Disagreement with DH about breast lift

[Anonymous]

You will never be able to have enough surgeries to keep up with aging. You will sag, wrinkle, pee yourself, shit yourself, shrink in height, lose your eyesight and hearing. You should enjoy whatever time you have left before you're a nasty mess. At least it happens slowly. Meanwhile, unless you married a guy 15 yrs your junior, it's happening to him, too. So just laugh it off and enjoy life together instead of being a vain, insecure asshole (which is more ugly than sagging tits).

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

If you need Botox and fillers at 33 you lost the genetic lottery. Sorry.

Actually you clearly have no idea how these things work. I use them so I won’t get the wrinkles you have

Good luck with that.

[Anonymous]

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Wonder what your issue is? You cannot fix your boobs through shapewear?

Yes, for the rest of the world to see, sure. But I don't want to have to wear shapewear when I am in bed with DH.

You're 44. It's a minor miracle you're bumping nasties anymore at all.

BTW, international vacations are sexier than artificially perky boobs.

This

[Anonymous]

A number of years ago I wanted to have some facial nip and tuck - nothing extreme. Initially my DH was opposed (he was fine with my look plus surgery risk) but eventually he said if I was comfortable with the risk it was my face. I had the surgery and once I recovered I was very happy with the results and so was my husband. I also considered a tummy tuck given I had had super big babies, one was 10.5lbs, and my stomach sags and is very unattractive. My DH again said it was up to me to assess the risk and he would support me. I decided to not do it because it is pretty severe surgery. So my message to OP is to fully assess the risk and then discuss it with your DH.

[Anonymous]

I had big, saggy boobs that were both unattractive and caused back pain. My DH didn't like the idea and my boobs weren't a problem to him. But he did understand the back pain issue so he finally agreed. I am very happy with the results, they look very natural and my back pain is gone. My husband is also very happy with them for many reasons!

[Anonymous]

I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

I hope you are kidding!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

That's psychotic that you view your wife as a piece of property. Let me guess, #MAGA right?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

That's psychotic that you view your wife as a piece of property. Let me guess, #MAGA right?

Of course he is joking. If she leaves him do you think he will pay for another surgery to get the implants removed. Why are people so aggressive and nasty ion these boards

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

Guy here. Of course he's kidding. I've heard that one sooo many times....it's not original.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm 44 years old and want to get a breast lift. I'm very unhappy with my appearance and feel unattractive, and am having trouble enjoying being intimate with DH because of it. DH is very opposed to the idea of my getting this surgery done. He agrees that there's an issue with sagging, but doesn't think its a big deal. He is also very concerned about something going wrong during the surgery - we have two kids and his view is that it would be selfish to undergo elective surgery for cosmetic reasons when there is a chance (albeit small) of something going wrong. He also thinks it would make more sense to use the money for something the family could all enjoy together, like an international vacation.

Am I being really selfish by wanting to do this? I can't imagine living the next 20 plus years feeling this unattractive, and I don't think I am going to be able to just move past this feeling on my own without having this done.

Truth: Isn't he just concerned about the cost?

Not all DHs are like your DH. Maybe some husbands are actually concerned about wives' wellbeing.

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[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

I am the PP you are responding to. Why is it sad? I am telling OP that she should do whatever she wants if it will make her happier and more comfortable with her body. Who wouldn’t? My family is very happy and successful and we value physical appearance. My SILs all had boob jobs, tummy tucks, nose jobs etc. Plastic surgery is not WHO they are. They are moms, wives, business owners, and in my case a successful career woman with a PhD. I obviously value education, work ethic, etc more than exterior looks, but why, given that we have the means, should I not improve the way i look? Can my husband be proud because I am smart successful and pretty? Or should he be embarrassed that i care about how I look? Should I? Should OP or her DH?

[Anonymous]

OP, your DH should be supportive because there's nothing worse than trying to be intimate with an insecure wife. All he wants to do is make love to you and you're complaining about your appearance.

He can't win either way so he might as well just pay for it and enjoy sex with you until you find another flaw to be insecure about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am 33 and getting Botox and fillers somewhat regularly. When time comes I will be happy to intervene with more invasive procedures. I am lucky to not need boob job, nose job or tummy tuck (maybe after baby number 3???) I feel better (I look really good from what friends and family say), my husband is really happy and proud and my kids are proud to have such a pretty mom. Win-win for everyone!

Also, I come from a family where looking good is important (men and women) so I value it a lot.

This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad.

I am the PP you are responding to. Why is it sad? I am telling OP that she should do whatever she wants if it will make her happier and more comfortable with her body. Who wouldn’t? My family is very happy and successful and we value physical appearance. My SILs all had boob jobs, tummy tucks, nose jobs etc. Plastic surgery is not WHO they are. They are moms, wives, business owners, and in my case a successful career woman with a PhD. I obviously value education, work ethic, etc more than exterior looks, but why, given that we have the means, should I not improve the way i look? Can my husband be proud because I am smart successful and pretty? Or should he be embarrassed that i care about how I look? Should I? Should OP or her DH?

NP: Because eventually your looks will fade and you will be left with nothing. Also, if your SILs all had nose jobs, it's likely that your kids inherited a "bad" nose (gah!). How long until you get them into the surgeon?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I've told my DW that I'll gladly pay for implants if she wants them, but those are mine. If you leave me, they come out. The next guy does not get to enjoy what I paid for. Let him buy his own.

That's psychotic that you view your wife as a piece of property. Let me guess, #MAGA right?

It's be funny if he wasn't. Why shouldn't she return the implants alongside the car and the jewels?