Broke up with my boyfriend over road rage incident

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Op. I broke up with someone because he was an angry man behind the wheel.

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Anonymous wrote:^ but everyone has to learn to drive, too, and they're always told, don't turn of you're not comfortable turning. Which is good advice.

You shouldn't be learning to drive during rush hour

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Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage... No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

+1 Think of good behavior and self-control in the car as an extension of the rules of the road. Rules make a complicated moving system work and by extension, keep more people moving faster and more safely. "Honking at people doing dumb things" is distracting to everyone around you (the driver you're honking at, the other drivers, and to you too). It's the community-level version of yelling at someone. It disrupts the system. That's why it's so selfish.

NP here.

The above is 100% incorrect. Failing to honk at people who violate the rules is being complicit in their rudeness and anti-social behavior. How will we ever discourage rude/dangerous driving if we don't express our disapproval to the perpetrators?

Failing to honk (when another party is engaging in misconduct) is the moral equivalent of staying silent when you hear someone tell an inappropriate joke. You're complicit.

I won't be part of that. Drive like an a** in my vicinity and I'll let you know.

That is one of the stupidest things I've ever read.

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Anonymous wrote:Good job OP. It's nice to see a woman on here who made a wise choice instead of getting saddled with the loser for life which is sadly too often the case. Cheers to not tolerating angry douchebags

Pffft yeah if everyone who gets angry in the car at one time or another is a "loser for life douchebag" then everyone in the DC area is a "loser for life douchebag".

If you break up with a guy for getting mad and honking the horn, get used to being single and start your cat collection today.

Or you could base your judgment on the frequency of the behavior like a sensible person. Anger once a day is one thing, anger once a year is another.

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Anonymous wrote:Good job OP. It's nice to see a woman on here who made a wise choice instead of getting saddled with the loser for life which is sadly too often the case. Cheers to not tolerating angry douchebags

Pffft yeah if everyone who gets angry in the car at one time or another is a "loser for life douchebag" then everyone in the DC area is a "loser for life douchebag".

If you break up with a guy for getting mad and honking the horn, get used to being single and start your cat collection today.

Or you could base your judgment on the frequency of the behavior like a sensible person. Anger once a day is one thing, anger once a year is another.

Most people in the DC area, like my husband and myself, get angry and curse or speak to ourselves in the car without throwing tantrums.

[Anonymous]

20 years ago I was sitting in my car at a payphone; I got some news I didn't like so I pulled the receiver in, slammed the car door and took off. I was expecting to just take the receiver with me but instead I took the entire phone booth down and dragged it for about 100 yards, while driving I opened my door to release it onto the beach parking lot.

The story above is one of my wife's favorites, because it's so completely out of character for me it's almost ridiculous.

Maybe your boyfriend was having a shit day, maybe you make him stressed, who knows, but if your hold on the relationship is so fragile that a minor expression of aggravation has you rethinking your place in the world I suggest you part ways now.

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Anonymous wrote: 20 years ago I was sitting in my car at a payphone; I got some news I didn't like so I pulled the receiver in, slammed the car door and took off. I was expecting to just take the receiver with me but instead I took the entire phone booth down and dragged it for about 100 yards, while driving I opened my door to release it onto the beach parking lot.

The story above is one of my wife's favorites, because it's so completely out of character for me it's almost ridiculous.

Maybe your boyfriend was having a shit day, maybe you make him stressed, who knows, but if your hold on the relationship is so fragile that a minor expression of aggravation has you rethinking your place in the world I suggest you part ways now.

Oh, PP. These are not analogous situations

It is not a one time thing. She mentioned he had done questionable things with driving before. What do you think she is referring to? The guy has anger issues.

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Anonymous wrote:We were supposed to be having a nice dinner, and a long romantic weekend.

On the way to dinner we were behind a car that had stopped to turn on a side street. The driver had signaled long before making the stop. The driver had to stop because there was oncoming traffic. My boyfriend starting beeping on horn like crazy person.
He had room to go around if he was that impatient.

I could see carseats in the back of the other car too. What if there were kids?

He's done questionable things with driving before and I ignored it, bt tonight's incident really upset me, and he didn't think it was a big deal.

Good for you! Road rage drivers are not only dangerous to other drivers and pedestrians but they're also dangerous to themselves and their loved ones.

They're also immature, selfish assholes who don't deserve sex, nevertheless love.

Way to go!

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Anonymous wrote: 20 years ago I was sitting in my car at a payphone; I got some news I didn't like so I pulled the receiver in, slammed the car door and took off. I was expecting to just take the receiver with me but instead I took the entire phone booth down and dragged it for about 100 yards, while driving I opened my door to release it onto the beach parking lot.

The story above is one of my wife's favorites, because it's so completely out of character for me it's almost ridiculous.

Maybe your boyfriend was having a shit day, maybe you make him stressed, who knows, but if your hold on the relationship is so fragile that a minor expression of aggravation has you rethinking your place in the world I suggest you part ways now.

I sincerely doubt this was entirely out of character. I am trying to imagine the news you got that you thought the appropriate response was destruction of public property. I know people like you and unless you were having a mental break, there is no way this was a one off, no matter how deluded you are.

For the vigilante honker--please stop unless it is a truly dangerous situation. 1, the honking becomes meaningless in the city 2, It is really scary for other drivers to have randos honking. 3, You should only use your horn in a true emergency, you should not hold it down, and you should not abuse it.

No matter who scared or how right you are, honking creates a dangerous distraction for other drivers so use it sparingly.

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Anonymous wrote: 20 years ago I was sitting in my car at a payphone; I got some news I didn't like so I pulled the receiver in, slammed the car door and took off. I was expecting to just take the receiver with me but instead I took the entire phone booth down and dragged it for about 100 yards, while driving I opened my door to release it onto the beach parking lot.

The story above is one of my wife's favorites, because it's so completely out of character for me it's almost ridiculous.

Maybe your boyfriend was having a shit day, maybe you make him stressed, who knows, but if your hold on the relationship is so fragile that a minor expression of aggravation has you rethinking your place in the world I suggest you part ways now.

I sincerely doubt this was entirely out of character. I am trying to imagine the news you got that you thought the appropriate response was destruction of public property. I know people like you and unless you were having a mental break, there is no way this was a one off, no matter how deluded you are.

For the vigilante honker--please stop unless it is a truly dangerous situation. 1, the honking becomes meaningless in the city 2, It is really scary for other drivers to have randos honking. 3, You should only use your horn in a true emergency, you should not hold it down, and you should not abuse it.

No matter who scared or how right you are, honking creates a dangerous distraction for other drivers so use it sparingly.

Who are all these people who have the fear of god put in them by honking? We live in dc. People are honking all the time. I mean this with complete sincerity, if honking makes you so terrified that your driving is compromised, you should not be driving in the dc area. You yourself are a hazard because honking in the city is a constant state of being.

Hey PP don't you love it how everyone is completely sure about who we are in real life and are diagnosing us left and right?

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^In the city, at lower speeds, honking happens and you move on. And it happens non stop. I know. I lived with it in New York. But honking accomplishes nothing in those driving situations other than noise pollution and aggravation.

On highways, in suburbs, on busy roads not in the city (and yes even in the city, too), honking can startle drivers. Sorry, it just does. It may not startle you, but the fact that you are immune means nothing.

Other people are in fact startled by honking and it can create a dangerous distraction.

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Anonymous wrote:^In the city, at lower speeds, honking happens and you move on. And it happens non stop. I know. I lived with it in New York. But honking accomplishes nothing in those driving situations other than noise pollution and aggravation.

On highways, in suburbs, on busy roads not in the city (and yes even in the city, too), honking can startle drivers. Sorry, it just does. It may not startle you, but the fact that you are immune means nothing.

Other people are in fact startled by honking and it can create a dangerous distraction.

Yes PP.

It startles me and distracts me when someone honks several times. I start trying to figure out what exactly is going on, whether oil is leaking out of my car, whether I have a flat tire. etc.

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Anonymous wrote:^In the city, at lower speeds, honking happens and you move on. And it happens non stop. I know. I lived with it in New York. But honking accomplishes nothing in those driving situations other than noise pollution and aggravation.

On highways, in suburbs, on busy roads not in the city (and yes even in the city, too), honking can startle drivers. Sorry, it just does. It may not startle you, but the fact that you are immune means nothing.

Other people are in fact startled by honking and it can create a dangerous distraction.

I only honk on a highway a few scenarios

1) someone is trying to merge into my lane and doesn't see me
2) someone is like, straddling the line and therefore I can't safely pass because their position is unpredictable
3) someone is driving like a crazy person in traffic and weaving in and out and cut into my lane really close to my car

I'm going to put an asterisk on this and give a notable mention to people merging onto the GW parkway from 395N towards alexandria and who hang out at the merge point for a half an hour until 15 cars are lined up behind them. I have occasionally (rarely) honked at someone in this position who has forgone numerous opportunities to merge if there are a lot of cars waiting.

- mild road rage lady

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^In the city, at lower speeds, honking happens and you move on. And it happens non stop. I know. I lived with it in New York. But honking accomplishes nothing in those driving situations other than noise pollution and aggravation.

On highways, in suburbs, on busy roads not in the city (and yes even in the city, too), honking can startle drivers. Sorry, it just does. It may not startle you, but the fact that you are immune means nothing.

Other people are in fact startled by honking and it can create a dangerous distraction.

This is ridiculous. Sometimes you're about to be in a collision, and you need to honk. The other driver swerves or stops at that point.

Try driving around the Chevy Chase Circle on Connecticut at rush hour, when cars coming down Connecticut don't yield to cars inside the circle until they honk.

And yes, I've lived and driven in NY too. I don't believe in honking just to show someone they made a mistake, but I do honk when someone is cutting me off and about to kill me and my little kids. Everything in moderation.

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Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote: 20 years ago I was sitting in my car at a payphone; I got some news I didn't like so I pulled the receiver in, slammed the car door and took off. I was expecting to just take the receiver with me but instead I took the entire phone booth down and dragged it for about 100 yards, while driving I opened my door to release it onto the beach parking lot.

The story above is one of my wife's favorites, because it's so completely out of character for me it's almost ridiculous.

Maybe your boyfriend was having a shit day, maybe you make him stressed, who knows, but if your hold on the relationship is so fragile that a minor expression of aggravation has you rethinking your place in the world I suggest you part ways now.

I sincerely doubt this was entirely out of character. I am trying to imagine the news you got that you thought the appropriate response was destruction of public property. I know people like you and unless you were having a mental break, there is no way this was a one off, no matter how deluded you are.

For the vigilante honker--please stop unless it is a truly dangerous situation. 1, the honking becomes meaningless in the city 2, It is really scary for other drivers to have randos honking. 3, You should only use your horn in a true emergency, you should not hold it down, and you should not abuse it.

No matter who scared or how right you are, honking creates a dangerous distraction for other drivers so use it sparingly.

Who are all these people who have the fear of god put in them by honking? We live in dc. People are honking all the time. I mean this with complete sincerity, if honking makes you so terrified that your driving is compromised, you should not be driving in the dc area. You yourself are a hazard because honking in the city is a constant state of being.

Hey PP don't you love it how everyone is completely sure about who we are in real life and are diagnosing us left and right?

I think that anyone who is scared of a horn should probably see a therapist.