Disagreement with DH about breast lift
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Anonymous
 Who are they proud of, your doctor?
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Anonymous
What would happen if someone had an accident and was horribly scared for life even with surgery? I think we all want to look good, but a family valuing looking good seems superficial, and a therapy waiting to happen. |
Anonymous
You're missing the point where she is demanding to spend 5-figures on herself for an elective treatment. I'm betting this wouldn't even be a thread if OP had the money to do it without diving into family funds to achieve it. |
Anonymous
This is kind of sad..no not kind of.. it is sad. |
Anonymous
She's raising the next generation the same way. This is a gross post, it's bad enough to be this shallow at all, but to present your vanity like it's a virtue? Yikes. |
Anonymous
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OP, what do you think will happen in 20 years? Do you plan to stop having sex when you get older and everything gets wrinklier and saggier? I totally get how much your self-confidence about your appearance affects your sexual feelings.
But as an older woman, I will tell you that you have to work on coming to terms with your aging body. You may think there's a magical age where sex doesn't matter, but that's not true for most couples. I want to keep having sex until the day I die, and I want to live to be very old. I'm almost 60, and everything sags more every day. But orgasms and the fun of sex with my husband is a huge consolation. I struggled so much in my forties, looking in the mirror saying I hate this, I hate that. I had to work to get to an attitude where I thank my body for every amazing orgasm, for those babies I had, for every physical experience. And if a man is turned off by how it looks, I don't need him. |
Anonymous
We make a little less than that. Assuming you have a modest budget, $5K should be relatively easy to come up with. If your budget is not relatively modest, it should be easy enough to cut enough things to come up with $5K. Maybe it would be worth you and DH both doing some research and having a consultation to get the most accurate picture of the risks associated with this procedure. |
Anonymous
I am the PO you are responding to. I don’t think we are superficial, but we definitely donMt need therapy. None in my family ever did (compared to DCUM where every bad day people WASTE money on therapy). Everyone in my family is happy, successful, with great marriages and happy kids. I think a bit self indulgence helps a lot in life. People should try it before resurrecting to therapy. I am lucky, i know, but I would not hesitate improving myself (inside and out) |
Anonymous
Looks like some of that self-indulgence money would have been better spent on a decent education. |
Anonymous
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M here. My view is it's your choice and if you want to feel better about how you look, have at it. I also view a lift differently than I view implants. If it was something like lyposuction or a facelift, I might feel differently. That said, he does raise the a valid concern that is not without risks and that it isn't just you and he that could be impacted.
Watch a couple seasons of "Botched" (tv show on the E Network) and see how you feel. So many of these things do get botched. |
Anonymous
If you need Botox and fillers at 33 you lost the genetic lottery. Sorry. |
Anonymous
OP says he boob job is for her and her husband likes her as is. How is that not being selfish? |
Anonymous
How mean. No about me being fit, healthy and pretty |
Anonymous
Ahahah I have a PhD. Envious much? |
Anonymous
Actually you clearly have no idea how these things work. I use them so I won’t get the wrinkles you have |