Was venting, and SIL called me on it

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:She's awful, but why do you post such inane comments?

Ah, the trolls finally showed up.

[Anonymous]

Hi not that it matters but why do you work? Is it to take nice vacations and have extra income or do you have to work and SAH is not an option? To clarify I don't care either way you do you, but if it's the latter I have a response I've been fantasizing to use after I failed to reply to My DH sister.

My SIL barely works and didn't for years, has been mooching from my ILs for years. She lives with her kid and her Boyfriend (who also doesn't work). They are lazy hippies.

I work and DH works. When I got pregnant we looked at our finances to see if I could be SAHM. We both wish I could but realistically, not working is not an option. We could afford it and it be tight on just his income but unfortunately my job is the job that provides health insurance for our family and without it we can't afford for me not to work. We can't buy cheapo insurance because my DH has a condition that requires expensive treatment. So it's just not an option.

Well here comes my sanctimonious SIL saying how she is such a great parent and she has worked it out so she is always present for her child. She then says I choose to live this way to be with my daughter, you and my brother have chosen to work to support your lifestyle.

I was shocked and didn't respond because it was mean ignorant and hypocritical. How dare she tell me she makes this choice she can't add or without mooching off her parents, how dare she say it's a choice when she knows it's because the insurance and health needs of her brother.

Anyways I wish I had told her "well SIL not working means I lose insurance and your brother couldn't receive his treatment. While I would love to stay home with my baby I love your brother and seeing him sick is not an option. I would also find it unfair to put that burden on your parents. It really isn't a choice but the reality of the situation and we are doing the best we can"

Either that or punch her in the throat.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I wouldn't say a word and I would ensure that I extra obnoxiously posted beautiful pictures of my kids on these vacations. And there would be captions like the following:

"Can't believe my job sent me to Paris! Lucky kids got to tag along and have been non stop asking to try McDonalds in Paris! Can you imagine? Kids! What a hoot! #soblessed"

The picture would be my kids mugging for the camera at the railing of the Eiffel Tower with Paris in the background. And there would be *a lot* pictures and captions. I would also consider tagging her and asking if we should bring a mini Eiffel Tower home for the cousins (if there are any).

And, yes. Pretty much no one likes me.

I like you