I lost my daughter to her controlling BF and now I am losing my house

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP, I keep coming back To this post. I feel like you’re more worried about lack of access to the trust than to what’s going on with your daughter (ie. Losing your house).


The drama, the cutting, all of it should have been somewhat expected given your daughter was likely to have TBI. find a support group for yourself.

OP here : We have never had access to the trust other then for my daughters needs, so were not losing access to anything, other then the fact I lost my daughter to her controlling boyfriend .
No TBI does not mean its normal or expected for her to be suicidal, some drama and boyfriend issues are to be expected for a teenager and has little to do with her TBI.

So then why do you make it clear in THE TITLE of your thread that you are upset about losing your house?

And you need to learn about TBI. For someone who has been apparently dealing with it for 16 years, your knowledge is severely lacking. Emotional regulation and suicide are common problems.

As you can’t seem to use the Google, let me help you:

http://www.sprc.org/sites/default/files/migrate/library/TBI_Suicide.pdf

http://www.medicaldaily.com/suicide-risk-increases-3-fold-after-concussion-traumatic-brain-injury-372732

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/18850340



Have you even ever used that trust for professional assistance/ therapy for your daughter?

[Anonymous]

"I'm losing MY house" is in the title. OP, you're not losing YOUR house, because it's not YOURS. You're mooching off your daughter and now being kicked to the curb because someone else is in her life (and maybe possibly mooching too).

You do not have a healthy relationship with her nor do you sound very emotionally healthy yourself. THerapy (individual and joint with your daughter) could help, but if you didn't go via that route when she was under 18 having all these troubles (and you had the financial resources to do it), then now it's even less likely that you'd do it. It's more convenient to blame the third party and find everything unexplainable including your own role in brining this about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP, if she was cutting and you didn't understand why or didn't do anything to stop bullying or bad relationships when she was a minor, then no, you did not have a healthy relationship. In your narrative there is a lot of "all of a sudden" type of happenings. They are not sudden, you're failing to see reasons behind her behaviors.

OP here: How am I to stop her bad relationships and cutting and being bullied when I did not know about it ?. We were together everyday but she never talked to me about any of these issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:"I'm losing MY house" is in the title. OP, you're not losing YOUR house, because it's not YOURS. You're mooching off your daughter and now being kicked to the curb because someone else is in her life (and maybe possibly mooching too).

You do not have a healthy relationship with her nor do you sound very emotionally healthy yourself. THerapy (individual and joint with your daughter) could help, but if you didn't go via that route when she was under 18 having all these troubles (and you had the financial resources to do it), then now it's even less likely that you'd do it. It's more convenient to blame the third party and find everything unexplainable including your own role in brining this about.

Obviously you have not read the entire thread.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:"I'm losing MY house" is in the title. OP, you're not losing YOUR house, because it's not YOURS. You're mooching off your daughter and now being kicked to the curb because someone else is in her life (and maybe possibly mooching too).

You do not have a healthy relationship with her nor do you sound very emotionally healthy yourself. THerapy (individual and joint with your daughter) could help, but if you didn't go via that route when she was under 18 having all these troubles (and you had the financial resources to do it), then now it's even less likely that you'd do it. It's more convenient to blame the third party and find everything unexplainable including your own role in brining this about.

Obviously you have not read the entire thread.

Not PP, but I’ve read the entire thread and it would be my assessment as well.


Because you want something to be, doesn’t mean it is.