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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]I'm in my early 40s, about to re-marry after divorcing in my late 30s.  When I started dating after the divorce, I was 50 lbs overweight.  I used online dating sites and made sure to post representative, accurate photos.  I was heavier than ideal but on the plus side, take care of my appearance and am happy and sensual.

Surely there were men who saw my profile and didn't contact me because of the weight.  Just like there were men I didn't contact for x, y, or z reason.  However, I had no problem meeting people, mostly fit, professional men.

Initially I was very anxious before meet-and-greets because I wondered if they actually had a good idea of my size despite the full body pics.  Also, the vast majority of men who contacted me listed their "preference" as thin, average, or athletic.  I was confused why they had contacted me.

Sometimes I addressed it openly with them.  What I found out was that while it's an ideal preference, they were open to a heavier woman if they were otherwise attracted and saw that she was active.  I was fat-fit--ran, ate overall healthfully (too much, obviously), traveled, etc., and that counted for a lot.

I also ran into the men who prefer "larger ladies". I didn't want to be fetishized so that wasn't my thing.

Dating can be painful anyway, but I had a great experience.  Common sense applies, using good screening and having high standards.

I'm marrying a great, fit dude who met me 50 lbs heavier (I've since lost that), and I know he loved me heavier and he loves me now.  [/quote]

That's awesome PP. Love this. [/quote]

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