Was venting, and SIL called me on it

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Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

Ah, good call. For some reason this never crosses my mind, probably because it seems passive-aggressive, but is deserved sometimes, I guess.

When someone is being that much of a shart, passive aggression can be the best course of action.

I love this. Totally going to use shart re: people now.

Shartsniffer is another good one when you're going for a more lighthearted insult than just straight shart.

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I still really think the Ron Burgandy gif is the only appropriate way to respond.

She'll probably comment "?????" and that will be even better.

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Anonymous wrote:I'd post a "yes, ladies and germs, this is my SIL"

You guys model amazing internet behavior. Is this ACTUALLY how you would respond to a family member, even one who left a shitty comment? Are you over 19 years old?

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Anonymous wrote:I'd post a "yes, ladies and germs, this is my SIL"

You guys model amazing internet behavior. Is this ACTUALLY how you would respond to a family member, even one who left a shitty comment? Are you over 19 years old?

PP you quoted: For starters, I don't facebook. But if I did, yes, I would say the same thing I'd say IRL if a SIL stated this to me in front of an audience (which facebook is). It's a way of saying 'well now that you brought it up so inartfully, is that ACTUALLY what you meant to say?' and at this point she can realize how publicly she said something and retract her statement or she can dig a deeper hole. If she dug deeper, I would shake my head and not respond and disengage like I do with all idiots. It's not worth it. Same with online- a jerk is a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:I wrote a short vent on Facebook the other day about there not being enough hours in the day to deal with DH and the kids' laundry. SIL replied, "Then maybe you should consider staying home so you can get all that done instead of working just so you can have nice vacations."

I felt like I was slapped in the face. I get it - the mommy wars will never end, but to call out someone you barely know about it? Am I supposed to react to this? I feel like DH will be upset if I do.

The truth hurts.

It sure does. I personally decided to quit my job and SAH solely because I knew it was very, very important not to shirk my duties as Family Washerwoman. I take laundry very seriously, and OP, it's no wonder you have been upset by this comment. Why, you sound like the kind of person who occasionally lets a stain set in or dumps your lights/darks together or forgets to turn a garment inside out despite the label's instructions. Surely when you look back upon your life and mistakes you've made, not devoting enough time to be able to do laundry in a thorough and devoted manner is going to be one of your greatest regrets.

Maybe this is the wake-up call you need to quit and re-examine your priorities and the kind of message you are sending your children about the importance of devoting plenty of time to cleaning one's garments. The next time you pick up a book, get down on the floor to play with a child, or walk in the woods, ask yourself, "Should I be doing laundry right now?"

LOL!

OP, the only answer you ever should need to give to the question "why are you working" is "because i want to" or "i like it" or something to that effect. It is 2016 and yet people still think because you have the boobs you owe them some kind of explanation why you're working outside the home. You don't. Like one long ago PP, i too would just reply "wow." what a jerk.

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Anonymous wrote:Don't delete it - leave it out there hanging for all to see. Don't respond to it either - it's too fraught.

do this, she sounds awful.

anyone with kids and a husband knows exactly what you are talking about.

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I always say "noted" to convey vague disapproval/indifference but indicate that I saw something. I have found that it works for pretty much all life situations and makes people a little nervous.

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Anonymous wrote:I always say "noted" to convey vague disapproval/indifference but indicate that I saw something. I have found that it works for pretty much all life situations and makes people a little nervous.

I like it.

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Kill her with kindness ? Forget about fb, focus on real life. Invite her and kids on a local trip or to come visit you and let kids spend time together. Or tell dh, hey, sounds like your sis is really feeling down, maybe you should take the kids and go visit them. No, she's not going to start being nice to you all of a sudden, you're not doing it to get any credit, but it will feel a hell of a lot better to you than snark.

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You can also write comments on FB but block certain people from seeing them. I used to do that pretty frequently....

Also comes in handy if you're, say...planning a surprise party and are seeking ideas for someone who's a FB friend but you don't want them to know about it.

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She was incredibly rude. Just ignore.

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Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

+1

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She is on public assistance. She's obviously insecure about her own choice/situation (who knows if it's by choice?) That's the only reason people ever criticize others. I don't know a single happy, balanced SAHM who criticizes WOHMs, and vice versa.

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Thanks, all. I just left it there. No one else commented, so I can assume they don't care, or just don't want to get into it with her.

Boy, will the next get together be awkward, or what?

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She's awful, but why do you post such inane comments?