Classy way to word DD's elite college acceptance without triggering public friends & family?

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You just need to make sure it does not seem like you find public school grads inferior...like your post here does!

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Love posts when kids have made a decision (I'm happy for the parents and kids). Do not like posts showing all the stops on the college tours.

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Anonymous wrote:We never told anyone when our kid got into a top Ivy. There's no need to gloat OP. Why do you need to tell anyone?

+1000

I completely agree -- why do you need to say anything at all? Now more than ever, the most tasteful thing -- and certainly most refreshing thing -- is being quiet about your child's achievements.

+1 Yeesh. If it's that serious that it's likely to "trigger" anyone, just don't do it. Presumably these are people you communicate with in real life and they'll find out anyway right?

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This. When DC got into Columbia (from public fwiw) I didn't put anything on social media. It's DC's accomplishment, not mine.

Plus I didn't want DC2 to think I was obsessing over or boasting about DC1's fabulous triumph. Keeping expectations reasonable for DC2 was way more important to me that what anybody else reading my FB might or might not think.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This. When DC got into Columbia (from public fwiw) I didn't put anything on social media. It's DC's accomplishment, not mine.

Plus I didn't want DC2 to think I was obsessing over or boasting about DC1's fabulous triumph. Keeping expectations reasonable for DC2 was way more important to me that what anybody else reading my FB might or might not think.

+1

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Why the need to announce anything?

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

And please teach them not to share these kinds of news. Seriously, why?

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

And please teach them not to share these kinds of news. Seriously, why?

Here's why seniors share: it's a big deal. Also, sharing is a way of networking. Going away from home is a bit scary even when it's very exciting. So if a senior posts "Gonna be a Smithie come fall!" then their bunkmate from camp when they were 11 can see that and post "hey, my cousin's best friend is also going there - look for Natasha J!" and then the original senior feels less alone, and has a connection. Plus someone else will post "Hey, I'll just be at BU - let's get together one weekend".

We as adults talk all the time about having a support network. College is often when kids start building their own.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

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Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

[Anonymous]

Funny how so many people have been triggered already.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Or ANY college. I'm starting to see posts from friends' with seniors and I'm as happy for the one planning to go to a local state university as the one who is going to Brown. I enjoy learning where my friends' kids will be going on this next big step in life.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Or ANY college. I'm starting to see posts from friends' with seniors and I'm as happy for the one planning to go to a local state university as the one who is going to Brown. I enjoy learning where my friends' kids will be going on this next big step in life.

Good correction. And I agree. Even if it's vocational school. You should be proud.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Don't assume people are jealous for advising OP not to brag. In my experience, many of the most accomplished people I know are also the most humble. For example, the top execs at the company where I work (a Fortune 100 company) are very humble and low-key.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You shouldn't share this. It's not your news. It's your child's news. It's on them to share.

This.

I think there must be a lot of parents on this board with underachievers who are extremely jealous of other people's success.

There is absolutely nothing wrong with being proud of a child being accepted into an elite college.

Don't assume people are jealous for advising OP not to brag. In my experience, many of the most accomplished people I know are also the most humble. For example, the top execs at the company where I work (a Fortune 100 company) are very humble and low-key.

+100

When my DS got into all three high schools to which he applied, I wanted to post about the school he chose with a photo of the acceptance letter on Facebook. DH would not let me do this. And he is an extremely successful leader in his field. I, on the other hand, love to brag about my kids. My gut (and DH) told me not to do it this time.