Jealous of sister marrying rich

[Anonymous]

OP you literally have no idea what tragedies could befall either of you. This is one stroke of luck, not a life time of ease.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness get over it. Money doesn’t buy happiness as long as your basic needs are met. Focus on your own development and volunteer and let go of envy. (This is coming from a woman who married rich and has to work hard on my own happiness)

This thread is FIVE YEARS OLD, so rest assured she’s probably gotten over it.

[Anonymous]

I want an update from OP!

[Anonymous]

Class disparity is one of the main reasons why I had to cut off ties with my sister. We both came from the same background, went to the same college, only she chose to have a child at 20 and marry a blue collar worker, while I went to grad school. I could never go or travel or buy anything w/o her constant snarky remarks. God forbid I wanted to get my child ski lessons, she would go on and on how they could not afford them. I offered to pay for my DC and his cousins only to be rudely rebuffed. So I stopped sharing. Then I stopped calling. I don't need this jealousy and toxicity in my life, especially in my inner circle.

[Anonymous]

I wonder how the rich guy family really feels about his wife? They are being pleasant to support him but....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you hotter?

OP here.

I am not hideous by any means, I'm cute but my sister is stunningly beautiful. I can see why a rich guy would notice her in a room.She's also confident and super social so people tend to love her.

I feel like, her recent good fortune regarding her love life isn't new. She has always had a "charmed" life compared to me. She was a gorgeous kid, a very popular girl her whole life. She is beautiful, smart and put together. She has always had a lot of friends and life has a way of working out for her.

I was always the awkward loser-ish older sister who couldn't quite find my footing. In a way, its no surprise that she ended up with a great rich husband. Just another thing at life that she wins at.

The lifestyles of the rich and famous aren't as charmed as you may think. Competitive men tend to marry beautiful women, who then are under tremendous pressure to stay beautiful through exercise, clothes, makeup, sometimes surgery and eating disorders. The pressure for her and her future kids to keep up appearances is significant. There is more alcoholism in the upper class than the middle class, and less acceptance of kids' unique interests (so no, little Grayson can't study music theory or become a social worker -- he has to be a banker like dad). Adult children become strangely beholden to their wealthy parents. If it seems like I might have a chip on my shoulder on this topic, I do. But believe me that money does not fix everything, and sometimes it makes things worse.

And don't forget, after all of the above and kids etc., these men leave those wives mid-life for a new 19 year old version of their first wife.

- Signed, person who has watched this happen to five women in the last few years

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be happy for her. And you'll probably see some fringe benefits yourself.

Yea this is the best way to look at it OP.

[Anonymous]

Someone must have been really bored to bring back a thread from 2015, its not funny, it's just a waste of time and sad.

[Anonymous]

Are you happy? Do you love your husband and does he love you? Do you have enough to eat, shelter? Jealousy and envy are two useless emotions and will mess your life up. Be happy for her but also it sounds as though you have a lot to be happy about.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just be happy for her. And you'll probably see some fringe benefits yourself.

Yea this is the best way to look at it OP.

God never closes a door without opening a lake house 🙏

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are you hotter?

OP here.

I am not hideous by any means, I'm cute but my sister is stunningly beautiful. I can see why a rich guy would notice her in a room.She's also confident and super social so people tend to love her.

I feel like, her recent good fortune regarding her love life isn't new. She has always had a "charmed" life compared to me. She was a gorgeous kid, a very popular girl her whole life. She is beautiful, smart and put together. She has always had a lot of friends and life has a way of working out for her.

I was always the awkward loser-ish older sister who couldn't quite find my footing. In a way, its no surprise that she ended up with a great rich husband. Just another thing at life that she wins at.

The lifestyles of the rich and famous aren't as charmed as you may think. Competitive men tend to marry beautiful women, who then are under tremendous pressure to stay beautiful through exercise, clothes, makeup, sometimes surgery and eating disorders. The pressure for her and her future kids to keep up appearances is significant. There is more alcoholism in the upper class than the middle class, and less acceptance of kids' unique interests (so no, little Grayson can't study music theory or become a social worker -- he has to be a banker like dad). Adult children become strangely beholden to their wealthy parents. If it seems like I might have a chip on my shoulder on this topic, I do. But believe me that money does not fix everything, and sometimes it makes things worse.

And don't forget, after all of the above and kids etc., these men leave those wives mid-life for a new 19 year old version of their first wife.

- Signed, person who has watched this happen to five women in the last few years

If you marry a rich man then you make sure you you live in a community property state.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just be happy for her. And you'll probably see some fringe benefits yourself.

Yea this is the best way to look at it OP.

God never closes a door without opening a lake house 🙏

[Anonymous]

There will always be rich people in the world. It’s better that one of them is your sister.

No one’s life is perfect. Money is just one thing, along with health, love, shared values, fortune. Still not late for you to do well on all the other things. Still not late for your sister to have found out she didn’t do so well in the other areas after all.

[Anonymous]

OP here.

I was thinking of this recently as time has gone on, I feel less connected to my sister. She has become different and I can see how slowly we see the world differently.

I have to skimp and save to to afford luxuries that just fall into her lap casually.

DH and I work hard and do pretty well now. We have to rent a nice beach house in OBX while her in laws have a house she has access to.
Buying furniture is a big investment for us while her DH's family and grandparents randomly buy them couches, tables and help furnish their home.
She just doesn't really know what its like to live within a budget or pay for something for herself.

It makes me a bit sad that I'm losing a connection with her, and also jealous that her life is such a breeze and all she did was get married!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh goodness get over it. Money doesn’t buy happiness as long as your basic needs are met. Focus on your own development and volunteer and let go of envy. (This is coming from a woman who married rich and has to work hard on my own happiness)

This thread is FIVE YEARS OLD, so rest assured she’s probably gotten over it.

Also OPs BILs family money comes from the oil industry, so it may not be much of a family fortune anymore.

-someone who was gifted a small amount of oil industry stock