The Stigma around AA parents adopting a white baby

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

You are a disgusting bigot and I just hope you don't have any children!

[Anonymous]

I shouldn't have clicked on this. What an evil thread.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Wow, I'm glad my black husband doesn't feel this way. We have two kids. One looks kind maybe possibly biracial, (more like a white kid with a great tan) and the other looks straight up white. I think you better not have any children with your husband. Maybe a black sperm donor?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Wow, I'm glad my black husband doesn't feel this way. We have two kids. One looks kind maybe possibly biracial, (more like a white kid with a great tan) and the other looks straight up white. I think you better not have any children with your husband. Maybe a black sperm donor?

I have a biracial child, and thank god, he looks Black.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Wow, I'm glad my black husband doesn't feel this way. We have two kids. One looks kind maybe possibly biracial, (more like a white kid with a great tan) and the other looks straight up white. I think you better not have any children with your husband. Maybe a black sperm donor?

I have a biracial child, and thank god, he looks Black.

You sound ignorant af.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Brings to mind that Gordon Parks photo from his Life Magazine photo essay...

[Anonymous]

This thread leaves me speechless. The anger and hate are unbelievable.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

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I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

You make no sense. If I married a black man and said "I don't think black babies are cute and I would never want to have on in my home to be "subservient" to. I would never want to breastfeed a black child..." dontcha think someone might point out that MY BABIES WILL BE HALF BLACK???

Lady, you are a really ugly racist.

Depending on her background, they actually might be more white than black. What are you going to do if your kid can pass for white? Will you hate it -- or is one drop just enough for you to love your own child?

Good for the family in the OP who took in a child in need without regard for its ethnic make up. It's sad that anyone has offered anything other than congratulations.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

You don't think white babies are cute but you think white men are cute, considering you married one of them? When you look at your husband's childhood photos, are you thinking "boy, what an ugly baby!"?!?!

It's actually funny you ask this because DH's mother is always carrying on about what a cute kid DH was. I feel nothing when I look at the baby photos she is always thrusting at me though. Neither DH nor his siblings are even one third as cute as the kids in my family. White adults are better than white kids IMO, although I don't particularly like white adults either. I love DH and the white men I dated before him were great, but my feeling is not extended to the rest of the race.

Damn, Gina. I actually was seeing your point til this comment.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

+1

I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

No, I wouldn't condemn them. This is the first time I've ever thought about it, and I'm surprised by my intense revulsion. Now I understand why most of my Black friends are disgusted by the idea of being intimate with a white person. I never felt like that (obviously bc I married a white man), but I can't stomach the idea of raising a fully white child.

[Anonymous]

I shouldn't have clicked on this. What an evil thread.

1+. What a great way to start my morning. A shot of straight-up hate.

[Anonymous]

Both my SIL, BIL, and a first cousin were adopted, so that's three black families that adopted right there. It's not rare for black people to adopt.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I am black and I would never adopt a white baby. With all the unearned benefits that whites enjoy just for being white, they don't need my resources too. I would much rather take care of a black child because black children are less likely to be adopted and much more in need of stability in this racist, unfriendly society. I also don't think I could relate to a white child. I have a white husband, but taking care of a white child reminds me too much of playing nanny to a lazy white woman's spoiled child.

Please be a troll.

Nope, I am not a troll and I speak for most black people on this one. White people have always wanted black babies whether through adoption or outright theft. We don't want your kids though. I don't think white babies are cute and I would rather have no children than raise a white child. My husband (white) knows how I feel because I really do want to adopt after we are done having biological children. We have discussed the fact that our adopted children can be any race except white and he is not at all offended by how I feel. Think about it: Black people spend a lot of our lives subservient to white people when we leave our homes. Why would we want to continue this dynamic in our homes by adopting white babies? The photo posted by PP disgusts me. No way I will ever breastfeed and cater to a white child. Those days are behind black women.

+1

I'm disgusted by the idea of raising a white child. And very relieved that my biracial son looks unmistakably Black.

Would you openly condemn another AA family for adopting a white baby and overcoming whatever disgust they may have?

No, I wouldn't condemn them. This is the first time I've ever thought about it, and I'm surprised by my intense revulsion. Now I understand why most of my Black friends are disgusted by the idea of being intimate with a white person. I never felt like that (obviously bc I married a white man), but I can't stomach the idea of raising a fully white child.

Then I hope your biracial kids don't marry white or black/white biracial people and have really light-skinned kids of their own, or you will be repulsed by your own grandchildren.

I suppose you would think it horrifying if a white person said they would be disgusted by black babies? What makes your thoughts any less horrible?

[Anonymous]

This is a sad and depressing thread. It makes me concerned for the futures of our children when they are being raised by people with these viewpoints. None of you are any better than the white supremacists we all revile...sad, sad, sad.

And for the women who married interracially and can't stand the idea of their child looking like their spouse - you guys have some deep-rooted issues. Please don't have any children with your husbands! You will fuck them up!