If back in the dating game, how important to you would slimness be in a prospective partner?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I'm not in the game, but if I were then at first slimness (looks in general) would be important. Over time, as I found my footing again, they would become less important. I'd still always want a pretty face, but I'd be less and less worried about slimness. Significantly overweight -- obese -- would always be an issue though.

I'm in my 50s looking for women my age. Well just one, right? Weight is a thing, but also, they gotta care about how they look. That's more than just weight. If they're not trying - fat, old lady short hairdo, clothes, not smiling for the profile pic - I'm not going to care. So average weight is good; too-typical American overweight not good.

This is a good point. I'm sure that if you dress like Christina Hendricks, you will be more appealing than if you dress like the people of Walmart.

So get 3 boobjobs like hendricks and wear low cut tops like hendricks and the people of walmart?

[Anonymous]

Look fat people get married too so just present the best you that you can, get as healthy as you can and stay optimistic.

[Anonymous]

You want you partner to be healthy so therefore you want them to be a healthy weight.

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All these "healthy weight" because it means they are healthy people folks are funny. You don't care if they are healthy. A "healthy" weight doesn't always mean a healthy person. You just don't want them to be fat.

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Anonymous wrote:All these "healthy weight" because it means they are healthy people folks are funny. You don't care if they are healthy. A "healthy" weight doesn't always mean a healthy person. You just don't want them to be fat.

So true.

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I'm not in the game, but if I were then at first slimness (looks in general) would be important. Over time, as I found my footing again, they would become less important. I'd still always want a pretty face, but I'd be less and less worried about slimness. Significantly overweight -- obese -- would always be an issue though.

I'm in my 50s looking for women my age. Well just one, right? Weight is a thing, but also, they gotta care about how they look. That's more than just weight. If they're not trying - fat, old lady short hairdo, clothes, not smiling for the profile pic - I'm not going to care. So average weight is good; too-typical American overweight not good.

This is a good point. I'm sure that if you dress like Christina Hendricks, you will be more appealing than if you dress like the people of Walmart.

So get 3 boobjobs like hendricks and wear low cut tops like hendricks and the people of walmart?

She's gorgeous and will not be on a dating site even if she wasn't famous ... She would get stampeded .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Most people that I know who divorced took some time to get back in shape before starting to date again. My husband and I both lost 20 pounds that had crept on over the years.

I think it's worth it to get yourself to a place where you feel healthy and good about yourself. It is not about trying to look like a supermodel, but becoming your best self - interesting, healthy, a little fashion forward. Someone with confidence that you would want to date.

Online, people can be very cruel and judgmental about looks. (I feel like I look great, but I'm not doing online dating based on the experiences of some friends - would rather meet people out in the world.) If your looks are average and you are heavy, you are probably best off meeting people in person where they can get to know you.

I see this All.The.Time. Overweight spouses who get divorced then suddenly loose the weight because they need to find dates, and nobody wants to date a fatty. Well guess what? Nobody wants to be married to a fatty either!! So attention to all married fatties: show some respect to spouse and self, lose those extra pounds and save the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:All these "healthy weight" because it means they are healthy people folks are funny. You don't care if they are healthy. A "healthy" weight doesn't always mean a healthy person. You just don't want them to be fat.

Of course healthy weight alone does not guarantee health, but being overweight absolutely jeopardizes your health. And there is a reason people are attracted to fit people. It's in our DNA to want to mate with someone who has a survival advantage.

Taking good care of yourself makes you feel better about yourself and you are generally more confident. Confidence and self love make you more attractive to others. It's that easy.

It is telling that people get divorced and then try to lose weight. Don't lose the weight just to find a partner. Lose weight for yourself.

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It is telling that people clearly understand that being overweight is unattractive, yet they don't care enough about the marriage to actually put in the effort. Suddenly divorced, they put forth the effort. I honesty think this is why so many marriages fail. People just stop putting in the effor with their spouse.

[Anonymous]

Average is totally fine with me. Meaning average to a little chubby is still sexy. It's how you carry it and whether you are comfortable getting naked.

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Anonymous wrote:It seems like every single online dating profile indicates a desire for a slim/fit partner. Is there no hope for an average 40 something to find a quality person?

Don't be silly. I am fine with a curvy woman or a few extra pounds and consider myself a quality person. There have to be other men not interested in a dyed blonde stick figure.

[Anonymous]

As has been said before, it is to weed out the truly overweight so we don't waste each other's time.

[Anonymous]

People have different preferences when it comes to looks. Yeah they are men out there that only date women of a certain size, ethnic group, whatever, but that doesn't mean you can't find someone that will accept you for who you are. Try meeting people through your hobbies/interests. You might have a better chance of meeting someone through that avenue that you could develop a deeper bond with or is willing to look at more than physical appearances.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fat girls
eat more at dinner time
so its a more expensive date
then a slender chick
However at least a fat girl wont go running to
the bathroom stick her finger down her throat
and vomit all that expensive food down the toilet

some women carry the weight better than others

for the most part if youre even asking the question youre not ready to date because youre too insecure

get your big butt to they gym for 3 or 4 months
then try again

Hey, Casanova... it's "than a slender chick," not "then a slender chick"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Fat girls
eat more at dinner time
so its a more expensive date
then a slender chick
However at least a fat girl wont go running to
the bathroom stick her finger down her throat
and vomit all that expensive food down the toilet

some women carry the weight better than others

for the most part if youre even asking the question youre not ready to date because youre too insecure

get your big butt to they gym for 3 or 4 months
then try again

Is this a poem? I kind of love it, minus the typos.