Was venting, and SIL called me on it

[Anonymous]

I wrote a short vent on Facebook the other day about there not being enough hours in the day to deal with DH and the kids' laundry. SIL replied, "Then maybe you should consider staying home so you can get all that done instead of working just so you can have nice vacations."

I felt like I was slapped in the face. I get it - the mommy wars will never end, but to call out someone you barely know about it? Am I supposed to react to this? I feel like DH will be upset if I do.

[Anonymous]

Leave it alone.

[Anonymous]

I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

This. Don't get in an FB war. It looks so juvenile.

[Anonymous]

I would delete her comment and also block her from your FB page (but don't unfriend).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

Ah, good call. For some reason this never crosses my mind, probably because it seems passive-aggressive, but is deserved sometimes, I guess.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

I wouldn't delete it. Let everyone see what a bitch she is!

I would reply with a jokey comment like: Darn, and I was going to offer to take your family on an exotic vacation this year, too. Guess that's out.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

I wouldn't delete it. Let everyone see what a bitch she is!

I would reply with a jokey comment like: Darn, and I was going to offer to take your family on an exotic vacation this year, too. Guess that's out.

Yea but it sounds like it's irritating and/or upsetting OP so I think she should just get rid of it. It was a pretty ridiculous comment for SIL to make and OP shouldn't have to deal with it.

[Anonymous]

Wow, that was bitchy. I SAH and even I don't think there are enough hours in the day to deal with laundry!

I don't think you can respond without it turning into a flame fest though. I'd let it stand and just let everyone see her bitchiness in plain sight. Is this your dh's sister? It's like she thought she was on DCUM and was anonymous instead of responding under her own name to people she actually knows and has to see on holidays.

[Anonymous]

Don't delete it - leave it out there hanging for all to see. Don't respond to it either - it's too fraught.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

Ah, good call. For some reason this never crosses my mind, probably because it seems passive-aggressive, but is deserved sometimes, I guess.

When someone is being that much of a shart, passive aggression can be the best course of action.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Wow, that was bitchy. I SAH and even I don't think there are enough hours in the day to deal with laundry!

I don't think you can respond without it turning into a flame fest though. I'd let it stand and just let everyone see her bitchiness in plain sight. Is this your dh's sister? It's like she thought she was on DCUM and was anonymous instead of responding under her own name to people she actually knows and has to see on holidays.

Yes, it's his sister.

[Anonymous]

Wow what a shrew. I'd delete it, if only so that I wasn't tempted to respond (or that someone else wasn't tempted to respond on my behalf!)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would delete her comment. She can go be a dick on her own facebook page, not yours.

I wouldn't delete it. Let everyone see what a bitch she is!

I would reply with a jokey comment like: Darn, and I was going to offer to take your family on an exotic vacation this year, too. Guess that's out.

This is what I do. I'm never embarrassed by other adults - they bring shame only upon themselves by doing things like that.

[Anonymous]

Just leave it there hanging. If you don't dignify it with a response of any kind it makes her look even worse.
As for the vent, DH can do his own and the kids will grow up and do their own and you will still get to go on nice vacations! I'll take vacation over laundry anytime.