I've done so much more than he has in life

[Anonymous]

Give me a break. I've done all the "travel" and "experiences" and "had a masters" and I find what this guy you so look down upon's life way more meaningful. After awhile the next exotic trip is pretty meaningless.

[Anonymous]

I spent my 20s and 30s working, traveling, getting my phd, hiking glaciers, and dating a lot.
DH spent his 20s and 30s working g on a rather crappy marriage and raising a child.

When we met, we had very different experiences, but I felt that his were so much more profound than mine. He felt mine were more exciting than his. But we never judged each other on it.

[Anonymous]

I spent most of my 20s and 30s struggling with various health issues and working in (by DCUM) standards, menial jobs. I'm still working my way to a bachelor's degree and I've barely done any traveling.

I guess OP would that I have done little with my life, but after all I've been through, I don't feel that way.

[Anonymous]

I think he sounds beneath you, OP. He's not in your league. Have some self esteem and go find someone who is

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You're joking right? He raised a family and you slutted around spring breaking yet your tone implies you're better than him?

Bingo

[Anonymous]

Sounds like op experienced the escort lifestyle but paid instead of being paid, congrats

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:You're joking right? He raised a family and you slutted around spring breaking yet your tone implies you're better than him?

Bingo

+1

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:He probably has experiences that you don't. There's a lot to be learned from staying the course and focusing on one thing for a very long time.

I think your dismissive attitude towards his life experiences is more likely to be the problem than any actual "imbalance".

+1

He's had a twenty year relationship, a separation and divorce, love and heartbreak and family life. If you (unfairly) value your own experiences as somehow more meaningful then you are not the right person for him -this is just a mismatch. But not because you have "done more in life"! What a load of BS.

[Anonymous]

People experience the same... experiences differently. Some people can have a dramatic emotional reaction to things that OP probably doesn't even notice.

[Anonymous]

I think OP has left the building.

[Anonymous]

OP, where are you? Too ashamed to speak up? Hopefully.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like op experienced the escort lifestyle but paid instead of being paid, congrats

Escort lifestyle? So it's either a 'family' person or an 'escort', really? You don't sound any better than the OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sounds like op experienced the escort lifestyle but paid instead of being paid, congrats

Escort lifestyle? So it's either a 'family' person or an 'escort', really? You don't sound any better than the OP.

LOL the people on this thread are so ridiculous. I am used to DCUM being filled with idiots but the slut shaming losers on this thread truly take the cake....

[Anonymous]

I dated a guy like what you describe and it was wonderful. He loved learning from me and I loved his stability. He was also smart, well-read and adventurous. What broke us up is I want kids and he has done that. We remain friends and he is forever dear to me. I think you overestimate your life's accomplishments OP. Leave this man be and let him find someone who will love that he spent those years loving and raising a family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
OP, where are you? Too ashamed to speak up? Hopefully.

Or the entire story is made up.