I don't want Grandparents taking baby for the night every week

[Anonymous]

hmmm any chance your husband is telling MIL that this is what YOU want?

Maybe all three of you need to sit down and discuss this together.

[Anonymous]

Your DH is getting ready to leave you.

If your baby is w your in laws this weekend and you’re correct in that your DH and you won’t be spending time together, spend Sunday figuring out how to hide money from him from your paycheck, or sort out what it might take to get a 401k loan or emergency money. And then keep that info for when you need it. Crunch numbers and see if you can afford to keep the house, etc.

It’s sunday night now. Did you leave the baby w the inlaws all weekend? How did it go?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You didn’t table it. You agreed to it.

No I agreed to tonight but not any more.

OP, I kind of got lost about exactly what the plan is, but since you have agreed to let the baby stay at your in laws tonight, I would insist on accompanying him as well, for a sleepover.

Wake up early and go out for coffee and a run, so MIL can deal with the baby in the morning.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
Get your husband over here to read this:

Husband of OP, you are a complete moron. Your child needs his mother. His mother needs to be happy and have as much time as she wants with her baby. The grandparents are way, way, way below on the priority list. If you want them to babysit, they can do so occasionally, during the day or evening. If they are far away, too bad.

So unnecessarily hostile.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Is your husband from a culture where the wife traditionally moves into her hubsband’s family and lives with her in-laws?

No. He's white pro- law enforcement/military jerk. Sorry.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:hmmm any chance your husband is telling MIL that this is what YOU want?

Maybe all three of you need to sit down and discuss this together.

YES!! This is EXACTLY what I said.

[Anonymous]

This is a no brainer. You just say no.

The baby needs his mom and dad. He will not understand sleeping over there. He won't understand why you aren't there.

[Anonymous]

Did you go to pick up the baby, OP?

What did they say? Did he sleep? How did you spend your 24 hours?

[Anonymous]

I'm a SAHM of a 14 month old terrible sleeper and I can't imagine leaving him for an entire night, let alone doing so once a week. And your DH is insisting on doing this, against your objections, to your 6 month old that you see far less than I see my baby? No, just no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Get your husband over here to read this:

Husband of OP, you are a complete moron. Your child needs his mother. His mother needs to be happy and have as much time as she wants with her baby. The grandparents are way, way, way below on the priority list. If you want them to babysit, they can do so occasionally, during the day or evening. If they are far away, too bad.

So unnecessarily hostile.

No. I view the husband's plan as incredibly hostile to his wife and baby. He should get a commensurate response.

[Anonymous]

Sign me up for this!

[Anonymous]

As the baby gets older, these issues are going to magnify. Nip it now. Take the advice to prepare financially. You’re still postpartum with a 6-month Old. He butters up for long term inheritance and competes with his brother. He has a family, and is using it to get what he wants. Don’t accuse, but keep your eyes open, and don’t be naive. I didn’t see where you mentioned whether his family wealth supports you, but if you work, prepare for the possibility of being s single parent one day in your career decisions. I say this as a formlerly naive divorcing mom that left and was completely oblivious to all the signs that were very clear in hindsight. Also agree that you should find a good individual therapist and stick with it. Therapy with a (borderline) emotional abuser won’t work. They’ll use it against you. Not saying divorce. Just be prepared so if you find yourself on that path (there are many flags from what you share), you aren’t limited in you ability to do the greater good because you didn’t plan for having the resources to execute. 1yr living expenses, $15k min for divorce attorney, document your parenting time and how you allocate responsibilities now. Baby fever that has dad on a high can wear off, what will be left to salvage then? I hope things bode well for you.

[Anonymous]

You are out of your effing mind if you quit your job in this situation

[Anonymous]

OP, are you a troll?

Is something wrong with your DH's attachment to the baby? Who wants their baby out of the house every week? Grandparents can come visit.

[Anonymous]

If this post is real, OP has bigger problems in her marriage. No man EVER, in a country where women have rights and are free, can control where an infant sleeps.

OP... I say this in the nicest way possible. The fact that you are married to someone that would even present that as an option is troubling. If you allow your DS to be used in this manner then prepared to be controlled in every aspect of that marriage for the foreseeable future. No one. I repeat. No one can dictate anything to a mother about her baby; not even daddy.