Do you sometimes wish you were widowed

[Anonymous]

This is so sad no. I'd be a broken person.

[Anonymous]

I am a recent widow and it's awful. It's heart breaking. He was the love of my life and an incredible dad. Fucking cancer took him. Also, FYI, it's not easier than divorce. The hoops I am jumping through to move on with our lives are insane and take me about three hours a day to slog through. I would give anything to have him back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am a recent widow and it's awful. It's heart breaking. He was the love of my life and an incredible dad. Fucking cancer took him. Also, FYI, it's not easier than divorce. The hoops I am jumping through to move on with our lives are insane and take me about three hours a day to slog through. I would give anything to have him back.

I'm so sorry. I hope everyone who's posted on this thread sees this and is filled with the shame they deserve.

Wishing you peace <3

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:When he was shoveling during the blizzard, I kept thinking that a heart attack wouldn't be so bad.

You know, if your DH ever dies under mysterious circumstances, pp, THIS thread will be pulled up by the police as evidence you were involved.

Think this through, people!

[Anonymous]

My DH is the love of my life. I would actually die to save his life. And I hope that he outlives me, because I don't think I will be able to live without him. He will be very sad without me, but he is a stronger person emotionally, and he will still be able to function.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am a recent widow and it's awful. It's heart breaking. He was the love of my life and an incredible dad. Fucking cancer took him. Also, FYI, it's not easier than divorce. The hoops I am jumping through to move on with our lives are insane and take me about three hours a day to slog through. I would give anything to have him back.

I'm so sorry. I hope everyone who's posted on this thread sees this and is filled with the shame they deserve.

Wishing you peace <3

Thank you.

[Anonymous]

I know someone whose dh died and she was devastated. Her kids were high school age. Six months later, she looked ten years younger and better than I've ever seen her look, radiant and happy. I didn't realize the stress her marriage must have caused her until I saw her relaxed looking face. It was shocking and until then I think I was just used to her tense/stressed look (which I attributed to being a busy working mom, like me), I had never seen her look any other way.

I have always assumed that wishing a spouse dead wasn't that unusual.

[Anonymous]

Yes. He has NPD

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I do - DH is a jerk and I can't stand being with him. Yet, I don't want a divorce as that would made DD sad.

Oh, how caring of you to not want your son sad. Never mind all of your DH's family that would loose him and be sad. Lest we forget about your DH, don't think he'd like something to say about being dead would you ?
so F ing sick

[Anonymous]

I was in a rocky point in my marriage and used to wish for a car crash....

Then DH got cancer and died when our children were toddlers.

The practical side of things were really really hard and very scary, and I didn't wish my children to lose their dad, but I wasn't as sad and sorry as I might have been if DH had treated me better - he traveled for work and was having multiple affairs. Go ahead and judge, but it's the truth.

[Anonymous]

It's okay to have negative thoughts, even very dark thoughts, people. It doesn't make you a murderer.

Thoughts are not actions. There are some very primitive people posting on this thread.

[Anonymous]

This thread is all you need to know about DCUM.

[Anonymous]

I am an H. I do not know know what my wife was thinking at the times, but 3 years ago, I had a metastatic tumor removed from my lung. I was given a 25% chance of 3 year disease free survival. I celebrated that day this past week.

Now, since then I had a cardiac event. I told DW I was not feeling well, but she pushed me to take DW over the dunes the the beach, loaded with the chairs, etc. Halfway over the dunes, it happened. I did not have a heart attack, but severe angina. I should have gone to the hospital, but didn't. I rested....got help, and got the stuff over to the beach.

Everyone else we were with noticed something was wrong. Except for my wife who kept asking me to do things. When we got home, I had a 98% blockage for the LAD, which would have killed me.

I sometimes wonder if she was trying to kill me or if she was oblivious.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am an H. I do not know know what my wife was thinking at the times, but 3 years ago, I had a metastatic tumor removed from my lung. I was given a 25% chance of 3 year disease free survival. I celebrated that day this past week.

Now, since then I had a cardiac event. I told DW I was not feeling well, but she pushed me to take DW over the dunes the the beach, loaded with the chairs, etc. Halfway over the dunes, it happened. I did not have a heart attack, but severe angina. I should have gone to the hospital, but didn't. I rested....got help, and got the stuff over to the beach.

Everyone else we were with noticed something was wrong. Except for my wife who kept asking me to do things. When we got home, I had a 98% blockage for the LAD, which would have killed me.

I sometimes wonder if she was trying to kill me or if she was oblivious.

I think she was hoping.

[Anonymous]

OP,

Do you or did you once also despise female dog lovers over the age of 30?