Do you spank your kids?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. And no one I know around here does

That's what they tell you. You would never suspect our family does. And yet, we do.

What kind of spanking is this?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If I teach them it's not OK to hit, never to hit, as a child or as an adult...

Why would I hit them?

Because you wouldn't teach them that. There are things that parents are permitted that kids aren't.

"Don't hit, or I'll hit you." ??? WTF.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. And no one I know around here does

That's what they tell you. You would never suspect our family does. And yet, we do.

How nice that no one suspects you of violence against your child.

You never really know the people you think you know....

[Anonymous]

We're from Texas, and believe that the "Board of Education" can impart valuable lessons on the backside of a misbehaving child.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and I feel no guilt. He is very high-strung, and we tried about 10+ other techniques that didn't work first before doing so. It works and is the only thing that works - judge lest ye be judged and such.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The Golden Rule applies to children, too.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have swatted their bottoms -twins - because I had warned them to never ever put pills in their mouths if they found one on the floor. My mum was staying with us and, because of her bad eye sight, she'd sometimes miss her mouth and her pill would drop to the floor without her realizing. She was on some heavy duty medication - blood pressure, dementia, heart meds and I lived in terror of them eating them.
I tried to always be there to make sure they all went in her mouth but she'd forget and take them again. I am also on BP meds so the danger wasn't going to end when my mum left.
One day I found my twins huddled in the play room and went to see what they were up to. They were about 3. They were taking it in turns to taste a pill they had found on the floor. Thank God it was just a vitamin pill but it could have been so much worse.
I had a talk with them and gave each 1 swat in the bottom telling them never to do it again and how dangerous it was. I was more scared than angry ( almost in tears before I realized it was only a vitamin) and I think they realized that and finally understood the severity of the "crime". After that, every time they saw a pill (my mum stayed for 3 months) they'd bring it to me saying "we're not allowed to eat these because they are very dangerous".
I do not regret it one bit.

Wouldn't it be better to supervise your kids, especially given they are 3 better and supervise your mom's medication. I couldn't blame the kids for my failing to supervise them and my mom. And, yes, we have cared long term for my MIL with dementia. Pills were kept up high and we gave them to her daily, watching to make sure they were swallowed.

[Anonymous]

No, never.

[Anonymous]

Absolutely not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I have as a last resort when my kids were 5+. Open hand, never with an object.

There are parents who, once the kids are beyond 5, use a paddle or belt because it becomes the object that is applying the spanking not the parent's hand. They follow "biblical" discipline methods (i.e., don't spare the rod). It seems to for them.

[Anonymous]

I will not.

I was spanked and it was stupid. I think of some to the occasions and it still drums up feelings of anger, frustration, and, yeah, humiliation (thinking about this one time when all my siblings and I got "whooped" for trick-or-treating while at a party...) I remember my mom and stepdad giving me hugs after and how forced it felt.

I just feel modern parents have so many tools to our avail that we don't have to resort to hitting a kid to get their attention or change their behavior.

[Anonymous]

It seems to work for them. I don't agree with spanking on the bare backside though.

[Anonymous]

OP, different punishments work on different children. Do what works for your child. There is no research that states that, in and of itself, a handful of spankings with an open hand in childhood negatively impacts a child.

A lot of adults have been spanked as kids with no lasting negative impact, and they manage to still have close, loving relationships with their parents. Some obviously have issues, but I suspect there may have been more things going on there to cause some emotional/mental issues down the line than simply a handful of spankings as a child.

[Anonymous]

I don't have these horrible memories of spankings. It was just a punishment you wanted to avoid, but if and when it happened, it was not the end of the world. And those were often bare bottom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and I feel no guilt. He is very high-strung, and we tried about 10+ other techniques that didn't work first before doing so. It works and is the only thing that works - judge lest ye be judged and such.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The Golden Rule applies to children, too.

So we can never take away their toys?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Yes, and I feel no guilt. He is very high-strung, and we tried about 10+ other techniques that didn't work first before doing so. It works and is the only thing that works - judge lest ye be judged and such.

Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.

The Golden Rule applies to children, too.

Somehow, I don't think this was stated in regards to disciplining children. It's about peer to peer relationships, not parent/child. Luckily, our society and laws agree that children are not mini adults, and we shouldn't treat them as such. We don't have the same expectations of children that we do in adults. Crime and punishment is not applied the same way to kids as they are to adults, thankfully.