I've done so much more than he has in life

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not holier than thou. It's more like we come from different backgrounds. Different, not hierarchically ranked. It's like marrying into a different culture or religion. The question is about the effect of the difference NOT whether one person is better than the other because of the difference.
Also, there is no spell check on DCUM. Does anyone type their responses into word, spell check and then cut paste into the DCUM box? If not doing that makes me not detail oriented then... I guess you have me pegged.

I don't blame you for back peddling given the abuse you've received, but let's be honest...the title of this thread is "I've done so much more than he has in life."

That doesn't suggest that you see his past as equal, despite your "revised" attitude. Your meaning was clear in your original post.

I have though. I've done more stuff. It's not a judgement; it's a fact. Also, with DCUM titles, you have to be specific and provocative. It's a fine line.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Totally into him. Worried that being totally into him is clouding my judgement and our differences will be more significant down the road.

I really don't see what these immense differences are. That you traveled more? Who cares?

Now if you want to continue globe trotting and he doesn't, then that's a big deal. But if you're interested in the same future then who cares that one person has more stamps in their passport? Do you want to speak Portuguese on Sundays or something and he won' understand you?

[Anonymous]

Not just travel. A big difference if one person has a phd and the other didn't go to college.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not just travel. A big difference if one person has a phd and the other didn't go to college.

I don't think the OP said he didn't go to college. He may not have, but it's not currently a fact in evidence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not holier than thou. It's more like we come from different backgrounds. Different, not hierarchically ranked. It's like marrying into a different culture or religion. The question is about the effect of the difference NOT whether one person is better than the other because of the difference.
Also, there is no spell check on DCUM. Does anyone type their responses into word, spell check and then cut paste into the DCUM box? If not doing that makes me not detail oriented then... I guess you have me pegged.

I don't blame you for back peddling given the abuse you've received, but let's be honest...the title of this thread is "I've done so much more than he has in life."

That doesn't suggest that you see his past as equal, despite your "revised" attitude. Your meaning was clear in your original post.

I have though. I've done more stuff. It's not a judgement; it's a fact. Also, with DCUM titles, you have to be specific and provocative. It's a fine line.

You don't have to be provocative. People click on anything. A post entitled 'Husband' sparked pages of discussion.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Oh OP- not to be a jerk but how could you ever expect to find some kind of reasoned, compassionate advice here? You have to understand, in your original post you postulated a concern that you might have accomplished more than the guy you are seeing. This triggered two alarms for DCUM: one, the "person on Internet thinks she's better than someone else, and thus, me" alarm that does NOT go over well in the hyper competitive, insane world of DCUM. Two; the "woman online thinks she's better than her man alarm" which always triggers an avalanche of misogynistic mockery and venom.

Moral of the story? Don't listen to a bunch of people sitting online trying to make someone else feel like shit. Their actions should speak loud enough as to the quality of the lives they lead (which is to say, fairly low)....

Wow, you're joking, right? Way to turn the OP into the victim here. This woman is a selfish ahole who expected a pity party because the man she's dating can't live up to her ridiculously high and conceited standards and you attaboy her. Screw her and screw you.

LOL way to prove the point...

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:
Oh OP- not to be a jerk but how could you ever expect to find some kind of reasoned, compassionate advice here? You have to understand, in your original post you postulated a concern that you might have accomplished more than the guy you are seeing. This triggered two alarms for DCUM: one, the "person on Internet thinks she's better than someone else, and thus, me" alarm that does NOT go over well in the hyper competitive, insane world of DCUM. Two; the "woman online thinks she's better than her man alarm" which always triggers an avalanche of misogynistic mockery and venom.

Moral of the story? Don't listen to a bunch of people sitting online trying to make someone else feel like shit. Their actions should speak loud enough as to the quality of the lives they lead (which is to say, fairly low)....

Wow, you're joking, right? Way to turn the OP into the victim here. This woman is a selfish ahole who expected a pity party because the man she's dating can't live up to her ridiculously high and conceited standards and you attaboy her. Screw her and screw you.

LOL way to prove the point...

+1
It's hilarious how they do it every time

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not just travel. A big difference if one person has a phd and the other didn't go to college.

Why? Depending on the PhD field they're both equally likely to end up unemployed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Not just travel. A big difference if one person has a phd and the other didn't go to college.

Why? Depending on the PhD field they're both equally likely to end up unemployed.

LMAO. Keep telling yourself that....

[Anonymous]

Why are you raising your children on your own, if you don't mind my asking?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It's not holier than thou. It's more like we come from different backgrounds. Different, not hierarchically ranked. It's like marrying into a different culture or religion. The question is about the effect of the difference NOT whether one person is better than the other because of the difference.
Also, there is no spell check on DCUM. Does anyone type their responses into word, spell check and then cut paste into the DCUM box? If not doing that makes me not detail oriented then... I guess you have me pegged.

Spell check does exist on this site, I see it all the time, at least when you are on a PC.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:New man. He was married for 20 years and pretty much just did the family man thing that whole time. Meanwhile, I've been to grad school, travelled, have had relationships basically just done LOTS of stuff. He does have hobbies, friends and interests and he's very smart and we like the same types of things but I'm wondering will this imbalance in life experience be a problem?

Soooo, in this, your OP, you failed to mention that you had been married with 3 kids? You remembered grad school and relationships, and a LOT OF STUFF, but glossed over the 3 kids you were raising in between all the trips and classes?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It's not holier than thou. It's more like we come from different backgrounds. Different, not hierarchically ranked. It's like marrying into a different culture or religion. The question is about the effect of the difference NOT whether one person is better than the other because of the difference.
Also, there is no spell check on DCUM. Does anyone type their responses into word, spell check and then cut paste into the DCUM box? If not doing that makes me not detail oriented then... I guess you have me pegged.

Spell check does exist on this site, I see it all the time, at least when you are on a PC.

Where?

[Anonymous]

ahhh the old study abroad BS. The locals smell these easy american women from a mile away.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:ahhh the old study abroad BS. The locals smell these easy american women from a mile away.

And I can smell your stench from here...