If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?

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Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.

http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/08/27/the-difference-between-a-fat-woman-and-a-plump-one-according-to-one-japanese-twitter-artist/

One just looks like they have less body fat versus the other. I bet you they both weight the same.

The have different body types, so the fat is distributed differently. I agree, the weight range is the same.

What body types do you think they have? Is the girl on the left considered hourglass?

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back in the day, when I was doing online dating, I first started checking 'average' because that is what I consider myself. I'm 5'2" and was a size 4/6 petite, with a 35-28-37 ish figure. I worked out a lot, but wasn't super muscular, etc. At least two guys expressed surprise and told me that they expected me to be heavier and that I was not what they had experienced as "average" which I guess is heavier. I then put 'athletic' but I always think of that as someone who is quite muscular and I am more the petite curvy type, and I definitely didn't feel thin. Hated that box.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Show me plump, I'm curious.

http://en.rocketnews24.com/2015/08/27/the-difference-between-a-fat-woman-and-a-plump-one-according-to-one-japanese-twitter-artist/

One just looks like they have less body fat versus the other. I bet you they both weight the same.

The have different body types, so the fat is distributed differently. I agree, the weight range is the same.

What body types do you think they have? Is the girl on the left considered hourglass?

Hourglass or pear, it's a crummy picture. The other one is apple, and no amount of extra weight will ever look good on an apple

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Anonymous wrote:It is telling that people clearly understand that being overweight is unattractive, yet they don't care enough about the marriage to actually put in the effort. Suddenly divorced, they put forth the effort. I honesty think this is why so many marriages fail. People just stop putting in the effor with their spouse.

I agree with you. People will say they don't have time to workout and yes there are times when exercise has to take a back seat to other life things, but exercise is a very small part of the fit and attractive equation. Eat foods that promote health, shower, even when you're at home don't constantly wear nasty unflattering clothes, do something with your hair other than yank it back in a scrunchie....a lot of it is basic grooming and sprucing up. This goes for both men and women BTW. I think partners have the responsibility to stay healthy and attractive (as they define it) for it each other.

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I think people first go out of the way to attract a partner by maintaining unsustainable regimens of fitness and beauty. But when the dust settles and they see each other in light of the day, they whine about not being attracted anymore.

Be yourself, so you can attract a person who is attracted to you, not what you wish you could be.

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I'm in my early 40s, about to re-marry after divorcing in my late 30s. When I started dating after the divorce, I was 50 lbs overweight. I used online dating sites and made sure to post representative, accurate photos. I was heavier than ideal but on the plus side, take care of my appearance and am happy and sensual.

Surely there were men who saw my profile and didn't contact me because of the weight. Just like there were men I didn't contact for x, y, or z reason. However, I had no problem meeting people, mostly fit, professional men.

Initially I was very anxious before meet-and-greets because I wondered if they actually had a good idea of my size despite the full body pics. Also, the vast majority of men who contacted me listed their "preference" as thin, average, or athletic. I was confused why they had contacted me.

Sometimes I addressed it openly with them. What I found out was that while it's an ideal preference, they were open to a heavier woman if they were otherwise attracted and saw that she was active. I was fat-fit--ran, ate overall healthfully (too much, obviously), traveled, etc., and that counted for a lot.

I also ran into the men who prefer "larger ladies". I didn't want to be fetishized so that wasn't my thing.

Dating can be painful anyway, but I had a great experience. Common sense applies, using good screening and having high standards.

I'm marrying a great, fit dude who met me 50 lbs heavier (I've since lost that), and I know he loved me heavier and he loves me now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 40s, about to re-marry after divorcing in my late 30s. When I started dating after the divorce, I was 50 lbs overweight. I used online dating sites and made sure to post representative, accurate photos. I was heavier than ideal but on the plus side, take care of my appearance and am happy and sensual.

Surely there were men who saw my profile and didn't contact me because of the weight. Just like there were men I didn't contact for x, y, or z reason. However, I had no problem meeting people, mostly fit, professional men.

Initially I was very anxious before meet-and-greets because I wondered if they actually had a good idea of my size despite the full body pics. Also, the vast majority of men who contacted me listed their "preference" as thin, average, or athletic. I was confused why they had contacted me.

Sometimes I addressed it openly with them. What I found out was that while it's an ideal preference, they were open to a heavier woman if they were otherwise attracted and saw that she was active. I was fat-fit--ran, ate overall healthfully (too much, obviously), traveled, etc., and that counted for a lot.

I also ran into the men who prefer "larger ladies". I didn't want to be fetishized so that wasn't my thing.

Dating can be painful anyway, but I had a great experience. Common sense applies, using good screening and having high standards.

I'm marrying a great, fit dude who met me 50 lbs heavier (I've since lost that), and I know he loved me heavier and he loves me now.

That's awesome PP. Love this.

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Anonymous wrote:I like my men to be ripped, so that's very important.
I just think men look so unattractive when big. Very womanly. And they feel soft and squishy, which is also feminine.

Another way for men to be attractive regardless of body

Don't worry. President Trump will ban this guy from the country.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm in my early 40s, about to re-marry after divorcing in my late 30s. When I started dating after the divorce, I was 50 lbs overweight. I used online dating sites and made sure to post representative, accurate photos. I was heavier than ideal but on the plus side, take care of my appearance and am happy and sensual.

Surely there were men who saw my profile and didn't contact me because of the weight. Just like there were men I didn't contact for x, y, or z reason. However, I had no problem meeting people, mostly fit, professional men.

Initially I was very anxious before meet-and-greets because I wondered if they actually had a good idea of my size despite the full body pics. Also, the vast majority of men who contacted me listed their "preference" as thin, average, or athletic. I was confused why they had contacted me.

Sometimes I addressed it openly with them. What I found out was that while it's an ideal preference, they were open to a heavier woman if they were otherwise attracted and saw that she was active. I was fat-fit--ran, ate overall healthfully (too much, obviously), traveled, etc., and that counted for a lot.

I also ran into the men who prefer "larger ladies". I didn't want to be fetishized so that wasn't my thing.

Dating can be painful anyway, but I had a great experience. Common sense applies, using good screening and having high standards.

I'm marrying a great, fit dude who met me 50 lbs heavier (I've since lost that), and I know he loved me heavier and he loves me now.

That's awesome PP. Love this.

When I married my DH, he was 50 lb overweight. He's a wonderful man, caring, devoted to his family, smart and with a great sense of humor. I actually prefer thin men but his qualities made him worth giving that up. And I kind of hoped that somehow he'd lose the weight, but he really loves eating, so it didn't happen...until he went for a physical almost ten years into the marriage and they told him his blood sugar level was going up, which meant diabetes was on the horizon in the not too distant future.
He went on a diet and exercise program--we kind of made it a family project to support him while he did by banishing all junk food, cooking diet recipes, etc.--and lost all the extra weight and has kept it off for the last seven years.
The bonus was that he is incredibly handsome now--beautiful blue eyes and a chiseled face with high cheek bones--which didn't show when he was virtually obese. I married an ugly duckling and ended up with a swan.