DH doesn't want me to be "one of those people"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

ITA. There are some shrewish, petty women in this area. I get it, you weren't given the genes, but you need to find other ways to make yourself appealing - because knocking other women is only making you uglier, especially to your DH!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate. Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face. You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women. It really is not that difficult to understand. You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.

[Anonymous]

OP, your husband is a jerk. Since he does this a lot, as you mentioned, I am going to say this: His accusations to you are actually his own issues. This is called projecting. People who are wrong in the head do it.

Look for an overall pattern: does he try to make you think that something you are right about is actually wrong? If he does this, chances are you're in an emotionally abusive relationship.

To the PPS who will call me extreme: I don't care. This happened to me, and I was told to "get over it" or "Don't worry about it" or "don't make a big deal out of nothing." And it's not nothing. Red flags are raised for a reason.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such an idiotic discussion. All these people dont make comments to their spouses about the appearance of people on TV? Seriously? Liars, all of you.

I've never commented that I don't think a woman is attractive and I can't recall my husband doing so either.

When a sophomoric jerk politician attacks another politician's spouse on the basis of looks I feel bad for both women and I'd never jump into the fray and play attractiveness umpire. Can't see my husband doing that in a million years.

However, if my husband did we wouldn't have a giant argument. Instead I'd say something like "it seems unfair to judge her. I guarantee she has no control over whether trump insults other people." And he'd most likely say he understood. And that would be that.

It sounds like OP and her husband bicker about many things.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate. Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face. You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women. It really is not that difficult to understand. You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.

Ha ha, this is hysterical. I'm not OP either. I can't even begin to imagine the world view behind this post.

[Anonymous]

Your DH sounds like a condescending controlling person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I agree OP, it's called observation and having an opinion.

The real issue are people who can't tolerate another's point of view. I'm afraid you might have married someone like that. Next time tell DH, "your entitled to your opinion, same with me".

It's like those wacko protester's who want to stop a convention and not allow a candidate to speak.

This.

Most posters on here are completely missing the point, and mostly sound like men who can't believe that a woman might not find Melania Trump hot. (Many people think she's a butterface, actually.) and her DH shouldn't be bullying her and belittling her and engaging in character assassination over something so petty as offering her honest opinion of some celebrity trophy wife. I agree that he sounds incapable of dealing with opinions that don't mirror his own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate. Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face. You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women. It really is not that difficult to understand. You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.

Ha ha, this is hysterical. I'm not OP either. I can't even begin to imagine the world view behind this post.

+1. Hilarious. Reads too many feminist blogs.

[Anonymous]

Part of being a liberal is being hypersensitive and eager to be offended. Life choices. Duh.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate. Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face. You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women. It really is not that difficult to understand. You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.

Ha ha, this is hysterical. I'm not OP either. I can't even begin to imagine the world view behind this post.

+1. Hilarious. Reads too many feminist blogs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think you ought to be able to express an opinion about anyone's - anyone's - looks without your husband making it into a character discussion. People have looks. It's OK to discuss them.

And if your opinion happens to cast you in a shrewish, small, unflattering light well let the chips fall where they may.

LMAO

PP, she's doing her model grin or whatever it is. I kid you not: You have to be batshit crazy if you refuse to admit that an Eastern European model is not better looking than 99.99999999% of women in this thread OP should post her picture so we all partake in a discussion of her looks.

OP here. My complaint was that my husband responded to what I thought was an innocuous (albeit petty as I see now) comment with an attack on my character--which he often does in arguments--rather than just saying, "I disagree with you." or "When you say you don't think Melania Trump is attractive, you sound petty." For the record, I am not arguing about whether I'm more attractive than a model. I stated that I am not insecure about my looks and that insecurity wasn't the reason I said I don't find MT outstandingly beautiful. But I appreciate the comments about measuring a woman's value based only on her beauty because, though I like to think that I don't do that, I've had to really think about it this week. Asking for advice on DCUM is a real crapshoot, but in this case, the comments received have made me think!

You should understand that when you criticize another women, you express self-hate. Most adults know this, and your DH said so out loud, to your face. You demolish your self worth when you criticize other women. It really is not that difficult to understand. You married a DH with higher intellect than yourself.

Ha ha, this is hysterical. I'm not OP either. I can't even begin to imagine the world view behind this post.

DAFUQ? It is a perfectly legitimate standpoint. "World view"??? For real??

If you are insecure, you criticize other people, specifically (and especially) women. It is not that difficult to understand. But you can try to make it difficult, I suppose.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is such an idiotic discussion. All these people dont make comments to their spouses about the appearance of people on TV? Seriously? Liars, all of you.

You can certainly comment on a celebrity or public person's appearance. The point is that while a person's appearance is fair game when discussing that person, it isn't fair to be discussing their spouse's appearance. In other words, the beauty or appearance of the wives is only relevant when discussing the wives, not when discussing the candidates. It's shallow enough if you consider the candidates charisma or appearance as a pro or con. It's far more shallow if you consider the spouse's attractiveness as a pro or con for the candidate.

Trump already stooped to that level. The public should not also stoop to that level. That is what OP's husband very obnoxiously pointed out and to which he completely overreacted.

[Anonymous]

It's probably just me but when dh started actively critiquing my character, he was cheating. He was probably trying to justify his shirty behaviour in my case.