Broke up with my boyfriend over road rage incident

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Honking the horn is now considered road rage? For real?

It depends why you are honking. Are you signaling trouble or just being aggressive?

Honking several times to show your disapproval of the other driver's past conduct is road rage.

As a driver, it is very distracting when someone is honking over and over again. Nothing good can come out of it.

It would be nice if people didn't display bad conduct. OP case sounds like they were legitimate, but there are so many rude and rule breaking drivers, I wish the police had an app or something.

[Anonymous]

I don't think what the bf did equates to road rage. Road rage is where someone is taking actual physical aggression. And they give it the name road rage to acknowledge that it occurs because of being on the road and driving and at doesn't mean the rage extends elsewhere in a person's life. It's a situational rage that could be triggered in virtually anyone.

I think OP is the type to overreact and if her bf was smart he would just move on. To me, it says that OP is a bit more dramatic than need be and this will just continue to be an overarching theme. I could easily see her coming here and posting in a few years "my DH neglects our baby" and then find out it's because he looks at his phone or watches tv while holding the baby.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don't think what the bf did equates to road rage. Road rage is where someone is taking actual physical aggression. And they give it the name road rage to acknowledge that it occurs because of being on the road and driving and at doesn't mean the rage extends elsewhere in a person's life. It's a situational rage that could be triggered in virtually anyone.

I think OP is the type to overreact and if her bf was smart he would just move on. To me, it says that OP is a bit more dramatic than need be and this will just continue to be an overarching theme. I could easily see her coming here and posting in a few years "my DH neglects our baby" and then find out it's because he looks at his phone or watches tv while holding the baby.

Do you agree that honking unnecessarily can disrupt another driver's concentration?

It's quite unnerving to me, and makes it difficult for me to focus on my driving.

[Anonymous]

OP again,

Didn't expect to get this type of response.
For the person who accused me of wanting applause, I just posted mostly to see if anyone could relate. I never thought of breaking up with someone for road rage.
Yes I do consider what he did road rage.
We were in a neighborhood street because he wanted to take a shortcut to the restaurant.

There's a main street with two way traffic, if you want to turn you have to stop if there's approaching traffic.

The other driver didn't stop short or suddenly.
They slowed down and signaled with plenty of time and warning and there were cars coming.

But my now ex was just in a hurry. Like I said he could have gone round.

We weren't even waiting that long not even 2 minutes.

He was slamming on the horn.

I think what bothered me most about it afterwards is that he didn't seem to care, wouldn't even consider another viewpoint and instead chose to call me names.

It's going to be difficult to explain why I broke up with Mr. Perfect thought.

[Anonymous]

Smart to dump him OP. Do you want to be explaining daddy's behavior to your kids in five or ten years?

Nope!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage... No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

+1 Think of good behavior and self-control in the car as an extension of the rules of the road. Rules make a complicated moving system work and by extension, keep more people moving faster and more safely. "Honking at people doing dumb things" is distracting to everyone around you (the driver you're honking at, the other drivers, and to you too). It's the community-level version of yelling at someone. It disrupts the system. That's why it's so selfish.

Yes, it was actually the very first class in driver's ed back when I was in school. Driving angry is driving impaired.

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

If your car is not completely in the turning lane and therefor, your cars ass is blocking my lane, yes, you will get honked at. That is dangerous and I am "warning" you to move over more

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Honking the horn is now considered road rage? For real?

In DC, yes it is considered aggressive driving to use your horn inappropriately. The horn is mean to as a warning to be used to ensure safety, alert a driver of a hazard or your presence.

http://dmv.dc.gov/service/aggressive-driving

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

If your car is not completely in the turning lane and therefor, your cars ass is blocking my lane, yes, you will get honked at. That is dangerous and I am "warning" you to move over more

Nothing wrong with that. If your honk can get a driver to move over, yeah. But honking to show your disapproval of the driver's conduct and nothing else, is disruptive.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

If your car is not completely in the turning lane and therefor, your cars ass is blocking my lane, yes, you will get honked at. That is dangerous and I am "warning" you to move over more

Actually, the first bolded statement is precisely why you are NOT supposed to use your horn in this situation. A nervous driver who isn't sure if it safe to go, gets honked at, reacts and hits the gas at the wrong time causing an accident. You should be especially cautious around a driver who seems timid. Are they annoying? Sure. But don't make matters worse by showing them road rage. This is considered aggressive driving on your part.

And if they are blocking your lane, you stop and wait for the dummy to clear. Yes, they suck, but you have made the situation even more dangerous.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

If your car is not completely in the turning lane and therefor, your cars ass is blocking my lane, yes, you will get honked at. That is dangerous and I am "warning" you to move over more

Nothing wrong with that. If your honk can get a driver to move over, yeah. But honking to show your disapproval of the driver's conduct and nothing else, is disruptive.

But if a driver is blocking a lane of traffic because of their misconduct, what recourse do drivers have? How do we ensure folk follow the rules?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You did the right thing. Sounds like your bf has anger management issues and this isn't the first time he's gotten into a rage over NOTHING.

Agreed. Wait til it's turned on you. It always is...

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Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

If your car is not completely in the turning lane and therefor, your cars ass is blocking my lane, yes, you will get honked at. That is dangerous and I am "warning" you to move over more

The fact that you feel entitled to "recourse" is one of the foundations of road rage. It's that entitlement, that vindictivity, that need to express that someone did something that you don't approve of and to make sure that they know it... It's that mentality that leads to road rage.

Nothing wrong with that. If your honk can get a driver to move over, yeah. But honking to show your disapproval of the driver's conduct and nothing else, is disruptive.

But if a driver is blocking a lane of traffic because of their misconduct, what recourse do drivers have? How do we ensure folk follow the rules?

[Anonymous]

OP, serious question.... Would you have divorced him for road rage if he was your husband and not boy friend?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Smart to dump him OP. Do you want to be explaining daddy's behavior to your kids in five or ten years?

Nope!

Agree. Additionally, do you want your kids in the car when he behaves like that? He may honk at the wrong person and place your children in danger.