Moved to Florida for SO and now I'm miserable
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Anonymous
| Why cant you relocate to another area in FL? |
Anonymous
Because jobs tend to be location dependent. Especially for new hires... |
Anonymous
| You moved to FLORIDA for a BOYFRIEND? Critical error. Come back unless he proposes. |
Anonymous
| Yeah I moved to Florida too and I agree it is Bizarro world. Not just because of the prevalence of bartender jobs and humidity but for... the insects, the weird grass on the front lawns,the sharks. the fees for stupid things like registering your car, and well, so many reasons. literally EVERYONE hates it here when they move here for a few years at least. But that said. My kids LOVE IT HERE and we will probably live there for a long time if not forever. They take horseback riding lessons. We are at the beach twice a week ( a ten minute ride from the house). The winters are pleasant and lovely. No one is career driven and people are more laid back. I love eighbors who are retirees - they all fuss over the kids every halloweeen and Christmas and they make great, clean, quiet low-stress neighbors. All your friends and relatives from up north visit regularly so you constantly have people visiting (which I like.) as a “professional” educated person you do need to search pretty deeply to find your tribe but once you do it easy to get involved in life here and stay forever. Ps try to go away somewhere for July and August if you can. (A lot of people get a place in the Carolinas) |
Anonymous
Dec-Mar, lovely idea. Rest of year, misery to be outside at all, even at night. |
Anonymous
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We moved to Florida too, first to Ft. Lauderdale and then to Tampa. Tampa is a much better city to live in, more culture, more normal, less New Jersey. Also, slightly better "change of season" where we actually use our fireplace a few days a year.
Also, I know what you mean about the people here. There are lots of great people but they are tougher to find. The key is to get involved in the community where you cut out the transient wierdos and get ingrained with the locals. Almost all schools have a local alumni chapter, another way to meet like minded souls. |
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My sister lived in south Florida for a few years. As a DC transplant, she called it Fori-duh...said she was surrounded by conservative gun-toting morons. Most people work in hospitality and have no clue or interest in politics or the community.
She knew she couldn't raise a family there, so she left. |
Anonymous
+1 I moved 1000 miles from my home and 500 miles from his home with a long-term boyfriend. We both loved the city we chose, but I knew he couldn’t afford it without me. When we broke up I refinanced the house to get him off it, he moved back to his hometown, and I stayed behind and have continued living in the city. The difference is I loved the location and planned for this possibility. No one is worth giving up your happiness. It doesn’t matter why you aren’t happy in Florida. It matters that you’re not and life is short. Leave him, don’t return to DC, and start fresh someplace new that you can be happy. |
Anonymous
I doub't anyone wanted to breed with her anyway. Liberal chics yapping about politics is beyond painful. |
Anonymous
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Two things I have learned in life:
1. Only boring people get bored. 2. It takes 2 years to get used to a new place, and up to 5 to become acclimated. Give it time. |
Anonymous
+1 This is very true. Unless you have school age children it can be difficult to meet like minded people. If you just sit at home complaining about how bored you are that's how you will remain. Be active, get engaged in your community or church. |
Anonymous
But it doesn't take a year to know you LOVE a place. I fell in love with D.C. the moment I crossed the 14th Street bridge on a college tour. It was only reinforced after I graduated and on day one moved here by plane. Everyone should be able to find an absolutely visceral joy when they can say they're 'home' in their community or city. OP clearly doesn't see that in Florida and to be honest - she isn't wrong about the people or the climate. |
Anonymous
How charming. Actually, anyone who can't find fun and a nice life in Florida is a tightly wound jerk. |
Anonymous
| When you leave a place you know well and like, it can take a while to come to like a new town. I usually say at least a year, and more like 2. You need to find the take out place you like, the date night pub, the cool movie theater, the little piece of nature for a stroll, etc. Or at least that's what makes me start to love a place -- the nice memories you make in small increments. Basically, give it time, but don't approach it with one foot out the door. Go out and start finding those nice little spots to make memories! |
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Op you need to have a frank talk with your SO and the two of you need to decide where to go from here. Are you going to get married? Do you want kids? Does SO? Is your happiness important to your partner? Can you live part of the year in one place and the other part of the year in another?
Don't waste your time on this relationship if you are not going to get your long term goals out of it. Don't waste your time on a partner who doesn't care about your happiness/is unwilling to compromise. Not that your SO should be forced to move to DC or another specific place; but is there some other place that could satisfy you both? Like San Diego maybe, as an example? |