I don't want Grandparents taking baby for the night every week

[Anonymous]

My husband wants our baby (6 months) to sleep over at his parents house every week. This seems crazy to me. I work and I don't get to see him much. Does this make any sense? I feel like he is our child and should sleep in our home.

[Anonymous]

Why does he want to do that?

[Anonymous]

Get your husband over here to read this:

Husband of OP, you are a complete moron. Your child needs his mother. His mother needs to be happy and have as much time as she wants with her baby. The grandparents are way, way, way below on the priority list. If you want them to babysit, they can do so occasionally, during the day or evening. If they are far away, too bad.

[Anonymous]

That's a LOT. I love my in-laws and totally trust them But that's too much even for me.

I would say no.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My husband wants our baby (6 months) to sleep over at his parents house every week. This seems crazy to me. I work and I don't get to see him much. Does this make any sense? I feel like he is our child and should sleep in our home.

What is his reasoning? No matter what it is, my answer would be hell no. I breastfed exclusively, so there’s an argument for you—baby needs to be with you for nutritional reasons!

[Anonymous]

I think you need to ask your husband WHY he wants to do that. Is it because he wants to be child-free for the night? Is it because his parents asked him and he doesn't want to say no?

[Anonymous]

No way. Once a MONTH is a lot

[Anonymous]

Of course it’s fine to want him in your home. Ask your husband to say more about baby spending one night a week at grandparents. What’s motivating it?
-pressure from in-laws?
-wanting a night free for date & sex?
-cultural difference about role of grandparents?

Also, are you nursing? I couldn’t imagine baby being away when I was nursing. Weekends were time when I didn’t have to pump.

Would you be okay with once a month?

Again, what is behind your husband’s request?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Why does he want to do that?

I hate to say this, but they have money and I think he wants to butter them (his mom who controls everything) up. Honestly, even once a month seems too much to me. I think it's fine if he goes over there during the day - which he has been doing once a week forever - which is also a lot - but this new idea of the baby sleeping over there is too much.

[Anonymous]

Do you mean he wants to give both of you 1 night of good sleep a week? It seems well-intentioned, even if it isn’t to you. If you say no, I’d still tell him you appreciate he that wants you to get rest, or have a date night, maybe when the kid is older.

[Anonymous]

I would happily do this once every other week or once a month, but once a week if I were working does seem too much to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does he want to do that?

I hate to say this, but they have money and[b] I think he wants to butter them (his mom who controls everything) up. Honestly, even once a month seems too much to me. I think it's fine if he goes over there during the day - which he has been doing once a week forever - which is also a lot - but this new idea of the baby sleeping over there is too much.

Say more about this bolded statement, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My husband wants our baby (6 months) to sleep over at his parents house every week. This seems crazy to me. I work and I don't get to see him much. Does this make any sense? I feel like he is our child and should sleep in our home.

What is his reasoning? No matter what it is, my answer would be hell no. I breastfed exclusively, so there’s an argument for you—baby needs to be with you for nutritional reasons!

I pump exclusively and have low output so he's mainly on formula but still! I want to be with him and put him to bed, etc. etc. etc. if I stayed at home and saw him all the time it would maybe be different. But still I think the overnights are too much! Unless we're traveling maybe one night. Two would be the maximum in my mind!

[Anonymous]

“Larlo, I work all week, both at the office and at home. I treasure every moment with Larlito and am not okay with him spending one night away from me every week. It’s a hard no, and I need you to support me on this.”

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Why does he want to do that?

I hate to say this, but they have money and[b] I think he wants to butter them (his mom who controls everything) up. Honestly, even once a month seems too much to me. I think it's fine if he goes over there during the day - which he has been doing once a week forever - which is also a lot - but this new idea of the baby sleeping over there is too much.

Say more about this bolded statement, OP.

Well I think the money is a motivating factor for him. It seems like he is constantly trying to butter his mother up even though she is not very nice to him. I thought she genuinely loved our son but through various instances and factors I have come to suspect she enjoys him more for the newfound stardom of a baby grandson with her friends. Even though his father makes all the money his mother controls all the finances and reigns with a tight fist and grip. Essentially I think his mother wants to see the baby and he wants to do everything he can to (in his mind) appease and please her.