If your child trashes my playroom...

[Anonymous]

And I say "oh, no...don't worry about it" when you tell him to clean it up before you go it's not because I'm being polite. It's because I want your child out of my home as quickly as possible. And no, you don't get to "teach him" to clean up messes he makes this way. Teach him to not trash other peoples playrooms in the first place.

[Anonymous]

This sounds horrible.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I say "oh, no...don't worry about it" when you tell him to clean it up before you go it's not because I'm being polite. It's because I want your child out of my home as quickly as possible. And no, you don't get to "teach him" to clean up messes he makes this way. Teach him to not trash other peoples playrooms in the first place.

+1! And teach him at your house...not mine.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This sounds horrible.

OP sounds horrible.

Don't be so passive aggressive, OP. And where was the adult supervision? Can't you check in on kids once in a while?

[Anonymous]

How old is the kid? I just had some 6 year olds over and I had to check in with them every so often to make sure they cleaned as they went. But if one of them was out right trashing the room I probably would have told him the playdate was over.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds horrible.

OP sounds horrible.

Don't be so passive aggressive, OP. And where was the adult supervision? Can't you check in on kids once in a while?

They are nine. Adults should be able to sit in another room and talk for a half hour without coming downstairs to find the place looking like the fall of Saigon. (And, no it was not also my child making the mess. He was in tears over it.)

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds horrible.

OP sounds horrible.

Don't be so passive aggressive, OP. And where was the adult supervision? Can't you check in on kids once in a while?

They are nine. Adults should be able to sit in another room and talk for a half hour without coming downstairs to find the place looking like the fall of Saigon. (And, no it was not also my child making the mess. He was in tears over it.)

PP here. Agreed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This sounds horrible.

OP sounds horrible.

Don't be so passive aggressive, OP. And where was the adult supervision? Can't you check in on kids once in a while?

They are nine. Adults should be able to sit in another room and talk for a half hour without coming downstairs to find the place looking like the fall of Saigon. (And, no it was not also my child making the mess. He was in tears over it.)

He was probably in tears over the wrath he knew was coming from you.

[Anonymous]

Some kids take pleasure in the act of destruction and mess-making for its own sake, and OP is pretty clearly talking about this kind of kid. Let's not get all huffy about how kids should make a mess. At age 9 they should have more maturity than this.

[Anonymous]

I think the 9 year old visitor behaved disgracefully. I'm afraid I would expect both parent and child to pick every single thing back up before leaving. I really would. And they'd probably never be invited back again.

[Anonymous]

OP has playroom?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP has playroom?

NP--that's what we call the room in our basement (in our DC rowhouse). What's the issue?

As the mother of a 9 year old, that's totally unacceptable. No 9 year old should be trashing someone's space let alone their own.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP has playroom?

NP--that's what we call the room in our basement (in our DC rowhouse). What's the issue?

As the mother of a 9 year old, that's totally unacceptable. No 9 year old should be trashing someone's space let alone their own.

+1 I would be mortified if my 9 yr old trashed someone else's room. I would make DS clean it up properly. I get mad when DS trashes his own playroom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:And I say "oh, no...don't worry about it" when you tell him to clean it up before you go it's not because I'm being polite. It's because I want your child out of my home as quickly as possible. And no, you don't get to "teach him" to clean up messes he makes this way. Teach him to not trash other peoples playrooms in the first place.

Wait. I'm confused. Did he make a mess or "trash" the room? "Trash" the room sounds purposefully destructive, as in a rock band "trashing" a hotel room.

[Anonymous]

OP here: board games tipped out with pieces/cards mixed on floor, shelves emptied of toys, baskets of cars turned over, etc. At nine, I think any mess you can't pick up in 10 minutes is excessive, and if your mom has to oversee you to clean it up, I'd rather you just leave. Ugh.