Broke up with my boyfriend over road rage incident

[Anonymous]

We were supposed to be having a nice dinner, and a long romantic weekend.

On the way to dinner we were behind a car that had stopped to turn on a side street. The driver had signaled long before making the stop. The driver had to stop because there was oncoming traffic. My boyfriend starting beeping on horn like crazy person.
He had room to go around if he was that impatient.

I could see carseats in the back of the other car too. What if there were kids?

He's done questionable things with driving before and I ignored it, bt tonight's incident really upset me, and he didn't think it was a big deal.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:We were supposed to be having a nice dinner, and a long romantic weekend.

On the way to dinner we were behind a car that had stopped to turn on a side street. The driver had signaled long before making the stop. The driver had to stop because there was oncoming traffic. My boyfriend starting beeping on horn like crazy person.
He had room to go around if he was that impatient.

I could see carseats in the back of the other car too. What if there were kids?

He's done questionable things with driving before and I ignored it, bt tonight's incident really upset me, and he didn't think it was a big deal.

You broke up with someone for honking at someone?

[Anonymous]

You did the right thing. Sounds like your bf has anger management issues and this isn't the first time he's gotten into a rage over NOTHING.

[Anonymous]

I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

[Anonymous]

I could never date someone who had road rage. That's just one of those things that, IMO, is indicative of so much more. And a general entitlement/intelligence/anger issue.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:We were supposed to be having a nice dinner, and a long romantic weekend.

On the way to dinner we were behind a car that had stopped to turn on a side street. The driver had signaled long before making the stop. The driver had to stop because there was oncoming traffic. My boyfriend starting beeping on horn like crazy person.
He had room to go around if he was that impatient.

I could see carseats in the back of the other car too. What if there were kids?

He's done questionable things with driving before and I ignored it, bt tonight's incident really upset me, and he didn't think it was a big deal.

You broke up with someone for honking at someone?

NP. Yes. What about that has flummoxed you? Or do you have road rage and this post has triggered you?

[Anonymous]

Good call on breaking up. Your gut feeling is the way to go here. If you even think about breaking up - you have to do it. He has a problem.

[Anonymous]

Good call. Unless he is aware and actively working on anger/anxiety/impulsivity, major red flag.

[Anonymous]

I'm assuming that this is the last straw, OP.
If it is, then good for you for having the courage to leave him.

Also, no potential mate will ever be perfect, and there will be flaws you will either have to live with or try to persuade him to tweak. The trick is to pick someone whose flaws you can live with, and who can live with yours!

[Anonymous]

Good for you OP. It sounds like you definitely made the right choice.

How did he react when you broke up with him or are you waiting to do it?

[Anonymous]

Op if he is otherwise a good man just talk to him and clearly state your concerns and firmly tell him he has to change for safety reasons or you split. Tell him you are worried what he is capable of doing just watching his road rage behavior? Also tell him you won't tolerate any abusive behavior.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

[Anonymous]

I have a feeling that it wasn't the honking, per se, but the repeated pattern of childish behavior that the OP objected to.

If he can't handle the stress of having a car stop in front of him for a minute to take a turn, how he is going to deal with real stress?

[Anonymous]

Good decision, OP. People who react to something perfectly legal like that are unhinged.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have a feeling that it wasn't the honking, per se, but the repeated pattern of childish behavior that the OP objected to.

If he can't handle the stress of having a car stop in front of him for a minute to take a turn, how he is going to deal with real stress?

+1

How will he deal with a baby screaming and refusing to go to sleep? The consequences are very different in that case for if he "loses it" and cannot control himself...