Moved to Florida for SO and now I'm miserable

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The issue isn't the state you live in. It's that your significant other insists on living there to be near family, when you aren't happy there. What's up with that?

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Anonymous wrote:My sister lived in south Florida for a few years. As a DC transplant, she called it Fori-duh...said she was surrounded by conservative gun-toting morons. Most people work in hospitality and have no clue or interest in politics or the community.

She knew she couldn't raise a family there, so she left.

Uhh, south Florida is one of the most reliably Democratic areas in the country, and is populated almost entirely by transplants from the Northeast or immigrants. But okay.

Seriously! South Florida conservative? Gun heavy? I just about spit out my drink.

I just about spit out my drink. Maybe PP’s sister was just scared of brown people or people who speak Spanish and that’s why she decided to leave. Easier to say “it’s the conservatives!!”

Well, it's not Texas but is absolutely gun-heavy compared to DC. They have the death penalty and that's a good indicator of a kill or be killed type atmosphere.

And the Stand Your Ground law which got Trayvon Martin killed. People forget because of the beautiful beaches but Florida was just as much part of the Confederacy as Georgia and it shares a lot of its population with GA/AL too.

Huh. Well, the murder rates in both Florida and Texas are well-below that of Maryland - where the murder rate is among the highest in the US.

The OP came from D.C. not Maryland...so I'm not sure how that's relevant.

The murder rate in DC is twice that of Maryland, and three times higher than Florida's murder rate. DC used to be the murder capital of the US.

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Anonymous wrote:Two things I have learned in life:

1. Only boring people get bored.
2. It takes 2 years to get used to a new place, and up to 5 to become acclimated. Give it time.

I'm not sure that's true. I think intelligent and curious people get bored much more quickly in general.

A grocery store cashier might be perfectly content (in fact cashiers do seem to be happy and not stressed), however someone else, curious person x, might be bored after a few hours of this.

Does this mean the cashier is a less boring person than person x?

I understand it is up to person x to rectify her situation to not be bored - but still, is she is more boring person because it takes much more to stimulate her?

This is a messed up attitude shared by a lot of DC type people. And hey, I am a DC type person: one half of a power couple where we are both highly educated with "important" big paying jobs that directly tie to our education, wit super liberal political leanings. I am not delusional enough to believe what you said. Don't you think the cashier in Florida maybe figured something way more important out about the meaning life? Seriously, I do.

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Anonymous wrote:Two things I have learned in life:

1. Only boring people get bored.
2. It takes 2 years to get used to a new place, and up to 5 to become acclimated. Give it time.

I'm not sure that's true. I think intelligent and curious people get bored much more quickly in general.

A grocery store cashier might be perfectly content (in fact cashiers do seem to be happy and not stressed), however someone else, curious person x, might be bored after a few hours of this.

Does this mean the cashier is a less boring person than person x?

I understand it is up to person x to rectify her situation to not be bored - but still, is she is more boring person because it takes much more to stimulate her?

This is a messed up attitude shared by a lot of DC type people. And hey, I am a DC type person: one half of a power couple where we are both highly educated with "important" big paying jobs that directly tie to our education, wit super liberal political leanings. I am not delusional enough to believe what you said. Don't you think the cashier in Florida maybe figured something way more important out about the meaning life? Seriously, I do.

No more likely to have figured this out than any other person, like yourself or person x.
Not sure how it's a messed up attitude, you lost me there.
Btw I am outside U.S., so not a "DC type".

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Anonymous wrote:I live in both D.C. and Naples and I'd take Naples any day of the week. The one thing they have in common is that the summer weather sucks. The only reason I live in DC is because it's where I can make a lot of money that I get to spend in a nice place like Naples.

This. Most people slog through 40 years of DC so they can spend 15 years retired in Florida.

Also: People should check the temps in summer. DC is usually hotter in summer than most of florida.

Native Floridian here. I have lived on and off in DC for the par thirty years. DC summers are much more miserable than Florida.

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Are you sure that you didn't already have your mind made up that you were going to hate it, OP? Subconsciously, you may be miserable because you expect to be miserable. I say this parrly because you mention that people are more intellectual in DC. People are intellectual everywhere. A lot of those retirees were once living up north, you know. Maybe you should try rethinking your opinion about the place, and see if you can find some good in it.

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Anonymous wrote:Are you sure that you didn't already have your mind made up that you were going to hate it, OP? Subconsciously, you may be miserable because you expect to be miserable. I say this parrly because you mention that people are more intellectual in DC. People are intellectual everywhere. A lot of those retirees were once living up north, you know. Maybe you should try rethinking your opinion about the place, and see if you can find some good in it.

This is how it seems to me.

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I have been living in Jacksonville, Florida for 6 months now and we love it! It's a great city to raise a family. I made friends easily and I learned to stop being so judgmental about friendships. We're most likely going to move out of state soon because my husband can't find a permanent job in FL. Unfortunately there are not a lot of jobs in his STEM field. We will be sad to leave FL. Being close to the beach has been priceless. I am not familiar with the weather in south Florida but north Florida has been georgous for the last 6 months. It hasn't been humid at all!

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Anonymous wrote:I have been living in Jacksonville, Florida for 6 months now and we love it! It's a great city to raise a family. I made friends easily and I learned to stop being so judgmental about friendships. We're most likely going to move out of state soon because my husband can't find a permanent job in FL. Unfortunately there are not a lot of jobs in his STEM field. We will be sad to leave FL. Being close to the beach has been priceless. I am not familiar with the weather in south Florida but north Florida has been georgous for the last 6 months. It hasn't been humid at all!

We're moving there in November and I can't wait. This is reassuring to hear. The big problems we've had here are the weather, pace of life and lack of friendships.

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Anonymous wrote:I have been living in Jacksonville, Florida for 6 months now and we love it! It's a great city to raise a family. I made friends easily and I learned to stop being so judgmental about friendships. We're most likely going to move out of state soon because my husband can't find a permanent job in FL. Unfortunately there are not a lot of jobs in his STEM field. We will be sad to leave FL. Being close to the beach has been priceless. I am not familiar with the weather in south Florida but north Florida has been georgous for the last 6 months. It hasn't been humid at all!

We're moving there in November and I can't wait. This is reassuring to hear. The big problems we've had here are the weather, pace of life and lack of friendships.

Last November it was unusually cold. By thanksgiving we couldn't swim at the beach. It was still nice but colder than we expected.

[Anonymous]

Dh has family in Fl so we visit often. I love vacationing there but would never want live there. It's just not my cup of tea for everyday life. That's okay. Different people like different things. Compatibility is wanting the same things at the same time.

If you really love this guy, give it another 6 months. Genuinely make an effort to like it. If it still isn't working out, it's time to move on.

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Oh, and we have Publix!

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Anonymous wrote:My sister lived in south Florida for a few years. As a DC transplant, she called it Fori-duh...said she was surrounded by conservative gun-toting morons. Most people work in hospitality and have no clue or interest in politics or the community.

She knew she couldn't raise a family there, so she left.

I doub't anyone wanted to breed with her anyway. Liberal chics yapping about politics
is beyond painful.

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Anonymous wrote:Dh has family in Fl so we visit often. I love vacationing there but would never want live there. It's just not my cup of tea for everyday life. That's okay. Different people like different things. Compatibility is wanting the same things at the same time.

If you really love this guy, give it another 6 months. Genuinely make an effort to like it. If it still isn't working out, it's time to move on.

Unless he has family all over the state you are not a good judge of Florida.

[Anonymous]

I will say this. I've lived in Florida my entire life. I've hated living here for about as long as I could remember. I've battled depression and anxiety my entire life, and a good portion of it comes from the weather. I never want to go outside, and when I do it's usually miserable unless it's late December to late Feb which is the only time the weather is tolerable. The terrain is just boring. You get a choice between flat ugly swamps, flat and ugly everything else, or the beach... and I'll tell you my interest in going anywhere near an ocean is incredibly low. I hate palm trees, I hate beaches, I hate old people, I hate theme parks, I hate heat and humidity, I hate just about everything about this state/region of the country.

When I was 9 I used to collect atlases and travel magazines and imagine living anywhere else but here. 36 years later and it looks like I'm finally getting an out soon. I'll be moving to Colorado where everything is perfect for me. Florida is literally killing me. That's not hyperbole either. I hate living here so much I'd rather die early than have to stay here for the rest of my life. This place is misery. It's the land of entitled, wastes of life and worst generation ever Baby Boomers are coming to die... and drive slow in the left lane.

It's where all the red necks who were too stupid for Alabama and Georgia come to breed and multiply in north Florida and the northwestern part of Central Florida. It's where all the idiot tourists come to drive terribly on I-4 and crowd our roads all summer, and where the snowbirds drive terribly on 417 and crowd Publix every winter.

It's where the dumbest young adults go to college, and the impoverished and drug-addicted, heat-crazed people eat faces and boost the crime and homicide rates.

Everything you hear about this state in the news is fact, yet people keep pouring into this mega-disaster waiting to happen. I guarantee when the first category 5 (we all know is coming soon) makes a beeline toward central Florida, it's all over. If you're not from Florida, and you think Floridians, our infrastructure, our public servants, our politicians, our half-brained population is even remotely prepared for this... you're out of your mind. Charley was a weak cat 2 when it passed over Orlando and this city didn't know what to do. I didn't have power for almost 3 weeks, and do you know what living in this shithole is like without any ac? That's what scares me the most, living without power or any relief from the oppressive heat and humidity we're forced to endure daily.

If your SO refuses to move you to a better environment, GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, because I guarantee that living in a place that makes you miserable on a daily basis will slowly kill you, both mentally and eventually physically. There's no amount of therapy that fixes that. No person is worth having to endure living in this hell. Get. Out. NOW. While you can.