Broke up with my boyfriend over road rage incident

[Anonymous]

OP here.
It wasn't just a simple honk.
He was slamming on the horn obnoxiously. The other driver didn't do anything wrong.
He's been impatient before, but in this case there wasn't a reason or away he justify it he was just being a jerk. Like I said he could have gone around.

As for breaking up. I confronted him about what he did, and how it made me uncomfortable. He didn't see it was a problem. Made excuses , said I was uptight among other things. So we're done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here.
It wasn't just a simple honk.
He was slamming on the horn obnoxiously. The other driver didn't do anything wrong.
He's been impatient before, but in this case there wasn't a reason or away he justify it he was just being a jerk. Like I said he could have gone around.

As for breaking up. I confronted him about what he did, and how it made me uncomfortable. He didn't see it was a problem. Made excuses , said I was uptight among other things. So we're done.

Good for you OP. He sounds like a Grade A, class 1 jerk.

[Anonymous]

Okay. Sure, he shouldn't have honked. But I don't think honking counts as "road rage." Being rude isn't the same as road rage.

I also think that you have issues as well. It sounds like you didn't get the response from him you wanted and you didn't like that he suggested you were uptight, so you broke up.

If you're happy, then great. But I'm not sure what the point of your thread is. You aren't looking for advice. Just looking for applause?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Sure, he shouldn't have honked. But I don't think honking counts as "road rage." Being rude isn't the same as road rage.

I also think that you have issues as well. It sounds like you didn't get the response from him you wanted and you didn't like that he suggested you were uptight, so you broke up.

If you're happy, then great. But I'm not sure what the point of your thread is. You aren't looking for advice. Just looking for applause?

No, it does not. It sounds like OP made the absolute right choice and has a good head on her shoulders since she automatically recognized this as dysfunctional behavior and a warning sign.

Run along now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay. Sure, he shouldn't have honked. But I don't think honking counts as "road rage." Being rude isn't the same as road rage.

I also think that you have issues as well. It sounds like you didn't get the response from him you wanted and you didn't like that he suggested you were uptight, so you broke up.

If you're happy, then great. But I'm not sure what the point of your thread is. You aren't looking for advice. Just looking for applause?

Wait a minute. When you are dating, shouldn't you generally get a favorable reaction/discussion when things come up? There's not a chance I would have stayed with someone who blew my feelings off. We can of course disagree, but blow me off, make me feel dumb? No thanks.

[Anonymous]

I did the same thing, OP.

The ex does not know that this is the main reason why we broke up..

I once dated a hot, very tall guy who was in a gun carrying profession.

He was perfect, but that road rage scared the shit out of me.

He yelled profanities at other drivers through the window. He would honk several times at drivers.

He was nothing but gentle and loving towards me. but when I thought about that gun he carried around every weekday and that rage, I couldn't deal.


In contrast, my DH is calm. No yelling, no honking. If a driver does crazy stuff, he curses under his breadth. You can barely hear him.

[Anonymous]

I once dated another super muscley dude that was really nice around me. Then he made a Facebook post about being stuck behind an idiot driver so he started throwing pennies at the car out his window

This was after we broke up, and occasionally I think about it and am so damn glad that I broke things off with him.

Ain't nobody got time for an irrational, bats#** crazy male!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would not break up with someone over this. We also don't know the whole story. Maybe the car in front could have went but got scared and waited. Maybe the other car could have moved over into another lane but blocked the lane

So you honk at them? And while turning????

+1. I have never honked at anyone in anger.

I use my honk to warn drivers when there is trouble, e.g. our cars are too close to each other, they are backing up into my car.

[Anonymous]

Right decision, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote: That's just one of those things that, IMO, is indicative of so much more. And a general entitlement/intelligence/anger issue.

+1 OP based on his reaction when you talked to him about it, sounds like you made the right call.

[Anonymous]

I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage. I certainly honk at people doing dumb things and stupid drivers make me very irritated. I will occasionally complain with some passion about someone making my life more difficult or slowing me down. I have never gotten out of my car or followed someone or shouted through a window so that's why I'm calling it mild to moderate. It's certainly not my best feature. But no one is perfect.

Outside of the car I am reasonable, level headed, slow to anger, a peace maker. I am a kind and patient mother, my husband and I never raise our voices to one another in anger, we talk everything through calmly and respectfully because we both loathe yelling.

Something about driving just gets my hackles up, I would also dismiss summertime who told me this was indicative of some inner simmering rage that was going to bubble over into spousal abuse one day, because that's ridiculous. Slow drivers are just my pet peeve. If some lady list her temper cause her husband left dishes in the sink no one would call them a rage time bomb. I feel about slow drivers the way you feel about dirty sinks, that's really, genuinely all there is to it.

Sounds like you weren't compatible op so good you broke up but I'm going to need more than one honking incident that appears to have not been accompanied by any yelling at you to convince me he was some lunatic in disguise. No one's perfect!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage. I certainly honk at people doing dumb things and stupid drivers make me very irritated. I will occasionally complain with some passion about someone making my life more difficult or slowing me down. I have never gotten out of my car or followed someone or shouted through a window so that's why I'm calling it mild to moderate. It's certainly not my best feature. But no one is perfect.

Outside of the car I am reasonable, level headed, slow to anger, a peace maker. I am a kind and patient mother, my husband and I never raise our voices to one another in anger, we talk everything through calmly and respectfully because we both loathe yelling.

Something about driving just gets my hackles up, I would also dismiss summertime who told me this was indicative of some inner simmering rage that was going to bubble over into spousal abuse one day, because that's ridiculous. Slow drivers are just my pet peeve. If some lady list her temper cause her husband left dishes in the sink no one would call them a rage time bomb. I feel about slow drivers the way you feel about dirty sinks, that's really, genuinely all there is to it.

Sounds like you weren't compatible op so good you broke up but I'm going to need more than one honking incident that appears to have not been accompanied by any yelling at you to convince me he was some lunatic in disguise. No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage. I certainly honk at people doing dumb things and stupid drivers make me very irritated. I will occasionally complain with some passion about someone making my life more difficult or slowing me down. I have never gotten out of my car or followed someone or shouted through a window so that's why I'm calling it mild to moderate. It's certainly not my best feature. But no one is perfect.

Outside of the car I am reasonable, level headed, slow to anger, a peace maker. I am a kind and patient mother, my husband and I never raise our voices to one another in anger, we talk everything through calmly and respectfully because we both loathe yelling.

Something about driving just gets my hackles up, I would also dismiss summertime who told me this was indicative of some inner simmering rage that was going to bubble over into spousal abuse one day, because that's ridiculous. Slow drivers are just my pet peeve. If some lady list her temper cause her husband left dishes in the sink no one would call them a rage time bomb. I feel about slow drivers the way you feel about dirty sinks, that's really, genuinely all there is to it.

Sounds like you weren't compatible op so good you broke up but I'm going to need more than one honking incident that appears to have not been accompanied by any yelling at you to convince me he was some lunatic in disguise. No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

For honking and thinking slow drivers suck? I've been in one serious accident in my entire life and it happened in sheeting rain in pitch black night in an empty highway. I'll take my pretty stellar driving record and continue on with my life. Do you get honked at a lot? Maybe look inward.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage. I certainly honk at people doing dumb things and stupid drivers make me very irritated. I will occasionally complain with some passion about someone making my life more difficult or slowing me down. I have never gotten out of my car or followed someone or shouted through a window so that's why I'm calling it mild to moderate. It's certainly not my best feature. But no one is perfect.

Outside of the car I am reasonable, level headed, slow to anger, a peace maker. I am a kind and patient mother, my husband and I never raise our voices to one another in anger, we talk everything through calmly and respectfully because we both loathe yelling.

Something about driving just gets my hackles up, I would also dismiss summertime who told me this was indicative of some inner simmering rage that was going to bubble over into spousal abuse one day, because that's ridiculous. Slow drivers are just my pet peeve. If some lady list her temper cause her husband left dishes in the sink no one would call them a rage time bomb. I feel about slow drivers the way you feel about dirty sinks, that's really, genuinely all there is to it.

Sounds like you weren't compatible op so good you broke up but I'm going to need more than one honking incident that appears to have not been accompanied by any yelling at you to convince me he was some lunatic in disguise. No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

For honking and thinking slow drivers suck? I've been in one serious accident in my entire life and it happened in sheeting rain in pitch black night in an empty highway. I'll take my pretty stellar driving record and continue on with my life. Do you get honked at a lot? Maybe look inward.

If everyone thinks you're crazy, it's time to look in the mirror. Read the consensus on this thread and take a moment to think about how others see you when you are on the road. You have a lot to work on.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I will admit I have what I call mild to moderate road rage... No one's perfect!

Figure your issues out. You are a danger to others on the road

+1 Think of good behavior and self-control in the car as an extension of the rules of the road. Rules make a complicated moving system work and by extension, keep more people moving faster and more safely. "Honking at people doing dumb things" is distracting to everyone around you (the driver you're honking at, the other drivers, and to you too). It's the community-level version of yelling at someone. It disrupts the system. That's why it's so selfish.