because *she* would be happier?

I know, I'm being looksist. But the fact that you know who this Demi-Rose person is, and think she's so well-known the rest of us would too, suggests you're kind of in a "scene" that mostly admires women for their sex appeal.

I have to agree.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OK, sorry. Now I'm judging you, too, OP. You said you told her she still looks good, but I'm looking at pictures of a woman (D-R M) who is nothing if not fake boobs and lip pouts. It's really, really hard for me to believe that you were attracted to that and then suddenly found so much love that looks don't matter to you.

Are you sure you haven't been giving her diet/exercise tips and suggesting a "mommy makeover" over the past two years, you know, because *she* would be happier?

I know, I'm being looksist. But the fact that you know who this Demi-Rose person is, and think she's so well-known the rest of us would too, suggests you're kind of in a "scene" that mostly admires women for their sex appeal.

I have to agree.

+1. I don’t know any men who can name an Instagram model. If you’re creeping on Instahos, of course she’s going to feel insecure about her body.

[Anonymous]

I had to google this Demi person.

You have to be kidding me OP. 4 pages to lay that troll bait to drop some Kardashian wannabe name??

[Anonymous]

If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

So true.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

So true.

+1. This body type on a short frame? You'd have to fight it HARD.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If your wife ever looked like that woman and had real body parts, she was destined to struggle with her weight. Her time is up.

So true.

+1. This body type on a short frame? You'd have to fight it HARD.

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The dm person is 23 and struggles with her weight. OP's wife is 38 and had a baby. Her body is never going to look like that again without surgical intervention.