Moved to Florida for SO and now I'm miserable

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Two things I have learned in life:

1. Only boring people get bored.
2. It takes 2 years to get used to a new place, and up to 5 to become acclimated. Give it time.

But it doesn't take a year to know you LOVE a place. I fell in love with D.C. the moment I crossed the 14th Street bridge on a college tour. It was only reinforced after I graduated and on day one moved here by plane. Everyone should be able to find an absolutely visceral joy when they can say they're 'home' in their community or city.

OP clearly doesn't see that in Florida and to be honest - she isn't wrong about the people or the climate.

How charming. Actually, anyone who can't find fun and a nice life in Florida is a tightly wound jerk.

Florida sucks, the schools there suck and many of the people suck. The summers are unbearable. I'm glad you like it because someone has to live in that swamp. I'm just glad it's not me.

[Anonymous]

I am a Brit who lived in the UK until my early 20s.

Since then, I have lived in Chicago, Nashville, Los Angeles, Northern Virginia and now Tampa ..... though we have a second home overseas where we spend about 6 weeks annually during summer. The relocation in each instance was job related.

I can honestly say that I have loved each of the places where we lived but never regretted moving to the next location.

I must have a low threshold for contentment ....... or maybe there is something wrong with me!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this. I've lived in Florida my entire life. I've hated living here for about as long as I could remember. I've battled depression and anxiety my entire life, and a good portion of it comes from the weather. I never want to go outside, and when I do it's usually miserable unless it's late December to late Feb which is the only time the weather is tolerable. The terrain is just boring. You get a choice between flat ugly swamps, flat and ugly everything else, or the beach... and I'll tell you my interest in going anywhere near an ocean is incredibly low. I hate palm trees, I hate beaches, I hate old people, I hate theme parks, I hate heat and humidity, I hate just about everything about this state/region of the country.

When I was 9 I used to collect atlases and travel magazines and imagine living anywhere else but here. 36 years later and it looks like I'm finally getting an out soon. I'll be moving to Colorado where everything is perfect for me. Florida is literally killing me. That's not hyperbole either. I hate living here so much I'd rather die early than have to stay here for the rest of my life. This place is misery. It's the land of entitled, wastes of life and worst generation ever Baby Boomers are coming to die... and drive slow in the left lane.

It's where all the red necks who were too stupid for Alabama and Georgia come to breed and multiply in north Florida and the northwestern part of Central Florida. It's where all the idiot tourists come to drive terribly on I-4 and crowd our roads all summer, and where the snowbirds drive terribly on 417 and crowd Publix every winter.

It's where the dumbest young adults go to college, and the impoverished and drug-addicted, heat-crazed people eat faces and boost the crime and homicide rates.

Everything you hear about this state in the news is fact, yet people keep pouring into this mega-disaster waiting to happen. I guarantee when the first category 5 (we all know is coming soon) makes a beeline toward central Florida, it's all over. If you're not from Florida, and you think Floridians, our infrastructure, our public servants, our politicians, our half-brained population is even remotely prepared for this... you're out of your mind. Charley was a weak cat 2 when it passed over Orlando and this city didn't know what to do. I didn't have power for almost 3 weeks, and do you know what living in this shithole is like without any ac? That's what scares me the most, living without power or any relief from the oppressive heat and humidity we're forced to endure daily.

If your SO refuses to move you to a better environment, GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, because I guarantee that living in a place that makes you miserable on a daily basis will slowly kill you, both mentally and eventually physically. There's no amount of therapy that fixes that. No person is worth having to endure living in this hell. Get. Out. NOW. While you can.

Revived 1yr+ old thread to vent.

DP here:
That was an amazing vent. This is the stuff I want to read on DCUM.

I really appreciate the PP sharing. And I agree - the state is completely unprepared for climate change driven hurricanes. The next Cat 5 to hit central FL will be a mass casualty event.

+2 best vent on all of DCUM I’ve read in a long time. I’d love to talk to this PP in real life. I’d buy them a drink.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Yes. I was in this exact situation exactly 10 years ago.

I would not move for the SO. He moved to Florida. I felt we should break up. But he convinced me to get married. I had doubts the entire time.

I moved after the wedding. Biggest regret of my life. That was in 2009. I was extremely unhappy very quickly. Yes, I was working. I wanted out at 6 months in. My mom said give it another year. Stupid. I gave it one more year and ended up accidentally pregnant with once and a blue moon sex--the first time unprotected in my life. I was in my early 30s. I was trapped. I could not leave. It took 8 more years to get back to DC. Too much resentment. I have now been trying to get divorced for almost two years. What a waste of all this time due to a stupid move I never wanted to do.

My advice: leave now. Move back to D.C. Right now. Geography is a deal breaker. I was hesitant. I took a leap of faith, ignored my gut and was immediately miserable. Your gut is telling you that you are not happy. This is not a shared life. This is you moving in different directions. Dealbreaker. You do not want to be me in 10 years.

If you were only having “once in a blue moon” sex, your problems clearly run deeper than Florida. You had problems with your relationship and yourself.

No kidding. It is called low testosterone. That is how that happened. The no sex later was because of resentment as well. Some men actually do have Low-T and sex life is nonexistent.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this. I've lived in Florida my entire life. I've hated living here for about as long as I could remember. I've battled depression and anxiety my entire life, and a good portion of it comes from the weather. I never want to go outside, and when I do it's usually miserable unless it's late December to late Feb which is the only time the weather is tolerable. The terrain is just boring. You get a choice between flat ugly swamps, flat and ugly everything else, or the beach... and I'll tell you my interest in going anywhere near an ocean is incredibly low. I hate palm trees, I hate beaches, I hate old people, I hate theme parks, I hate heat and humidity, I hate just about everything about this state/region of the country.

When I was 9 I used to collect atlases and travel magazines and imagine living anywhere else but here. 36 years later and it looks like I'm finally getting an out soon. I'll be moving to Colorado where everything is perfect for me. Florida is literally killing me. That's not hyperbole either. I hate living here so much I'd rather die early than have to stay here for the rest of my life. This place is misery. It's the land of entitled, wastes of life and worst generation ever Baby Boomers are coming to die... and drive slow in the left lane.

It's where all the red necks who were too stupid for Alabama and Georgia come to breed and multiply in north Florida and the northwestern part of Central Florida. It's where all the idiot tourists come to drive terribly on I-4 and crowd our roads all summer, and where the snowbirds drive terribly on 417 and crowd Publix every winter.

It's where the dumbest young adults go to college, and the impoverished and drug-addicted, heat-crazed people eat faces and boost the crime and homicide rates.

Everything you hear about this state in the news is fact, yet people keep pouring into this mega-disaster waiting to happen. I guarantee when the first category 5 (we all know is coming soon) makes a beeline toward central Florida, it's all over. If you're not from Florida, and you think Floridians, our infrastructure, our public servants, our politicians, our half-brained population is even remotely prepared for this... you're out of your mind. Charley was a weak cat 2 when it passed over Orlando and this city didn't know what to do. I didn't have power for almost 3 weeks, and do you know what living in this shithole is like without any ac? That's what scares me the most, living without power or any relief from the oppressive heat and humidity we're forced to endure daily.

If your SO refuses to move you to a better environment, GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, because I guarantee that living in a place that makes you miserable on a daily basis will slowly kill you, both mentally and eventually physically. There's no amount of therapy that fixes that. No person is worth having to endure living in this hell. Get. Out. NOW. While you can.

I lived my whole life visiting Florida and wishing I could live there. Finally when I was in my early 40s I had a choice that was totally up to me and I moved there. I lived there for six great years and loved it. I came back to the DC area for various reasons but soon I will be going back. Can't wait!

FL or DC...easy choice. Florida by far.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will say this. I've lived in Florida my entire life. I've hated living here for about as long as I could remember. I've battled depression and anxiety my entire life, and a good portion of it comes from the weather. I never want to go outside, and when I do it's usually miserable unless it's late December to late Feb which is the only time the weather is tolerable. The terrain is just boring. You get a choice between flat ugly swamps, flat and ugly everything else, or the beach... and I'll tell you my interest in going anywhere near an ocean is incredibly low. I hate palm trees, I hate beaches, I hate old people, I hate theme parks, I hate heat and humidity, I hate just about everything about this state/region of the country.

When I was 9 I used to collect atlases and travel magazines and imagine living anywhere else but here. 36 years later and it looks like I'm finally getting an out soon. I'll be moving to Colorado where everything is perfect for me. Florida is literally killing me. That's not hyperbole either. I hate living here so much I'd rather die early than have to stay here for the rest of my life. This place is misery. It's the land of entitled, wastes of life and worst generation ever Baby Boomers are coming to die... and drive slow in the left lane.

It's where all the red necks who were too stupid for Alabama and Georgia come to breed and multiply in north Florida and the northwestern part of Central Florida. It's where all the idiot tourists come to drive terribly on I-4 and crowd our roads all summer, and where the snowbirds drive terribly on 417 and crowd Publix every winter.

It's where the dumbest young adults go to college, and the impoverished and drug-addicted, heat-crazed people eat faces and boost the crime and homicide rates.

Everything you hear about this state in the news is fact, yet people keep pouring into this mega-disaster waiting to happen. I guarantee when the first category 5 (we all know is coming soon) makes a beeline toward central Florida, it's all over. If you're not from Florida, and you think Floridians, our infrastructure, our public servants, our politicians, our half-brained population is even remotely prepared for this... you're out of your mind. Charley was a weak cat 2 when it passed over Orlando and this city didn't know what to do. I didn't have power for almost 3 weeks, and do you know what living in this shithole is like without any ac? That's what scares me the most, living without power or any relief from the oppressive heat and humidity we're forced to endure daily.

If your SO refuses to move you to a better environment, GET OUT OF THAT RELATIONSHIP NOW, because I guarantee that living in a place that makes you miserable on a daily basis will slowly kill you, both mentally and eventually physically. There's no amount of therapy that fixes that. No person is worth having to endure living in this hell. Get. Out. NOW. While you can.

Revived 1yr+ old thread to vent.

DP here:
That was an amazing vent. This is the stuff I want to read on DCUM.

I really appreciate the PP sharing. And I agree - the state is completely unprepared for climate change driven hurricanes. The next Cat 5 to hit central FL will be a mass casualty event.

+2 best vent on all of DCUM I’ve read in a long time. I’d love to talk to this PP in real life. I’d buy them a drink.

Not to derail your rants - but: Why are you guys all focused on Cat 5 hurricanes hitting "central Florida"? Not that a strong hurricane hitting any place won't be bad - but "central Florida" isn't on the coast, where you'd get the most hurricanes, or where the most poor people live, which is who suffers the most in hurricanes. Why the focus on "central Florida"?

I am not asking because I don't know Florida. I live in Florida. We love it here. Which is not the point - I just don't understand what you guys are focusing on.