If your child trashes my playroom...

[Anonymous]

Eh, kids make an awful mess at play dates. If I wanted the parent to leave vs. having the child clean up, I'd say, "thanks for offering, but we can handle it. I think DS needs some downtime from the play date, and then we'll clean up afterwards."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I say "oh, no...don't worry about it" when you tell him to clean it up before you go it's not because I'm being polite. It's because I want your child out of my home as quickly as possible. And no, you don't get to "teach him" to clean up messes he makes this way. Teach him to not trash other peoples playrooms in the first place.

This is why I ALWAYS drive my kid's playdates home. So I can stop them 20min before I am ready to leave and say clean-up. And if they blow it off, I just sit there and wait and text the parent the kids are still cleaning up. I have learned my lesson one too many times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP here: board games tipped out with pieces/cards mixed on floor, shelves emptied of toys, baskets of cars turned over, etc. At nine, I think any mess you can't pick up in 10 minutes is excessive, and if your mom has to oversee you to clean it up, I'd rather you just leave. Ugh.

I have had playdates over like this. I find that some of the most anal moms who complain tend to be tone deaf to the fact that yes their snowflakes can trash other peoples homes and most likely because you are so anal they need release. I know because I have to listen to it as I somehow seem to be a mom that school friends like to complain to. Hate this but I am a no drama person so I guess I am a good listener. So OP the ugghh should be on you. You should be checking in with the kids to make sure things don't get messy and the first wiff of mess should not be when the other mom gets in and you passive aggressively say you will handle it. You should also be smart enough to know that little kids and nine is still little make messes. They are having fun and sometimes need some direction that you are supposed to supply esp. if you lose it if your house gets messy. If you keep up the nastiness no one will go over your house.