Small vent

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP of this thread here with an update.

My son is thriving in public kindergarten - in all ways.

He has required no special services, no interventions, is not presenting behavioral challenges at school, and is loving the academic setting. To the teachers and staff of his school he has presented as a very typical boy who needed to learn things like keeping his hands to himself, following directions, respecting classroom materials, etc... All of which he has done, as well as any other child in his class and better than many.

I attribute his success mostly to growing up. And also to to our determination to parent well, some professional advice last Spring (the gist of which was - we have no significant concerns, let him grow up a bit and we'll see how things go), and getting him in a setting with far better trained adults.

Is he perfect? Of course not. Am we perfect in parenting him? Of course not. We're all on a learning curve. But I can say with much more confidence now that I stand by my initial characterization of things in the original post.

I got of help from this forum over the last couple of years. Some of it was scary or sobering, some of it tremendously helpful and supportive, and all of it was valued. I just wanted to update this so that anyone who is facing similar challenges can see that this kind of best case scenario outcome is possible too.

So to anyone out there for whom our story rings true I just wanted to say hang in there. Have faith in your ability to parent (including pursuing whatever your child needs) and trust your instincts. If you genuinely think your kid is inherently ok, you might be right.

OP, this is condescending and self-congratulatory. Many of us have kids with serious issues and they are not struggling because of our lack of determination to parent well or our failure to seek guidance. Stop being a voyeur on this board while gleefuly informing us all that your son required no interventions. Gold star, I guess? Neither did my other two kids, nor do the overwhelming majority of kids out there.

And just because some of our kids have serious and life-long struggles doesn't mean that they are not inherently okay. Seriously, get out of here with your superiority complex and your need to tell us all how awesome your special son is.

You need to chill. I was very glad for the update and I think it is a helpful reminder to everyone on these boards whose first line of advice is always "Get a full neuropsych now! You are in denial!" Sometimes parents are not in denial. Sometimes they have a sucky teacher and their kid is going through a bad year.

Then there are no special needs, and it doesn't belong on here. Multiple people also suggested changing environments.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Maybe he needs a different school environment and that one is not a good fit.

+1 We had many, many conversations with DS's pre-k teacher. She went so far as to say that we need look at the home environment and perhaps things there need to be improved there. She said that she thought that DS had oppositional defiant disorder and that he should be tested. He was tested through MCPS Child Find, but for speech. During the eval they look at the whole kid and even watched him during class. I made certain to mention to his pre-k teacher that they had no behavioral concerns. I pulled DS shortly after that.

THis was very much like our experience also.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP of this thread here with an update.

My son is thriving in public kindergarten - in all ways.

He has required no special services, no interventions, is not presenting behavioral challenges at school, and is loving the academic setting. To the teachers and staff of his school he has presented as a very typical boy who needed to learn things like keeping his hands to himself, following directions, respecting classroom materials, etc... All of which he has done, as well as any other child in his class and better than many.

I attribute his success mostly to growing up. And also to to our determination to parent well, some professional advice last Spring (the gist of which was - we have no significant concerns, let him grow up a bit and we'll see how things go), and getting him in a setting with far better trained adults.

Is he perfect? Of course not. Am we perfect in parenting him? Of course not. We're all on a learning curve. But I can say with much more confidence now that I stand by my initial characterization of things in the original post.

I got of help from this forum over the last couple of years. Some of it was scary or sobering, some of it tremendously helpful and supportive, and all of it was valued. I just wanted to update this so that anyone who is facing similar challenges can see that this kind of best case scenario outcome is possible too.

So to anyone out there for whom our story rings true I just wanted to say hang in there. Have faith in your ability to parent (including pursuing whatever your child needs) and trust your instincts. If you genuinely think your kid is inherently ok, you might be right.

OP, this is condescending and self-congratulatory. Many of us have kids with serious issues and they are not struggling because of our lack of determination to parent well or our failure to seek guidance. Stop being a voyeur on this board while gleefuly informing us all that your son required no interventions. Gold star, I guess? Neither did my other two kids, nor do the overwhelming majority of kids out there.

And just because some of our kids have serious and life-long struggles doesn't mean that they are not inherently okay. Seriously, get out of here with your superiority complex and your need to tell us all how awesome your special son is.

You need to chill. I was very glad for the update and I think it is a helpful reminder to everyone on these boards whose first line of advice is always "Get a full neuropsych now! You are in denial!" Sometimes parents are not in denial. Sometimes they have a sucky teacher and their kid is going through a bad year.

Thank you for understanding pp. I was genuinely just trying to offer a ray of hope/encouragement for another parent who might find themselves seeking help here as I did (and as I have received from many of you).

I think there probably is little more to be gained by continuing this thread so I will ask Jeff to lock it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP of this thread here with an update.

My son is thriving in public kindergarten - in all ways.

He has required no special services, no interventions, is not presenting behavioral challenges at school, and is loving the academic setting. To the teachers and staff of his school he has presented as a very typical boy who needed to learn things like keeping his hands to himself, following directions, respecting classroom materials, etc... All of which he has done, as well as any other child in his class and better than many.

I attribute his success mostly to growing up. And also to to our determination to parent well, some professional advice last Spring (the gist of which was - we have no significant concerns, let him grow up a bit and we'll see how things go), and getting him in a setting with far better trained adults.

Is he perfect? Of course not. Am we perfect in parenting him? Of course not. We're all on a learning curve. But I can say with much more confidence now that I stand by my initial characterization of things in the original post.

I got of help from this forum over the last couple of years. Some of it was scary or sobering, some of it tremendously helpful and supportive, and all of it was valued. I just wanted to update this so that anyone who is facing similar challenges can see that this kind of best case scenario outcome is possible too.

So to anyone out there for whom our story rings true I just wanted to say hang in there. Have faith in your ability to parent (including pursuing whatever your child needs) and trust your instincts. If you genuinely think your kid is inherently ok, you might be right.

OP, this is condescending and self-congratulatory. Many of us have kids with serious issues and they are not struggling because of our lack of determination to parent well or our failure to seek guidance. Stop being a voyeur on this board while gleefuly informing us all that your son required no interventions. Gold star, I guess? Neither did my other two kids, nor do the overwhelming majority of kids out there.

And just because some of our kids have serious and life-long struggles doesn't mean that they are not inherently okay. Seriously, get out of here with your superiority complex and your need to tell us all how awesome your special son is.

You need to chill. I was very glad for the update and I think it is a helpful reminder to everyone on these boards whose first line of advice is always "Get a full neuropsych now! You are in denial!" Sometimes parents are not in denial. Sometimes they have a sucky teacher and their kid is going through a bad year.

Then there are no special needs, and it doesn't belong on here. Multiple people also suggested changing environments.

No one knew for sure that there were no special needs until she gave an update. That it is how it is helpful.