The Stigma around AA parents adopting a white baby

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

I really hope the poster comes back to answer this...I REALLY would love to hear her response! Good question pp!

[Anonymous]

Those who are invoking biracial children must be facetious. You know full well that white + black = black. Your white kids have nothing to do with my black kids of mixed parentage.

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

Are you bio children at least half-cute?

Seriously, you are either a troll, or a deranged person. I'm reporting your filth to the admin. You don't deserve to open your mouth here.

You can report me if you want. It does not change anything. Believe it or not, but black people see how white people treat us and our children in this country and it affects how we feel about you and your children. Deal with it.

Thankfully, I deal with enough black people to know better. I'm sorry you were abused and decided to take it out on others. You are a very sad human being indeed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

No, I wouldn't condemn them. This is the first time I've ever thought about it, and I'm surprised by my intense revulsion. Now I understand why most of my Black friends are disgusted by the idea of being intimate with a white person. I never felt like that (obviously bc I married a white man), but I can't stomach the idea of raising a fully white child.

Then I hope your biracial kids don't marry white or black/white biracial people and have really light-skinned kids of their own, or you will be repulsed by your own grandchildren.

I suppose you would think it horrifying if a white person said they would be disgusted by black babies? What makes your thoughts any less horrible?

PP from the first page here. I have no doubt that a lot of white people hate black children. You see it in the high suspension rates of black children as early as preschool for behaviors that whites get away with and the way whites support policies that overwhelmingly hurt black children. I don't care what whites as a group think about anything, honestly, but let's not pretend whites haven't long hated, injured, and legislated against black children.

No, let's not. I totally agree with you on that one. But doesn't it bother you to be grouped in with those bigots? How are you fundamentally any different than them?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

Shrug. You probably meant this to hit home, but you missed. My white husband adores me and kisses the ground I walk on. I like individual white people who like me, lol, but that doesn't change how I feel about the group.

[Anonymous]

I really do not care what color the parents or the child happen to be.

The only relevant question is their fitness to be adoptive parents. Period.

There are highly-refined criteria and processes for determining fitness. Race should not even come into it at all.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

I really hope the poster comes back to answer this...I REALLY would love to hear her response! Good question pp!

I think we all would! C'mon, ladies. Fess up

[Anonymous]

So, back to the original questions. Black PPs who hate white babies, what do you think this woman should do now or/and have done when she found out that the baby she fostered is available for adoption?

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

I am the poster from the first page who would never adopt a white child (I think there are at least two other posters in this thread being confused with me). Honestly, I would probably never say anything, but I would be really disappointed if any black person I know adopted a white child. Of all the demographics to expend one's resources on, why the most privileged and exploitative one that continues to hurt us to this day? It would be like a Jewish family circa World War II adopting a German baby. Why?

Um, because love? Because babies are innocent? Because no group of people, as we are frequently reminded, is a monolith? All people are individuals.

Goodness, at the animal shelter where I volunteer, they often remind us - all dogs are individuals. Don't assume that all Goldens like kids, or all Pits are aggressive. All dogs are individuals. And yet you want to generalize Nazism or the slave trade across ethic groups.

Are Sally Hemmings now white-looking descendants as guilty as Thomas Jefferson was? How much black blood does a person have to have to be a good human being?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Those who are invoking biracial children must be facetious. You know full well that white + black = black. Your white kids have nothing to do with my black kids of mixed parentage.

My biracial daughter looks 100% white, so your math is a little off.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

Shrug. You probably meant this to hit home, but you missed. My white husband adores me and kisses the ground I walk on. I like individual white people who like me, lol, but that doesn't change how I feel about the group.

So an innocent white child could not love and adore you? You are trash....actually severly mentally ill!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

Shrug. You probably meant this to hit home, but you missed. My white husband adores me and kisses the ground I walk on. I like individual white people who like me, lol, but that doesn't change how I feel about the group.

But YOUR white baby would adore you too.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

+1

I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

No, I wouldn't condemn them. This is the first time I've ever thought about it, and I'm surprised by my intense revulsion. Now I understand why most of my Black friends are disgusted by the idea of being intimate with a white person. I never felt like that (obviously bc I married a white man), but I can't stomach the idea of raising a fully white child.

Then I hope your biracial kids don't marry white or black/white biracial people and have really light-skinned kids of their own, or you will be repulsed by your own grandchildren.

I suppose you would think it horrifying if a white person said they would be disgusted by black babies? What makes your thoughts any less horrible?

PP from the first page here. I have no doubt that a lot of white people hate black children. You see it in the high suspension rates of black children as early as preschool for behaviors that whites get away with and the way whites support policies that overwhelmingly hurt black children. I don't care what whites as a group think about anything, honestly, but let's not pretend whites haven't long hated, injured, and legislated against black children.

No, let's not. I totally agree with you on that one. But doesn't it bother you to be grouped in with those bigots? How are you fundamentally any different than them?

If you ever see me shooting white children for nothing, passing laws to hurt them when they are poor, and otherwise taking action against them the way that white people take against black children, then you might have a point. As it is, I am just choosing not to share what few resources I have secured for myself in spite of white supremacy with white people.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

Are you bio children at least half-cute?

Seriously, you are either a troll, or a deranged person. I'm reporting your filth to the admin. You don't deserve to open your mouth here.

You're reporting the legacy of slavery to the admin?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

So sleeping with your husband doesn't remind you too much of playing whore to a lazy slave owner?

Shrug. You probably meant this to hit home, but you missed. My white husband adores me and kisses the ground I walk on. I like individual white people who like me, lol, but that doesn't change how I feel about the group.

I didn't mean it to hit home--it was an honest question. You didn't answer it, by the way.