Jealous of sister marrying rich

[Anonymous]

Don't be so jealous. Her ILs are probably so angry and bitter that he's not marrying well and that they have to pay for the wedding. She will probably never fit into that lifestyle and will always be known as a gold digger.
Enjoy your happy life!

[Anonymous]

If you are happy for her to her face, I bet she will get you in to the fancy lake house.

You can be jealous AND happy for someone all at the same time. It's okay to have both feelings. Keep in mind that there are people jealous of you. Single people who want to get married, married people in miserable marriages, etc.

Lastly, nothing wrong with public school.

[Anonymous]

This is happening with me & my sister. I love her dearly but her husband is an entitled millennial who didn't finish college and has no real ambition. I think she wanted to be married and said yes to the first one who asked. (I have not verbalized this to her.) We talk all the time about everything under the sun, so this isn't affecting our relationship, except that I wish her husband would kick himself into gear and be more of a partner to her.

My DH has been making six-figures for over a decade and I also have wealthy in-laws. We have more now than she ever will. She realizes this, accepts it and I do not flaunt anything. I paid for her plane ticket the last time she came to visit, and I always pay for her meals, etc when we go out. Another issue is that my other sister is married to someone with a similar SES to us and we vacation together, without poor sister + her DH because they can't afford it, and don't have kids.

[Anonymous]

Try not to let it get to you. You might want to let your sister know that you are happy for her and it must be nice but you get a teeny bit envious when you hear about how the wealthy in-laws are treating them. Hopefully she will get her head out of the clouds and realize she might not want to boast so much. I'm not at all saying you should make an issue out of it- but if she's a good sister she'll take a hint and tone it down a bit.

[Anonymous]

mo money mo problems!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This is happening with me & my sister. I love her dearly but her husband is an entitled millennial who didn't finish college and has no real ambition. I think she wanted to be married and said yes to the first one who asked. (I have not verbalized this to her.) We talk all the time about everything under the sun, so this isn't affecting our relationship, except that I wish her husband would kick himself into gear and be more of a partner to her.

My DH has been making six-figures for over a decade and I also have wealthy in-laws. We have more now than she ever will. She realizes this, accepts it and I do not flaunt anything. I paid for her plane ticket the last time she came to visit, and I always pay for her meals, etc when we go out. Another issue is that my other sister is married to someone with a similar SES to us and we vacation together, without poor sister + her DH because they can't afford it, and don't have kids.

You might still need to tone it down. What have you done on your own other than marry a go-getter with wealthy parents? Are you accomplished and doing something meaningful? Or are you also not living up to your potential as you shade your sister?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My sister is rich too but I don't envy her. Sounds like you envy things, not your sister. Did you tell this to your husband ?

You should.

Why?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so jealous. Her ILs are probably so angry and bitter that he's not marrying well and that they have to pay for the wedding. She will probably never fit into that lifestyle and will always be known as a gold digger.
Enjoy your happy life!

WTH are you talking about?

[Anonymous]

OP, it's human to feel a lil bit jealous. Allow me to share my perspective, you live in the richest country in the world, the middle class lifestyle here is available to only true "rich" in other countries, how do I know this? I come from one. Count your blessings and make sure you say thanks for them, appreciate your family, your health and enjoy your life. Good for her that she will have money but her money doesn't change your life in any way, so ignore it. Love "your" world which is your home, your family, that's the only sane way to go about this.

When you go to bed tonight, say a prayer of thanks for your health, everything else in this world can be bought and sold.

[Anonymous]

Learn from your sister and seek money next time around!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don't be so jealous. Her ILs are probably so angry and bitter that he's not marrying well and that they have to pay for the wedding. She will probably never fit into that lifestyle and will always be known as a gold digger.
Enjoy your happy life!

WTH are you talking about?

There is some grain of truth in the statement form PP at the top.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My sister is rich too but I don't envy her. Sounds like you envy things, not your sister. Did you tell this to your husband ?

You should.

Why?

Maybe it will make him work harder so OP can have the rich life too because according to the shallow females here, being rich solves all of your problems.

[Anonymous]

Op, we have this in my family. You know, in reality, no on would want to change positions.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, we have this in my family. You know, in reality, no on would want to change positions.

Comparison is the thief of joy.

Are you the rich or poor sister?

[Anonymous]

It's ok to feel a little jealous. I think it's natural, but please don't show it to your sister. Be happy for her. If she's marrying someone who's rich, maybe they'll invite you to their vacation house, think, you won't have to pay (or save/scrimpt) for a vacation when your Sister/BIL may provide you a free place to stay. Try to look at the positive things, be happy for your sister. Money isn't everything, they may be super rich, but you don't know if everyone is personally happy inside.