Husband still blames me for acting like a bitch postpartum

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You attempted an insincere apology with a "but" in the sentence.

Having a mental illness is one part of it, but understand that even though it afflicted you, you hurt your loved one. On purpose or not is irrelevant. Just like if someone with bipolar went into rage. An apology would still be warranted to other person.

Once you acknowledge his feelings, he would likely be more willing to acknowledge yours. You say you won't take responsibility for your actions because it was a mental illness. So why should he take responsibility for your mental illness? Why is he to blame for not recognizing PPD, especially PPD that doesn't have the usual symptoms?

Again, this isn't about me "hurting" him. That's not his issue.

And yes, I think he needs to take a lot of responsibility because he isolated me after the baby was born, which directly contributed to it. I cried and screamed about it, but he had made his decision and that was it. I argued until I was blue in the face about lack of social support being a causal factor, and was ignored.

How did he isolate you? From him, or from the rest of the world? OP, I don't really know what the way forward for you is. it sounds like you both have a lot of hurt. He needs to acknowledge that you had PPD, and you need to apologize for hurting him, without any qualifications (regardless of whether it was your "fault," you hurt him a lot). I think both things need to happen but it doesn't sound like they will.

No phone in your house?

[Anonymous]

Op I'm so sorry you are going through this. I suffered from ppd as well. It was rough until I finally saw a doctor and dh starting supporting me. You should definitely seek therapy for this. You have nothing to lose. Good luck. Hugs.

[Anonymous]

Op is your dh trying to purposely implode your marriage? Were you *really* acting like a bitch or were you just responding as anyone would given the way he treated you (per the older thread). What scares me is that he seems to want you to admit you are a bad person or something. Is this the kind of man you want raising your children with you? I don't say this lightly but it might be time to leave.