Tattoos

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If your kid wanted to do something that you thought would harm his or her chances in the world, unnecessarily and permanently, wouldn't you counsel them against it? It may be true that those who judge people based on names or tattoos are in the wrong, but the fact is that many of them are out there, in positions of power. I'd rather my kid do something meaningful to express his or her views, like create a piece of art, write an op-ed, or volunteer.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid wanted to do something that you thought would harm his or her chances in the world, unnecessarily and permanently, wouldn't you counsel them against it? It may be true that those who judge people based on names or tattoos are in the wrong, but the fact is that many of them are out there, in positions of power. I'd rather my kid do something meaningful to express his or her views, like create a piece of art, write an op-ed, or volunteer.

I'd try to talk my kid out of a face or neck tattoo. But nothing else.

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Anonymous wrote:If your kid wanted to do something that you thought would harm his or her chances in the world, unnecessarily and permanently, wouldn't you counsel them against it? It may be true that those who judge people based on names or tattoos are in the wrong, but the fact is that many of them are out there, in positions of power. I'd rather my kid do something meaningful to express his or her views, like create a piece of art, write an op-ed, or volunteer.

In most cases, I would tell my child something like:
The thing you want to do is fine, and good, and if you're into it and it's not harmful to others it's a perfectly ok thing to want and to do. You shouldn't have to consider other people's opinions, because they really don't matter and besides people shouldn't be judgmental and mean. That said, we live in the real world not an ideal one, and you already know that people do judge and that society is very much based on arbitrary standards we (as in 'our family') consider unimportant, So, the potential consequences of your choice are that some people, who are wrong but are also in positions of authority/power/influence, will think ______ and do ______, and the following are possible impacts on your life _____. I just want you to make an informed choice on whether you're willing to deal with that in order to do whatever you're considering doing. It's a fine choice to make, but part of my job as a parent is making sure you have as much information as possible to make as informed a choice as possible.

Then I'd let them decide.

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I'm a straight-laced girl with a non-tatted husband but let me just say there is NOTHING sexier to me than seeing a younger, otherwise serious and professional-looking guy (especially in my conservative workplace) in business attire roll up his shirtsleeves and reveal a sleeve of old school-style tattoos (not like a goofy crucifix or tweety bird or something). Totally unexpected and dead sexy.

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

If they're repulsed by tattoos, then they're not "perfectly good suitors" FOR HER, are they? Different people are suited for different mates. My reading comprehension skills are just fine, thanks; how's your critical thinking?

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

If they're repulsed by tattoos, then they're not "perfectly good suitors" FOR HER, are they? Different people are suited for different mates. My reading comprehension skills are just fine, thanks; how's your critical thinking?

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I didn't get my first tattoo until I was 45, but I wouldn't date anyone "repulsed" by tattoos, because I refuse to be with anyone that judgemental about how someone else chooses to decorate their body. My tattoo was a six hour long, carefully choose spiritual journey, and represents something personal and important to me. These things are not the same as someone having body oder, as a pp said, it's the same as judging others for a hair style or clothing. It is each person's own body and choice. I'm always amazed at the shit people waste energy judging.
I'm a part of a huge creative community and a large portion of people in it are inked. Some are young and some are older, but all of them are spending time creating art of some sort and many, many are giving back to the community in volunteer work. Times have changed and most of the people you are judging aren't the drunk collage idiots getting a 2 am tattoo. They're actually contributing to society, have jobs, careers, and love. Your lives would be richer and deeper if you took the time to get to know what's inside people.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a straight-laced girl with a non-tatted husband but let me just say there is NOTHING sexier to me than seeing a younger, otherwise serious and professional-looking guy (especially in my conservative workplace) in business attire roll up his shirtsleeves and reveal a sleeve of old school-style tattoos (not like a goofy crucifix or tweety bird or something). Totally unexpected and dead sexy.

Same here (except DH and I have 5 tattoos between us). Was driving and looked over to see a guy with his arm on the steering wheel. It was covered with a tat. Instant lady boner.

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I don't buy the argument that young women with tattoos are more free spirited, individual, and non-conformist. You are the same women who wouldn't be caught without your flat-iron, your blow dryer, and your round brush or your extensions to make your hair long and straight.

Long, straight hair, tattoos, gel manicure fingernails, flip flops, Gap whiteblouse, and a skirt, and Coach bag.

You Millennials are in your uniforms, my dears! Tattoos don't mean you aren't trying to clone yourselves to look like Britney, Ashley, Courtney!

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

If they're repulsed by tattoos, then they're not "perfectly good suitors" FOR HER, are they? Different people are suited for different mates. My reading comprehension skills are just fine, thanks; how's your critical thinking?

You completely missed the point didn't you? It is a rare gift to be so attractive that a whole room will turn to look at you. Why would you want to disgust them with a big ugly tattoo? It's like graduating first from an ivy league law school.... and getting arrested for possession

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

If they're repulsed by tattoos, then they're not "perfectly good suitors" FOR HER, are they? Different people are suited for different mates. My reading comprehension skills are just fine, thanks; how's your critical thinking?

You completely missed the point didn't you? It is a rare gift to be so attractive that a whole room will turn to look at you. Why would you want to disgust them with a big ugly tattoo? It's like graduating first from an ivy league law school.... and getting arrested for possession

Maybe this is her way of weeding out the jerks.
I know some breathtaking women with tattoos. They would all laugh at the idea of missing out on love or life because they choose to have a tattoo. But they're highly intelligent, creatively driven women, that absolutely are different. I'm grateful to know women like this and I am glad they choose to spend time making art and music and writing. By the way, lots of women don't WANT children. The judgemental misogyny and waspish attitudes about this topic make me cringe.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a straight-laced girl with a non-tatted husband but let me just say there is NOTHING sexier to me than seeing a younger, otherwise serious and professional-looking guy (especially in my conservative workplace) in business attire roll up his shirtsleeves and reveal a sleeve of old school-style tattoos (not like a goofy crucifix or tweety bird or something). Totally unexpected and dead sexy.

Same here (except DH and I have 5 tattoos between us). Was driving and looked over to see a guy with his arm on the steering wheel. It was covered with a tat. Instant lady boner.

And here is the perfect example of the intellectually profound and articulate type of people who are into tattoos. You sound like a teen.

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Anonymous wrote:I was just thinking about this question tonight at dinner. Wife and I were waiting for a table and in walked this stunning female in her early twenties And dressed to kill. As most of us guys were checking her out simply because of her beauty, she turns around and has this huge tattoo of angle wings on her back.
You Could tell everyone was thinking the same thing as I. What a waste of a body on someone who's already lucky enough to be a 10. How do females think they'll look when they reach middle age or old.

What a waste!

Someone else's body doesn't exist to look good to you. It exists to please the person living in it with how it looks. If this person likes the tattoo, then it's not a waste.

+1000. Saying someone wasted their body is disgusting. That's a human being you are talking about.

Ok then wth is the point of a giant tattoo that you can't even see polarizes everyone who sees it? Answer seriously please

Maybe the point is just to irritate you.

A whole room of suitors interested..... and then disgusted. All because you had to get a giant tattoo that you couldn't even see. In your twenties it *might* seem like a good idea, but she WILL regret it if all kinds of good men reject her and she is unmarried and childless at 40.

Or maybe she'll wind up with a good guy who likes tattoos. There are a lot of them around, contrary to what a lot of PPs believe, apparently. Or maybe she'll end up with a good WOMAN who likes tattoos.

Or, maybe she doesn't want to get married and doesn't want kids. This whole part of the conversation is incredibly misogynistic.

Why would you take that risk?

What risk? Finding a good guy (or girl)? Why do any of us take the risk of finding a good mate? That's a silly question.

The risk that perfectly good suitors would be repulsed by your tattoo and you would remain single. Has the ink entered your brain reducing your comprehension capabilities or were you never that sharp to begin with?

If they're repulsed by tattoos, then they're not "perfectly good suitors" FOR HER, are they? Different people are suited for different mates. My reading comprehension skills are just fine, thanks; how's your critical thinking?

+ 1.
I didn't get my first tattoo until I was 45, but I wouldn't date anyone "repulsed" by tattoos, because I refuse to be with anyone that judgemental about how someone else chooses to decorate their body. My tattoo was a six hour long, carefully choose spiritual journey, and represents something personal and important to me. These things are not the same as someone having body oder, as a pp said, it's the same as judging others for a hair style or clothing. It is each person's own body and choice. I'm always amazed at the shit people waste energy judging.
I'm a part of a huge creative community and a large portion of people in it are inked. Some are young and some are older, but all of them are spending time creating art of some sort and many, many are giving back to the community in volunteer work. Times have changed and most of the people you are judging aren't the drunk collage idiots getting a 2 am tattoo. They're actually contributing to society, have jobs, careers, and love. Your lives would be richer and deeper if you took the time to get to know what's inside people.

I work in a creative field too and many of my colleagues have large and multiple tattoos. But I will say that I have noticed that those who are continually getting more and have covered places visible when wearing work clothes, have tended to be those who have dark histories or struggle with mental illness. I mean, hell, myself included as I've been a long time sufferer of depression.