This "limerence" thing

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Anonymous wrote:Discovered my spouse is feeling this for someone else, and acting on it. Devastating.

Discovered DW is feeling this and is trying to act on it, but the object of her infatuation is actually being an adult about it. I found out several weeks ago and confronted her about it but she denied (I've seen texts, she was lying to me). Devastated as well, at first. Then pissed. Now I've accepted it - but looking for my own limerence. Not good.

What did her limerent object say to her and is she ignoring his rebuff? Sorry about your situation btw.

Interested as well as to how your wife tried to act on it. Was it as blunt as "I want to sleep with you"? And did this guy just shoot her down?

Also have to echo a prior poster: you may say you are looking for your own limerance? If you're being honest, are you really just looking for an affair?

To be honest, yes, just looking for an affair. I've been infatuated with many a woman over the years (including during our marriage) but have never so much as considered being unfaithful to DW. She needs to grow the F- up - particularly when there are vows and young lives in the mix...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Discovered my spouse is feeling this for someone else, and acting on it. Devastating.

Discovered DW is feeling this and is trying to act on it, but the object of her infatuation is actually being an adult about it. I found out several weeks ago and confronted her about it but she denied (I've seen texts, she was lying to me). Devastated as well, at first. Then pissed. Now I've accepted it - but looking for my own limerence. Not good.

What did her limerent object say to her and is she ignoring his rebuff? Sorry about your situation btw.

Interested as well as to how your wife tried to act on it. Was it as blunt as "I want to sleep with you"? And did this guy just shoot her down?

Also have to echo a prior poster: you may say you are looking for your own limerance? If you're being honest, are you really just looking for an affair?

To be honest, yes, just looking for an affair. I've been infatuated with many a woman over the years (including during our marriage) but have never so much as considered being unfaithful to DW. She needs to grow the F- up - particularly when there are vows and young lives in the mix...

What did the other guy say to her and is she acting like she can still get him? This sucks for you, sorry.