Moved to Florida for SO and now I'm miserable

[Anonymous]

We relocated to multiple places in florida, and while it's not perfect, i find it hard to believe that someone could be miserable here unless they were looking to be miserable. Sure, people are less career-focused and educated than DC. But my dh and i are highly educated and (previously) career focused and love being here and balanced by regular people. It's nice to have a lot of things to talk about with people other than politics and our jobs. Like, we are quite chummy with our next door neighbors, and they are both highly educated professionals in the medical field. We have no idea what their political leanings are. We think she probably sways democratic, and he probably sways republican. But we're not sure. But he sometimes texts my DH at 9pm on a friday to say he's getting up at 7am to go stand up paddle boarding, and would my DH like to come, and they have an awesome time. Because it's florida.

Florida is so transient that most people on the coasts just don't talk politics and don't talk jobs. But they are mostly friendly, and genuinely kind and caring. I find it hard to imagine how someone could completely hate it here.... The fact that op hates it makes me think it's more about her, and her relationship with her SO.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
You have to move, OP. I would have never agreed to go. DC is too warm for me in the summer, and the mosquitoes are a horror, so Florida... blaargh!

+1 the humidity and the bugs alone would kill me.

[Anonymous]

I lived in DC for 10 years and moved to FL after my husband and I got married. I refused to move before a wedding. It was a huge mistake. I regret marrying him and moving there. Our life was really living his dreams—not a true partnership. I was miserable. I thought of divorcing him and moving back to DC right as he was pressuring me to get off the pill. We had unprotected sex one time and got pregnant. I was devastated. I was trapped. I spent 7 years in FL. We moved to another state for 18 months. Then we moved back to the DC area recently. I am still miserable. I will never get over being dumb enough to follow him. I am very unhappy. Please get out now. Don’t be me in 10 years from now.

[Anonymous]

Don't worry Jeni, soon climate change will overtake FL and you can come back to DC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'd grow citrus in my back yard and have a year-round vegetable garden. I'd lose 20 pounds running on the beach and swimming.

No the heat and bugs would drive you inside into the AC and fans. Florida is the worst.

[Anonymous]

Everyone I know who moved to Florida and is not a retiree is miserable. It's great if you don't have to work but otherwise it is the pits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone I know who moved to Florida and is not a retiree is miserable. It's great if you don't have to work but otherwise it is the pits.

+100

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We relocated to multiple places in florida, and while it's not perfect, i find it hard to believe that someone could be miserable here unless they were looking to be miserable. Sure, people are less career-focused and educated than DC. But my dh and i are highly educated and (previously) career focused and love being here and balanced by regular people. It's nice to have a lot of things to talk about with people other than politics and our jobs. Like, we are quite chummy with our next door neighbors, and they are both highly educated professionals in the medical field. We have no idea what their political leanings are. We think she probably sways democratic, and he probably sways republican. But we're not sure. But he sometimes texts my DH at 9pm on a friday to say he's getting up at 7am to go stand up paddle boarding, and would my DH like to come, and they have an awesome time. Because it's florida.

Florida is so transient that most people on the coasts just don't talk politics and don't talk jobs. But they are mostly friendly, and genuinely kind and caring. I find it hard to imagine how someone could completely hate it here.... The fact that op hates it makes me think it's more about her, and her relationship with her SO.

This is DC, and to the locals here (even transplants to Florida), anyone not in this hell hole of a bubble is a gun toting, stupid, apolitical (or if you are political, you're a Neonazi with genocidal ideations), toothless and cut-off shirt wearing, overweight heroin addict who voted for Trump. I mean I'm sure I missed something, but there it is.

[Anonymous]

Florida is f'ing terrible. I wouldn't move there for anyone. And I mean anyone. Get out now.

[Anonymous]

Your SO sounds inflexible. You followed SO to Florida, you're not happy there, and SO won't move again. Sounds to me like your problem is that you're in a relationship w/someone who prioritizes family of origin over you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We relocated to multiple places in florida, and while it's not perfect, i find it hard to believe that someone could be miserable here unless they were looking to be miserable. Sure, people are less career-focused and educated than DC. But my dh and i are highly educated and (previously) career focused and love being here and balanced by regular people. It's nice to have a lot of things to talk about with people other than politics and our jobs. Like, we are quite chummy with our next door neighbors, and they are both highly educated professionals in the medical field. We have no idea what their political leanings are. We think she probably sways democratic, and he probably sways republican. But we're not sure. But he sometimes texts my DH at 9pm on a friday to say he's getting up at 7am to go stand up paddle boarding, and would my DH like to come, and they have an awesome time. Because it's florida.

Florida is so transient that most people on the coasts just don't talk politics and don't talk jobs. But they are mostly friendly, and genuinely kind and caring. I find it hard to imagine how someone could completely hate it here.... The fact that op hates it makes me think it's more about her, and her relationship with her SO.

This is DC, and to the locals here (even transplants to Florida), anyone not in this hell hole of a bubble is a gun toting, stupid, apolitical (or if you are political, you're a Neonazi with genocidal ideations), toothless and cut-off shirt wearing, overweight heroin addict who voted for Trump. I mean I'm sure I missed something, but there it is.

Probably because most of us moved here to escape those areas and individuals. If its a common denominator among all our experiences and this also happens to be the most heavily educated demographic in the country, someone about the consensus has to be true.

[Anonymous]

I live in both D.C. and Naples and I'd take Naples any day of the week. The one thing they have in common is that the summer weather sucks. The only reason I live in DC is because it's where I can make a lot of money that I get to spend in a nice place like Naples.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I live in both D.C. and Naples and I'd take Naples any day of the week. The one thing they have in common is that the summer weather sucks. The only reason I live in DC is because it's where I can make a lot of money that I get to spend in a nice place like Naples.

This. Most people slog through 40 years of DC so they can spend 15 years retired in Florida.

Also: People should check the temps in summer. DC is usually hotter in summer than most of florida.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Two things I have learned in life:

1. Only boring people get bored.
2. It takes 2 years to get used to a new place, and up to 5 to become acclimated. Give it time.

I'm not sure that's true. I think intelligent and curious people get bored much more quickly in general.

A grocery store cashier might be perfectly content (in fact cashiers do seem to be happy and not stressed), however someone else, curious person x, might be bored after a few hours of this.

Does this mean the cashier is a less boring person than person x?

I understand it is up to person x to rectify her situation to not be bored - but still, is she is more boring person because it takes much more to stimulate her?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We relocated to multiple places in florida, and while it's not perfect, i find it hard to believe that someone could be miserable here unless they were looking to be miserable. Sure, people are less career-focused and educated than DC. But my dh and i are highly educated and (previously) career focused and love being here and balanced by regular people. It's nice to have a lot of things to talk about with people other than politics and our jobs. Like, we are quite chummy with our next door neighbors, and they are both highly educated professionals in the medical field. We have no idea what their political leanings are. We think she probably sways democratic, and he probably sways republican. But we're not sure. But he sometimes texts my DH at 9pm on a friday to say he's getting up at 7am to go stand up paddle boarding, and would my DH like to come, and they have an awesome time. Because it's florida.

Florida is so transient that most people on the coasts just don't talk politics and don't talk jobs. But they are mostly friendly, and genuinely kind and caring. I find it hard to imagine how someone could completely hate it here.... The fact that op hates it makes me think it's more about her, and her relationship with her SO.

+1. As a Florida native, there is so much to do in Florida. I think this post is spot on.