The Stigma around AA parents adopting a white baby

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Due to racism, AAs feels inferior and protect themselves with bigotry. It's a cheap way towards affirmation. "I'm yucky and worthless, so I'll just say white babies are..." The real question is what's wrong with supposed white DH. I doubt there is one.

Sorry woman, but speak for your damn self. I am inferior to no one.

The inferiority is so engrained in your subconscious you're not likely to see its presence within you. It manifests in hatred- bigotry specifically. Many AAs aren't bigots. They've self-actualized and made amends with their pasts. As a result of that coping, and an understanding that AAs aren't inferior, they go through life as full beings capable of seeing the world for what it is and pursuing happiness unfettered by worry about the "white man". Many AAs are too busy at the bank than to worry for one minute about what white people are up to or what's going on with white babies. Inferior people, of which there are many, are focused on that and withering their unhappy lives away to boot!

And this is what we call, psycho-babble bullshit.

No, you're just in denial and this is why nothing changes. Until we confront our ills we'll forever be stumped by them. The conversation about slavery etc... is so tired that no one listens at all. It's background noise at best. The truth here is people are hurting from systematic racism and a subconscious internalizing of being less worthy. That manifests itself in what we are seeing- someone proud of their hatred of white babies, etc... A confident self-assurred person would never espouse that. When you view yourself as worthy, you view others less as a threat or a target to hate. Hate is really about fear and sense of one's own worthlessness.

I am not "stumped" by the ills you are imagining.

I see them quite clearly for what they are: increasingly, I see what you call "racism" as a false construct of the left, meant to be used as a bludgeon purely for political gain.

Make no mistake: historically race was a major issue in America. But not anymore. Your desperation to preserve your victimhood status is increasingly pathetic and transparent.

[Anonymous]

Make no mistake: historically race was a major issue in America. But not anymore. Your desperation to preserve your victimhood status is increasingly pathetic and transparent.

I agree. While I think there is a certain age demographic that will never see this to be true, our kids are embracing each other in ways prior generations would have never done (this coming from all races). I have happily noticed this in my own children's multi-racial and ethnic groups of friends (I have 2 children of different races). As proms and 8th grade graduation dances are in full swing, I am seeing now that this openness seems widely accepted. As I look at instagram photos and twitter feeds these kids truly do not seem to give a damn (rightly so) the race of not only their friends, but of their dates. So while we see post after post here on DCUM spewing hate against those of another race, our kids (miraculously considering how some are being raised) are light years ahead of the generations preceding them. Now, if only the adults could act as maturely as the kids.

[Anonymous]

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Make no mistake: historically race was a major issue in America. But not anymore.

Oh, that's good to know. What year did racism end, again?

[Anonymous]

Bigot PP did not answer my post.

Is this woman a normal, regular human being since she's black? Or is she evil because she's white and descended from a Nazi?

http://www.haaretz.com/jewish-world/jewish-world-features/1.640997

[Anonymous]

Your comparison of yourself to a slave is what is absurd here.

If I post a picture of a rape victim, does it make sense to say, "why would any woman want to have sex again? do you think the woman in this picture liked being penetrated against her will?"

If I post a picture of Sally Hemmings, whom genetics has proven bore children to Thomas Jefferson, does it make sense for me to say, "how could any black woman choose to have sex with a white man after so many white slave owners used and abused (and raped) their slaves?"

How does it make any sense that you married a white man, who is identical in so many respects to the worst of your oppressors, past and present?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your comparison of yourself to a slave is what is absurd here.

If I post a picture of a rape victim, does it make sense to say, "why would any woman want to have sex again? do you think the woman in this picture liked being penetrated against her will?"

If I post a picture of Sally Hemmings, whom genetics has proven bore children to Thomas Jefferson, does it make sense for me to say, "how could any black woman choose to have sex with a white man after so many white slave owners used and abused (and raped) their slaves?"

How does it make any sense that you married a white man, who is identical in so many respects to the worst of your oppressors, past and present?

You're arguing with someone who is damaged. Moot at best. This poster has the corrupted notion that she's avenging AA slaves by espousing bigoted views of white children. She's really doing a disservice to both. Also, I have to comment on the picture that PP posted. What I see is a strong black woman in that photo rising above the denigration of her breast being exposed. Somewhat like Sojourner Truth in "Ain't I a Woman". This black woman is so much more woman than all of us. And if we could speak to her I doubt she'd place blame on the infant. The strength of these women is unparalleled and our 1st world problems don't compare. Ironically, you have this obviously weak poor excuse for a woman, purporting to be black, attempting to so-called avenge black women slaves. What a joke! Lady, you don't deserve to breathe the same air as them. You're much to weak to represent them. And a disgrace. How cheap to belittle white babies to make yourself feel better. You're just sad and an embarrassment to all of the strong black women who show us what real strength and power are. Hating children doesn't apply.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Due to racism, AAs feels inferior and protect themselves with bigotry. It's a cheap way towards affirmation. "I'm yucky and worthless, so I'll just say white babies are..." The real question is what's wrong with supposed white DH. I doubt there is one.

Sorry woman, but speak for your damn self. I am inferior to no one.

The inferiority is so engrained in your subconscious you're not likely to see its presence within you. It manifests in hatred- bigotry specifically. Many AAs aren't bigots. They've self-actualized and made amends with their pasts. As a result of that coping, and an understanding that AAs aren't inferior, they go through life as full beings capable of seeing the world for what it is and pursuing happiness unfettered by worry about the "white man". Many AAs are too busy at the bank than to worry for one minute about what white people are up to or what's going on with white babies. Inferior people, of which there are many, are focused on that and withering their unhappy lives away to boot!

And this is what we call, psycho-babble bullshit.

No, you're just in denial and this is why nothing changes. Until we confront our ills we'll forever be stumped by them. The conversation about slavery etc... is so tired that no one listens at all. It's background noise at best. The truth here is people are hurting from systematic racism and a subconscious internalizing of being less worthy. That manifests itself in what we are seeing- someone proud of their hatred of white babies, etc... A confident self-assurred person would never espouse that. When you view yourself as worthy, you view others less as a threat or a target to hate. Hate is really about fear and sense of one's own worthlessness.

I am not "stumped" by the ills you are imagining.

I see them quite clearly for what they are: increasingly, I see what you call "racism" as a false construct of the left, meant to be used as a bludgeon purely for political gain.

Make no mistake: historically race was a major issue in America. But not anymore. Your desperation to preserve your victimhood status is increasingly pathetic and transparent.

You're quote is so inapplicable I'm LOLing over here. Not sure who you're talking to, but you're probably not sure either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your comparison of yourself to a slave is what is absurd here.

If I post a picture of a rape victim, does it make sense to say, "why would any woman want to have sex again? do you think the woman in this picture liked being penetrated against her will?"

If I post a picture of Sally Hemmings, whom genetics has proven bore children to Thomas Jefferson, does it make sense for me to say, "how could any black woman choose to have sex with a white man after so many white slave owners used and abused (and raped) their slaves?"

How does it make any sense that you married a white man, who is identical in so many respects to the worst of your oppressors, past and present?

You're arguing with someone who is damaged. Moot at best. This poster has the corrupted notion that she's avenging AA slaves by espousing bigoted views of white children. She's really doing a disservice to both. Also, I have to comment on the picture that PP posted. What I see is a strong black woman in that photo rising above the denigration of her breast being exposed. Somewhat like Sojourner Truth in "Ain't I a Woman". This black woman is so much more woman than all of us. And if we could speak to her I doubt she'd place blame on the infant. The strength of these women is unparalleled and our 1st world problems don't compare. Ironically, you have this obviously weak poor excuse for a woman, purporting to be black, attempting to so-called avenge black women slaves. What a joke! Lady, you don't deserve to breathe the same air as them. You're much to weak to represent them. And a disgrace. How cheap to belittle white babies to make yourself feel better. You're just sad and an embarrassment to all of the strong black women who show us what real strength and power are. Hating children doesn't apply.

I never once said that I hate white children. I'm sure that I could be fond of someone else's white child, but I could never love one as my own.

[Anonymous]

My partner is Caucasian and was adopted at birth by parents of color (not African American). So his two "brown" parents raised a "white" child. I always thought it was an interesting choice on their part, but he did kind of fall into their lap. It does make for some very deep questions about identity around the dining room table.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Your comparison of yourself to a slave is what is absurd here.

If I post a picture of a rape victim, does it make sense to say, "why would any woman want to have sex again? do you think the woman in this picture liked being penetrated against her will?"

If I post a picture of Sally Hemmings, whom genetics has proven bore children to Thomas Jefferson, does it make sense for me to say, "how could any black woman choose to have sex with a white man after so many white slave owners used and abused (and raped) their slaves?"

How does it make any sense that you married a white man, who is identical in so many respects to the worst of your oppressors, past and present?

You're arguing with someone who is damaged. Moot at best. This poster has the corrupted notion that she's avenging AA slaves by espousing bigoted views of white children. She's really doing a disservice to both. Also, I have to comment on the picture that PP posted. What I see is a strong black woman in that photo rising above the denigration of her breast being exposed. Somewhat like Sojourner Truth in "Ain't I a Woman". This black woman is so much more woman than all of us. And if we could speak to her I doubt she'd place blame on the infant. The strength of these women is unparalleled and our 1st world problems don't compare. Ironically, you have this obviously weak poor excuse for a woman, purporting to be black, attempting to so-called avenge black women slaves. What a joke! Lady, you don't deserve to breathe the same air as them. You're much to weak to represent them. And a disgrace. How cheap to belittle white babies to make yourself feel better. You're just sad and an embarrassment to all of the strong black women who show us what real strength and power are. Hating children doesn't apply.

I never once said that I hate white children. I'm sure that I could be fond of someone else's white child, but I could never love one as my own.

I don't think you could love anyone or anything as your own. You're objectifying your yes-boy white husband and certainly don't love yourself. Really the white children are a reflection of you. And you don't like yourself. The best thing you can do for anyone is stay away from children- particularly white ones. With people like you around, they don't need enemies.

[Anonymous]

Just as a response to the wet nurse picture- most adoptive mothers do NOT breastfeed their children, so if you're basing your revulsion solely on said picture, it's off-base.

[Anonymous]

I wish o the Asian "therapist" who keeps posting gibberish on here would have a stadium full of seats. No reputable therapist would try to diagnose and analyze people online. The creepers have really turned out in full force on this thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Oh, there's a psychologist that can make me stop feeling the effects of racism? Will they make my white neighbors acknowledge me and my child and stop avoiding us on the playground? Will they stop the white salespeople from following me around in the store? Will they stop the police officers that harass me for simply existing? Will I finally be able to catch a cab now?

You're projecting again. And it's hurting you more than the white people you hate. Instead of spending time on them, focus on yourself. Make yourself the most stellar "you" you can be. This nonsense about catching cabs and police is just a smokescreen. You're trying to find a way to blame others for your life. Scapegoating white infants is especially pathetic. I encourage you, spend one half hour with an AA female psychologist. Most I know offer a free introductory session. You'll leave at least knowing that your abhorrence of white children is just a cover for the deep-seated pain you have for being black in America. That pain has made you as bad as the people who have been prejudiced against you. Bigotry and racism are always the anomaly. We treat them as the norm, but that's the ill within our culture based upon centuries of racism. Actually bigots and racists are mentally unstable. With your hatred of white children, you're right along with them. The good news is, that can all be changed with the right mental health help.

I am a AA female psychologist.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, there's a psychologist that can make me stop feeling the effects of racism? Will they make my white neighbors acknowledge me and my child and stop avoiding us on the playground? Will they stop the white salespeople from following me around in the store? Will they stop the police officers that harass me for simply existing? Will I finally be able to catch a cab now?

You're projecting again. And it's hurting you more than the white people you hate. Instead of spending time on them, focus on yourself. Make yourself the most stellar "you" you can be. This nonsense about catching cabs and police is just a smokescreen. You're trying to find a way to blame others for your life. Scapegoating white infants is especially pathetic. I encourage you, spend one half hour with an AA female psychologist. Most I know offer a free introductory session. You'll leave at least knowing that your abhorrence of white children is just a cover for the deep-seated pain you have for being black in America. That pain has made you as bad as the people who have been prejudiced against you. Bigotry and racism are always the anomaly. We treat them as the norm, but that's the ill within our culture based upon centuries of racism. Actually bigots and racists are mentally unstable. With your hatred of white children, you're right along with them. The good news is, that can all be changed with the right mental health help.

I am a AA female psychologist.

NP. If I needed a psychologist, I would not want you. I am the poster who said I feel inferior to no one. I am not the poster who does not want to raise white children. I have white people in y family. But you are way off the reservation if you think that Black women feel or are inferior to anyone. As I said earlier, speak for your damn self. You state that you are A female AA. And you state that AA women feel inferior. Who in the hell would seek professional help from someone as screwed up as you. Not to mention that just about everything you said is psycho babble bullshit that a,outs to nothing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Oh, there's a psychologist that can make me stop feeling the effects of racism? Will they make my white neighbors acknowledge me and my child and stop avoiding us on the playground? Will they stop the white salespeople from following me around in the store? Will they stop the police officers that harass me for simply existing? Will I finally be able to catch a cab now?

You're projecting again. And it's hurting you more than the white people you hate. Instead of spending time on them, focus on yourself. Make yourself the most stellar "you" you can be. This nonsense about catching cabs and police is just a smokescreen. You're trying to find a way to blame others for your life. Scapegoating white infants is especially pathetic. I encourage you, spend one half hour with an AA female psychologist. Most I know offer a free introductory session. You'll leave at least knowing that your abhorrence of white children is just a cover for the deep-seated pain you have for being black in America. That pain has made you as bad as the people who have been prejudiced against you. Bigotry and racism are always the anomaly. We treat them as the norm, but that's the ill within our culture based upon centuries of racism. Actually bigots and racists are mentally unstable. With your hatred of white children, you're right along with them. The good news is, that can all be changed with the right mental health help.

I am a AA female psychologist.

NP. If I needed a psychologist, I would not want you. I am the poster who said I feel inferior to no one. I am not the poster who does not want to raise white children. I have white people in y family. But you are way off the reservation if you think that Black women feel or are inferior to anyone. As I said earlier, speak for your damn self. You state that you are A female AA. And you state that AA women feel inferior. Who in the hell would seek professional help from someone as screwed up as you. Not to mention that just about everything you said is psycho babble bullshit that a,outs to nothing.

That wasn't me doing the fake psychoanalysis. I'm one of the posters with a biracial child who looks Black, but doesn't want to adopt white children.